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*ichele leonard
writes:hi my name is michele and i am 15 years old. well i have been with my boyfrined for 7 months and he is rushing me into things that i dont want to do. how can i stop this from happening.thanks michele P.s please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Tell him in an assertive and emphatic ," NO Way!"
If he ever force upon you , give him a tight slap on the face .
Be on your guard for he can come by the stealth way...
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reader, heather1030  +, writes (18 March 2008):
Don't do anything you will regret later on. You are SO young and have all the time in the world to worry about virginity issues. If you are not ready, then do not do it, or else you defintely WILL regret it later on. When I was 15 I went through the same things and I felt like I was the only person who wasn't having sex. I am 20 now and am so glad I did not choose to have sex at such a young age. Just remember, you have plenty of time. If he doesn't respect that, you need to get rid of him. You deserve a guy who will treat you with respect and accept your decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): ok just remember that it is your own body, you're own voice you should only lose your virginity when you know in your head and your heart that it's the right thing to do, DONT GIVE IN you can only lose it once and this guy knows that youre unsure so he thinks he can weken you and it sounds like he is trying to take advantage of you. youre only 15 and this isnt love dont do it, at least wait till your sixteen, you just wait and see say no and i bet after a few months this guy will have lost interest in you compltely cause hes not getting any off you. I think you should just say no if he respects you and cares about you he will understand. if not, there's your answer break up with him x
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 why are you letting him pressurise you into these things? you are too young to be doing this, and you should refuse to be forced into something so quickly. if this guy really did care for you and respect you, then he would wait until you're ready. if he can't wait for you and still forces you, then i would consider finding a new boyfriend. just tell him that you are not comfortable with all this and that you are not ready. enjoy your childhood and dont let someone else steal it from you. like i said if he cant understand then he is not worth your time.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Hi,
I was rushed into sex when I was 17 and regretted it for a long while afterwards. He didn't hang around for long afterwards either. Just keep your boundaries....and virginity for a while longer. H.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (18 March 2008):
 You should never let him pressure you into doing something like this when your unsure. I think you have been really sensible to refuse his offer and should keep doing so until he gets the message.
If he really cared about you, he would wait also. And its illegal for you to have sex at your age anyways. If hes over 16 then hes probably thinking its by far time to do it. But your too young rigth now and he needs to realise that. Just sit him down and have a talk with him. If he refuses to listen and just keeps pressuring you, then maybe its a good thing to just tell him your breaking up. Noone who cared about you should push you into things like this.
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reader, Silentwisher +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Dear Michelle.
Being so young I would not suggest giving in to him. You must tell him that you are not ready, if he has any feelings for you he will understand. Sex is not something that you should just rush into and I'm sure you know that. You must take control fo the situation before it gets out of hand. Just sit him down and talk because at the end of the day the key to a good relationship is good communication.
Good luck I hope I've helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Well, if you are 15 then you are slightly under age, so explain this to him for a start. And if it us to you when you have sex not him. Never do something that you dont want to do or are not ready for. Talk to him and explain that it is up to you. If he keeps on pressurising you then i would end it with him. He isnt for you if he isnt going to respect your wishes and wait. You deserve better.
take care
x
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Michele:
Don't do anything you aren't ready for, honey. His level of maturity is far behind yours as that is typical of most males/females your age group.
If he can't wait until you are ready and respect your feelings, then he needs to have a pow-wow with you regarding what you want out of the relationship. Hang in there, you can either talk him into waiting when the time is right, or just tell him that you'll have to break it off.
Good luck, you'll do the right thing. Never let anyone pressure you into doing what you know in your heart isn't the right thing. You will shine like a star in the end!
Keep in touch! Gena
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