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writes:I have a quite overbearing girlfriend we've been together for close to 10 months now , we're talking about moving in together (mostly her pressure i'm not sure if i'm comfortable with it yet) also pressuring me to pop the question by trying to get me to tell her when i'm going to do it. We both still live with our parents and since both of us have pets we spend our time together in both homes in turn since neither of our parents spend too much time (work) . I have been methodically stripped of all my privileges from doing mostly anything related to what i want from TV to the next thing we'll do or how long I should spend with friends . She doesn't like neither of my two good friends since one cheats on his girlfriend and the other has somewhat of a drug problem , still it became worse one day when the cheating one came over and asked me if i'll cover for him if anyone asks where he's going (yes you got it) and told me to tell them they were with me in a certain pool hall we frequent. Obviously that made something snap in my girlfriend's head and she started on asking me if i go cheat on her every time I tell her i'm going to that place . Eventually she forgave me .Every time she has a dream about me cheating on her she accuses me of not giving her enough attention.Every time no matter how awesome a day was she finds some minor if non existant reason to get angry.Whenever i'm not around her she calls at least every hour to see what i'm doing.Most discussions where we have a difference of oppinion i'm forced with either accepting her oppinion no matter if there is no logic in it or having it turn into an one sided conversation (she gets angry) .Frequently i am accused of cheating or at least seriously considering to do so even though we have spent the last 4 months as if we were glued at the hip.I am getting her hobbies forced on myself , mine being considered childish or boring and if i don't stop and suggest something she likes she gets angry.We frequently teach eachother things for example cooking or explaining the working parts inside a car . The difference being whenever she teaches me something i have to at least help her do it every other time she does it if not do it myself.Being in different rooms so i can read a book while she sleeps or just to watch different channels makes her angry.Recently i have accepted one of her friends (male friends) invitation for beer and poker and wanted to do so knowing it's one of the days when she works and i assumed it's one of her friends so there won't be a problem. Wrong , first she kept saying i should go pick her up from work instead . I haven't been anywhere without her for the past 4 months so i really needed some away time so i insisted i'm going . When i arrive there (close to the time when she leaves work) i called her to tell her where i am and not to worry but before i could finish the sentence she hangs up and i get a text message , not even a call or telling me in person that we broke up.The next day i was accused of not caring for her cause she felt sick . However there was no way for me to know if she hung up without telling me and not answering any of my calls afterwards.Many of our friends say she'll get over it , her mother says she'll get over it and even she keeps threatening it's over even though i have already aknowledged it so i assume it isn't over but i am unsure how to proceed. Thank you.
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reader, Diz +, writes (31 March 2010):
Diz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's never gotten violent in the past , just high marks on emotional blackmail.
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