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writes:Before my b/f got together with me, he was seeing the other woman who is something like 26-28. She never bothered me as she is in a long term relationship with 2 children by the same guy.Untill however when I thought about the way she had been acting. When she used to come into the shop that my b/f runs she always used to lean over the counter and make a point of always asking if he is happy with me. She is a big girl and always wears tops which are way to small for her but my b/f always laughs it off. He has told me before that he is easily lead a stray as an ex of his suiduced him when he was seeing her best friend a few years back. But it never bothered me as I thought that now he has changed, but this woman is really bothering me and his past doesnt help.Only my b/f the woman and her sister new that my b/f was having sex with her, and the other day she passed a comment that is really bugging me, she asked about him again to my b/f's farther, and he replied that we were happy together. She then commented 'Oh so I have really lost him now then have I?' I need advice! Am I paranoid? Because when I ask my b/f he always gets touchy about her...What should I say to him or do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, thank you so much for your advice! It really helped me and made me feel a whole lot better about everything, just wanted to give you an update, and another problem, I found out thursday that I was 6weeks pregnant with his child. He really wants to be a dad so I had great pleasure in telling him on Saturday when I saw him on his own (finally!)The new problem is, is that I miss carried yesterday, and I'm so scared of telling him. I feel as if I have let him down,Please help, how can I approach him and tell him, before he catches on, as I kept making excuses of being busy last night so I couldnt see him.Thsnk you everyone, but please, anymore advice?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (4 September 2007):
 HiIm not keen on exes that still carry a torch. I think they're dangerous. I think you need to trust your instincts and listen to what they are saying to you.I heard mine but didnt listen to them and there was unfinished business there with my exes ex. You need to know if you are reading too much into it though and i wish i had this place to ask advice on before we split because i might of handled it differently. But the outcome would of been the same, just quicker!If you are getting the feeling he still carries a torch back, be careful!Good luck.C xxxx
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I myself was dealing with an Ex that just wouldnt go away. and it took a year for her to stop... well atleast I hope she has. However it is a difficult situation to deal with and puts strain on the relationship. You really need to talk to him about it and let him know your in this relationship with him and not him and his ex, and that he needs to end all contact with her because it does not make you feel comfortable. He seems to care about you alot so im sure that wont be a problem. But you definatly have to get rid of her trust me on that.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (4 September 2007):
 what do you mean your bf gets touchy about her when yu talk about her? is it an angry touchy or a 'i dont want to tlk about her' touchy. if its the second one then thats great news. Means that he doesnt want to remember there relationship coz hes gotten over her.
and for this lady i think you should speak to her yourself personally. Tell her you and your partner are great. doing perfectly fine and your both very happy with each other and she no longer has the right to try and barge in and ruin everything. She sounds as though she is jealous. and a jealous woman can go extreemily far to ruin someones happy relationship.
Also ask your boyfriend in your room alone with ech other if he still has feelings for her and wether he could say anything to her to stop her being so flirty and etc.
Get this soughted out between your boyfriend first, then this lady.
There is also a chance that your boyfriend likes the attention she is giving him. Guys love having there ego boosted up and the thought that other woman find him attractive flatters him and he will sometimes have no intentions to stop it. but that doesnt mean he loves her or likes you any less. Just tell him your uncomfatable with how she adresses him and tell him to lay off on her replies..
And talking to this woman yourself will probably scare her off
so goodluck hun
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