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writes:dear cupid,My bf keeps asking me for sex, should i say yes or no? I am 13 and don't know what to do.... helppppp Reply to this Question
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reader, *Jay* +, writes (16 January 2008):
 trust me the first time you have sex is not all that... it may hurt a little and i can be uncomfortable (it does get better). Dont rush into anything exspecailly if he is pressuring you. Me ang me bf waited a year before we had sex and we talked about it alot before hand. Only do if your ready and if there is a little bit of doubt you are not ready. You dont want to be one of them girls how say i regret how i broke my virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): please dont. your still only a child youself. you have your whole future ahead of you, enjoy abit of life first, wait until your in a serious relationship and you will then know if your ready.
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): first of all if you did what would you do if you got pregnant??can you picture yourself marrying this guy??im sure he knows his pressuring you and that your thinking about saying yes thats why he's begging like a dog!!he's either just as curious or really wants to f*** you.lus if your only 13 i dont see him trying to settle down with you.your setting yourself up for heartbreak.im not saying i wasnt curious at your age but i know now it wouldnt be smart at your age and you know that too you have a long life ahead of you.dont fuck it up with bad decisions.sex is a big decision.even at age 18,21,and 24.because it has crucial consequences that you and your partner must be willing and ready to handle.and if you got pregnant im sure you cant support a child, i bet you dont even have a job, please dont set yourself up for failure and/or heartbreak.
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reader, Crisy +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Being honest, if you need to ask someone what your answer is then your not ready. If you were you'd know and you wouldnt need to ask. Your bf should understand if your not ready xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): short answer - NOIf you have to ask you're not ready.Take this from a woman who as a girl your age faced the same pressure. And who still regrets it--no I didn't get pregnant but I really didn't know what I was doing or what I wanted. Wait until you don't have to ask us!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): I cobcur with everyone above me - if you're only the smallest bit uncertain, then don't.You're only 13, you've got plenty of time, and before you start having sex you must learn to separate the bad apples from the good ones, that is those guys you do want to have sex with from those you don't. You can do this by stepping it up slowly, kiss, fondle, do some petting, take one step at a time. And if you feel uncomfortable about doing something with one guy, don't do it, he's not the right one then. Axe him and find another guy (don't worry, plenty of fish in the sea) and again take one one step at a time and step it up slowly - this method has a name, it's called dating, and it's tested and proven. And enjoyable.Anyway, good luck, and don't let a guy persuade you into doing something _you_ don't want. Saying NO doesn't make you a bad person, but it will make you a strong and confident person, which is the only way you can protect yourself, and besides, strong and confident girls get strong and confident (a.k.a cool) boyfriends... ;)
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 are you sure the guy isn't just trying top get a piece from you?
any descent guy won't beg like a dog at the tab;e for sex if the girl is unwilling, and you're only thirteen, i'd say wait a couple years, or atleast wait until you've dated the guy a while longer.
if you plan on losing it to someone special, your junior high sweetheart probably isn't the way to go.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 No your not ready, im 18 and im still not 100% sure im ready. I could deal with the consiqunces if i got someone pregnant but, i am planning on going to collage as well and if i have sex and get someone pregars ill have a harder time going throught collage most likely. So yeah at 13 you are not ready by any means to deal with the effects of sex including this and the emotional side effects.
And maybe you should consider talking to him and if he isnt ok with you not wanting to have sex then he doesnt really love you or respect and maybe you should consider looking for someone else, even if you love him it doesnt matter if he doesnt respect u, and some guys who do this stuff end up getting worse when you get yourself in deeper. Not saying all of this will happen, and all of this is true. But most of this is very common for males, and this is coming from a male trust me.
And if you do it somepeople especially at your age will consider you a slut. So my answer is dont do it. And the previos poster is right, its your decision but i dont recomend doing it.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (14 January 2008):
 You don't have to Give... just because you are being pressured into it. It is YOUR body... respect it & yourself. If you don't respect yourself, then how do you think anyone else will.
You don't have to do something that you don't feel that you are ready for. I have been in your type of situation, and if I had to do it over again, I wouldn't of let my "then" boyfriend manipulate me. I wanted to be loved, and I thought that if I GAVE INTO his demands, that it would make him love me. It didn't. He used me, then threw me away after her got tired of me. Then he went on to the NEXT conquest. He threw her away too after he got what he wanted.
I am not trying to be mean, but you are young... what's the rush?
Tell your boyfriend that if he really cared about you, that he would look out for you & what is best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Dear, it's probably not a good idea. As said before, if you're unsure, you're not ready. If he's as young as you, he probably has no idea what he's doing either, and it will probably not be enjoyable for you what so ever. If he's older, it's best to say no. Wait for the time you feel truly ready and think it over well. :)
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reader, always.you +, writes (14 January 2008):
 ducky is rite your 13 and at 13 i thought i was ready too we all do..but if you still have seconds thoughts dont and telll him you want to wait and if he doesnt want to then you know it wasnt meant to be
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