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writes:This question is for the older male uncles and visitors here. When you were in your teens, did you pressure any girls for sex or sexual activity? And if so, how do you feel about that now? Do you regret it or was it just part of growing up?Thanks in advance for your answers. There have been a lot of questions from girls about having sex or how to please a boyfriend and I just wanted to hear a male's perspective on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): im only 19 so maybe im younger than you want people to be when they awnser this.(but i have a compleatly different perspective on this)
I would never ever pressure a young woman into having sex with me. Why? Because i have been there! my ex used to pressure me into having sex with her when i really wasnt ready to, she used to say stuff like "you would do it if you loved me" "everyone else is doing it" "why cant you be normal" and it jus makes me feel so bad remebering the way she treated me (and i let her treat me like this because i was scared of losing her!) i just wish i had stood up to her and said something like "well if you love me you will wait till i am ready" "im not everyone else, im me" "i am normal im just not ready to take things that far yet" but i will never ever be with someone who treats me that way again they arent worth my time and i will gladly leave anyone who treats me this way.And because of my experience i never have (she was the first person i had sex with) and never ever will pressure someone into doing things they dont want do do. (the thought of pressuring someone or being pressured by someone again makes me feel sick.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses. I actually just asked out of curiousity, because of an earlier question I saw on teen girls giving blow jobs, and it made me wonder how much of it is coming from th girl and how much the teen boy involved is pushing her into doing it. Just sheer curiousity, sorry to have worried anyone.
LJ, you sound like a good friend! I hope that guy backed off into the next continent!
Deema, Waterloo, thanks for your concern, there's nothing to worry about other than an overactive curiousity factor.
Thanks to all of you for the responses!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):
I've never really pressured anyone against their will. In fact the idea totally repulses me.
But I'm 24 and the older I get, the more aggressive I get. I've done more pressuring now in college than I ever thought I would back when I was in high school.
Girls always say they don't want to be pressured, but I got tired of watching them pass me over for guys who come at them aggressively. Girls definitely say they want one thing but most of them reward the opposite.
I guess I'm no longer as patient as I used to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): I'm not sure how much older you're looking for since I'm only 25 but I've never and would never pressure a woman to have sex.
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Well in my high school, there were plenty of easy girls so that pressuring was never necessary...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Sorry, i'm not a guy, but i was pressurised into sex by a couple of bf at separate times of course and i managed to fight them off on both occasions, so there are a lot of guys out there just keeping stumph. I know because it certainly happened to me, and i ended up kicking them in the bloody nuts. Have you had a bad experience??
take care
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reader, AkasunaNoSasori +, writes (16 May 2008):
 No, I never have, mainly because I never dated when I was a teen
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): May as well throw my 2 cents in :]
I know a guy (aged 17) that tried to pressure my best friend into sex, it was actually really bad because it was the last thing she wanted and she was a shy person, so felt like she couldn't back out. Fortunately, she told me before things got too far. I went right over to him and slapped him across the face as hard as I could, telling him to leave her alone or be prepared for hell.
Not like I could do much! But that certainly scared him off.
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reader, Deema  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Why do you ask that question? Was it a bad experience for you? I, personally, don't think boys of that age would necessarily even consider it to be pressuring - they are just so damned horny at that age because its all very new and exciting to them, I think they'd see it as pretty normal. But not being a boy I don't know. I get the feeling you're looking for someone to give you a reassurance about something that happened to you or someone close to you. Forgive me if I'm wrong.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 May 2008):
 No, sure did not. I was too shy, and let the girl make the first moove.
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