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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for five years and we are getting married in six months so technically he is my fiance. Everything was going so well for me i felt like i was living in a fairytale. My best friend since second grade was helping me plan my wedding. She was so supportive and helpful in every way.My fiance and my best friend get along so well. Because of that i feel so lucky that two of the most important people in my life are good friends. And she normally dislikes my boyfriend Yesterday she told me was was pregnant. It came to be a big surprise to me sense her last boyfriend was two years ago. I was even more surprise because we always told each other everything. She was crying and i could hardly understood what she was saying until i heard the name of my fiance. I was stunned and i couldn't believe what i was hearing. I confronted him about it and he didn't deny it... He was the baby's daddy. He believes we should go on with the engagement.What do i do?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Leave him now, before it gets worse.
Honestly, neither your best friend or your "fiance" deserve you. If both of them can go behind your back and do such a thing, and KEEP the baby, how do you expect to make things work?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 February 2011):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no!!!
Your boyfriend has cheated on you.
Your best friend has stabbed you in the back.
There is now a baby coming into the picture, which means every day for the rest of your life, your boyfriend will see her, and you'll get to see the child he fathered with your best friend. When you see that little baby laughing and having a good time, you'll feel pretty crap.
Also, your boyfriend is now financially responsible, meaning you can just forget house, car, holidays with your boyfriend. He will have to spend something like $200,000 over the next 20 years or so.
Oh, and your best friend and boyfriend will laugh at you, as will others.
So bad is this, that if you continued with the engagement, I'd probably say that you needed psychological help.
If you stay with this man, he will laugh at you, he will continue to cheat, and you can kiss a happy life goodbye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I'm so sorry to hear this. The two most important people in your life conspired against you and stabbed you in the back.
You need to cut both of them out of your life.
That means the wedding is off.
it's really better this way. the child will always be a reminder of this double betrayal - by your fiance and your best friend. This is the kind of baggage that will never go away unless you remove yourself from the situation completely.
you're way too young to be getting married anyway, so this could ironically be a blessing in disguise.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Go with the engagement? And what of your best friend and the baby? He cheated on you and she betrayed your trust. I do not know where you now stand with your best friend but I know that you should be calling off the engagement and all plans for such a wedding with this man.
I am truly sorry about what happened.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Oh my God...are you STILL wondering what you should do???
RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!
You have a cheat of a fiance who got your best friend pregnant!! If you get married to him, and your best friend has his baby, do you realize how INCREDIBLY complicated it could get?? Its one thing to be unaware of a bad situation and get caught in it. Its completely another thing to walk into a snake pit knowing fully well that its going to spell DISASTER.
Get out of the whole mess, call the engagement off, let this man clean up his own mess. Please get rid of him. This might just be the tip of the iceberg...once the can of worms opens up, there's no stopping the damage. You're literally on top of a volcano right now, and continuing with this man, means you're asking for it to explode. RUN!! Let your so called best friend and this guy deal with their problems.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 He is right he should still get married, to her.
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