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*inicky One
writes:I miss my ex so much, though, I feel he doesn't of me. We have been separated for three years(haven't seen each other since) and only spoken on blue moons(very rarely). He has mentioned to me that he has a lot of pictures of me and that he thinks of me all the time. I was like "really? I can't tell 'cause you never text or call." He says he's afraid to see me because we have such a connection that he feels he will initiate contact; he is in a current relationship. He doesn't want to hurt anyone; that I do know. He explained to me how he feels the need to be single again. Why would he tell me that, knowing I want nothing more than a chance to be around him again? He said that we will hang out and he's a very blunt character; so, I know(for a fact) that he rarely lies. Can he really miss me as much as I do him?
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (13 November 2011):
Finicky One is verified as being by the original poster of the question Lol, I've read it and I must say, "Wow, that's messed up." I'm at the point where it doesn't bother me, much, when ex doesn't call or reply to my texts; I txt once and if he doesn't respond; I leave it alone. He eventually gets curious and pulls out the usual "Hey, how's life? How have you been? Haven't spoken to you in a min..." - really? He acts like it's been years and I have never txted ONCE. (-_-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): I am the lady of the post Miamine reposted!
I have updated it today, it just goes to proves my point, (in my situation anyway...!!)
Good luck with your situation :) xxx
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 That's me done and sorted.. (smile)
Here, please read this post, I think this lady has something important to say you and me.. (laugh)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/realisation-that-your-ex-is-a-bloody-user.html
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (11 November 2011):
Finicky One is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANKs Alot! ;) I wish you the best, Maimine, and try to be strong yourself. You must be full of anxiety. Tell me how it goes. Good luck.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 November 2011):
Be strong babes.. I got my stupid ex visiting tomorrow and I know exactly how you feel.. I am telling you just what I tell myself. No man is worth heart ache and pain, there are billions of them in the world.
If they want you, then they shouldn't play games. One day your heart will be strong again.
Blessings... I wish me and you all the luck in the world. lol
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (10 November 2011):
Finicky One is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMiamine, Mariab and CindyCares, thanks so much for your thoughtful answers. I won't assume too much because that'll mean I'm expecting something. I just want to be his friend again because i haven't seen him in three years; I can't say I still kno him. CindyCares, you're right; why would he want to be single if he missed me? I really don't want to be left on the back burner or his back up plan. I will act as a friend and not expect much more. I know that now and I thank you all. :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 November 2011):
Maybe.. but he has a girlfriend, so it means nothing. I know how you feel, but do not hope that he will come back to you. You will only be upset and build up your hopes for nothing.
If he wants you back he will say something, until then, he's an old friend who has good thoughts and memories of you and his current woman is the one that he loves.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Never ASSUME ANYTHING! Especially when it comes to guessing someone's feeling for you. If he missed you he would outright say it.
Its also not automatic that because you miss someone that they miss you back...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 November 2011):
 May I be blunt too ?
No he does not miss you THAT much. If he did ,he would not have put himself into another relationship, he would have tried to get you back, and he would not say now he wants to be SINGLE again, the key word here being " single ".
I think he's preparing to abandon ship and he's putting out feelers to find out if you'd be his " just in case ". After all, also being single 24/7 may not be such great fun, and it's good to know that you've someone waiting for you- just in case.
I may be wrong, and I hope I am, but if he does break up and contacts you again, don't assume it is for going back to exactly how things were 3 years ago. He may have in mind something quite diffferent.
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