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writes:Help!!i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and i converted to islam a month before we got together, and were now getting serious.he has very strong family ties and values. i have met his brother in law who basicslly interviewed me on behalf of his family who are in bangladesh to see if i was good enough. clearly in his eyes im not.the brother thinks that "im a nice girl" but im not suitable, im white and my boyfriend is asian, and mixing races isnt comman in his family.i have talked to my boyfriend, saying his family clearly has a issue with me, but i dont no what to do. is this relationship going anywhere, will it survive the prejudice of his family? Reply to this Question
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reader, daglish  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 YES! it will. Its very rare for the boy's relatives to find a gal appropriate for him especially when it comes to his mother. Its even worse when you come from a different part of the world.But take it from me that where there is a will, there will always be a way. The way here is determined by how much love both of you have for each other. I feel you have already showed how much you love this guy by even changing to his faith. Just make sure this guy loves you that much as well before u can accept to continue doing anything else against his family's wish.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (25 August 2007):
You might not be able to do much. Stay with your boyfriend and if he loves you, he won't give in to them. It might be a very trying time and you'll both have to decide if you can deal with this.
I am a product of a white father and a Chinese mother. My mother's family (really just her father) wouldn't accept my father into the family and still doesn't talk to him. My mother didn't talk to her family from the time my parents got married until a few years after I was born (a total of about 6-8 years). My grandfather doesn't talk to my father, but he at least acknowledges his existence now.
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reader, penta +, writes (25 August 2007):
 They're probably not ever going to change their minds about this. You and your bf have some serious talking to do. He needs to be willing to stand with you and back you up against his family, for the rest of your lives. And you're going to have to be willing to put up with their scorn. Otherwise his family will make the both of you miserable. If your bf isn't willing to have your back, you should leave him.
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