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writes:I recently started dating a guy 2 months ago. We immediately hit it off and started spending a lot of time together. About 2 in a half weeks ago, he ended up moving out of the state back to his parents house since his brother had been murdered about 7 months ago. When he got to his parents house he called me and told me he would call me back. Now its been over 2 weeks since i heard from him, nor do i have his new phone number or anything. He's never lied to me or ever acted shady. I'm very confused as to what to think. We even decided that i would eventually move to his state and we would make things work, but now I don't even know where he is. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): THANK YOU EVERYONE for the excelllent feedback. :)
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Two weeks may not necessarily be a long time considering what happened in his life. When I lost my mother to cancer, I was all over the place for a number of weeks and many things that I loved and liked were put on the back burner. Be patient for a little longer if you can. H.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): If his brother was murdered there will be a lot of grief, possibly supporting other family members. If you can't contact him, try to just sending him loving and helpful thoughts, and wait for him to contact you. It will be hard, but he is the one who has lost a brother so it's probably all he can cope with at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): You say that his brother was murdered 7 months ago, then you dont know what pain he got back to when he got there. I bet his parents are wrecked because of this and that has taken up 100% of his time. If i was you i would be patience for another 4 weeks, grief can take its toll in many ways. If he doesnt get in touch with you in that time, then be prepared to forget him and start again. Sending you big hugs.
take care
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Ah, poor girl.
Having someone you care about move away is always difficult.
Keep in mind that two weeks is really not that long. The lad has just moved interstate - he could well be busy with getting settled, moving things around, etc etc.
If he has e-mail you could always try that. Also, consider that he may have lost your number - you never know.
Give it another two weeks at the most, and then let it go. If he doesn't call you, then there is no use obsessing over it, much as it hurts. Chalk it up as a lesson learned, and move on.
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reader, smilingtear88 +, writes (16 May 2008):
look sweety at times love makes ppl blind. plzz try to b practical and think wise b4 its too late.I know u love him alot. but if he would really have thought u as some part of his life he would have called u back to let u know the situations out there. Best thing u can do it b practical and dnt hope for anything gud. move on in ur life and if anytime in ur life he come back to u, he is ur true lover otherwise he was never urs. b brave and move on. its not too late.
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