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writes:I've been with my current girlfriend on and off for almost 7 years. We are very happy and I love her very much. However, recently I have met a new girl, and this girl has so much in common with me it is borderline eerie. Like the same movies, music, comics, games, we even make the same jokes that neither of us thought anyone else made. The problem is I love my girlfriend and I'm pretty sure she loves me. It'd be wrong to leave her for another woman but is it right to find someone so compatible to me and not even try to pursue it? I have no idea what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Thanks for the pick me ups. That's all I needed.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I certainly hope that you don't leave your girlfriend. Seven years is a long time to invest in someone just to break it off with them because you've "found someone with similar interests". You don't know what it would even be like to have a romantic relationship with this other girl. What has your girlfriend done wrong? You say you love her, but I'm not sure you do. If you're willing to give up everything you two have for some girl who likes the same things you do. Do what you want, but I'm pretty sure everyone, and even yourself after a while, would agree that it would be a HUGE mistake.
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reader, PM  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 To me, "similar interests" by no means is the same as "compatibility." Simply because you like the same things, does not mean that you're compatible.
You've been in a relationship for a long time now, so you know that it takes a long time to get to know someone and that even after you've known them for a while, you will continue to find out things about them.
The fact is, you've only just met this other girl and you know only the most superficial things about her. You have no idea how she behaves as a girlfriend; what she would do, how much she would want to see you, whether she's the jealous type, how she handles jealousy, how she handles conflict, etc.
In the end, your reason for leaving a relationship should not be because you want to be with another woman, but because you find the relationship unsatisfactory. Leaving one relationship to chase a potentially better one is the recipe for a lot of lonely nights.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (3 October 2010):
I have a friend that had the same problem, but he was going through problems with his girlfriend as well which allowed him to break up with her. The other girl was more for him and he has been with her for a long time.
It's your choice, but you should understand that things may not always work out and sometimes it does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): i feel you maybe making a huge mistake u must have some kind of compatibility with your current girlfriend 7yrs is a long time to be with someone you feel is not conpatable with you,you say your happy yet you want to leave her for another woman whom you think your compatable with just because you say you like the same music,games etc that is not a reason to end your relationship tread carefuly you might just live to regret your decision
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Never break three things in life- Promise,Trust and relationship. These are what which makes a man.
Best Wishes.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (3 October 2010):
trust me man compatability means nothing. your just comfortable with ur girl and i understand that. but if it sint broke dont fix it...u love her and she loves u, dont mess that up..cuz if u leave her, sooner or later u will be wondering how she is and thinkin about her..besides being with some1 exactly like u is frustrating..the other girl sounds like a perfect friend...good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): If your current gf is a good woman and you leave her...I am certain you will regret it. It maybe years from now...but believe me you will. If it isn't broke why fix it? You stated you loved your gf, but you never stated that you were deeply in love with her which is why you have this wondering eye. If your gf is a great woman you should be madly in love with not, not pondering about whether or not to leave her for someone else. It would do you right for her to find out about this and leave YOU!.
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