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writes: i have a very close friend. her boyfriend of 9months is seein another girl, meaning his goin out places with her and is always round her house.my friend has been upset but they havent broken up yet but today i went to see her and i gave her christmas present. she loved it and than she hugged me very long and somehow we kissed! i dunno how to react, shall i text her sayin sorry or what? i really like her. we're all 16
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reader, Emistar +, writes (22 December 2006):
i think that you shouldn't say sorry, you should tell her to break up with her boyfriend and ask her out. Whats the point of saying sorry if she didn't react and say no. she must have liked you kissing her!
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reader, charmed4eva353 +, writes (22 December 2006):
 You have to remember that your friend is goin through a tough time at the moment and is probably feeling rejected after her boyfriend is cheating on her. id sit down and talk to her and asks if this is what she really wants. More importantly is it what you want and if it isn't make sure you tell her that and don't lead her on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Dr Peter is right, hun. You don't want to take advantage of her in this state and you most definitely don't want to become her coping mechanism as she deals with her own heartache and baggage with this other fellow. Be fair to yourself and understand, a healthy, good quality relationship starts out where two people have a mutual, common interest in each other. She's not there yet. Her heartfelt allegiance is likely, still to her bf no matter what a cad he is. If they break up-she will need time to heal and recover and that takes time. Right now, she is your friend...keep it that way until she becomes ready and available to date again. Hugs are ok...but no more passionate kisses. Remember, she has a bf! Good luck dear and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Well, you'd kinda be taking advantage of someone who is feeling hurt and vulnerable if you pursued things with this girl.
If you REALLY liked her, you wouldn't confuse her more than she already is feeling. Give her time and allow her the space and time needed to get over her boyfriend - after all, they still haven't even broken up and you're already in there.
You're not acting like a very close friend at all, in my opinion. You pursue things now and you're likely to loose her as a friend, or worse, be nothing more than a rebound for her.
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