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writes:I've been with my current girlfriend on and off for almost 7 years. We are very happy and I love her very much. However, recently I have met a new girl, and this girl has so much in common with me it is borderline eerie. Like the same movies, music, comics, games, we even make the same jokes that neither of us thought anyone else made. The problem is I love my girlfriend and I'm pretty sure she loves me. It'd be wrong to leave her for another woman but is it right to find someone so compatible to me and not even try to pursue it? I have no idea what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): it sounds to me you dont truely love your girl like you say you do, cause you would not be even tempted with this girl, i believe if a man loves you truthfully would not even think of leaving you, my ex left me cause he thought the grass was greener, thought this girl was great i had my suspissions too but he use to say i was paronoid, until after he left me he told me he thought he had feelings for her, and thought she was great and kissed her, i think he did other things but he did not admit to that, so this ended us i could not forgive, and now he feels he learnt his lesson, cause this girl he thought he wanted to be with, she sort of puts it around if you know what i mean he found that out, begged me to get back with him but no way once bitten twice shy that was 3 years ago, i am now with a lovely man who thinks the world of me and makes sure i know that, and he made it clear when we first met i ever cheated no second chance, and i would not even think or cheating on him ever i talk to guys if i have to, but i am not thinking to go off with them cause i truely love my man, and its LDR as well so have to be loyal, honest and committed and that i am, so think twice before you take on the very what you say compatiable girl, cause my ex thought that and he knows he lost something very dear to him, and the man i am with now has gained it, now all in all i think it is wrong timing wrong place with this compatabiliy girl. good luck..
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (3 October 2010):
well it sounds to me like you dont love your girlfriend as much as you're trying to make yourself believe you are because you wouldnt even condsider going off with someone else. You have to pick its your choice but dont string both of them along
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Wow. In my opinion? Leave her...
She deserves someone who isn't going to get wandering thoughts every time a girl comes along that they get along with.
This is just depressing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): One line of advice:
That is wrong, absolutely wrong and you also know it. you are not looking for advice but for approval.
Backoff Dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Hey bud!
Glad you came forth with this. Sounds like youre in a dilemma. I'll tell you now. Sure you may have some common interests but this doesnt make you compatible necessarily. Interests are the surface of ones personality and you dont really get to see their true colors and how they are in every day life unless youre with them. She could be totally different than in some important ways and that could affect things. She could also be great and wonderful. Ive learned that what you see on the surface isnt the same as whats underneath...like jello chocolate pudding lol that first layer can be dynamite then under, its not bad, but different than the first layer.
My advice: Get to know her a bit more personality wise like religion, ethics, morals, values, etc. all while maintaining your current relationship but move it to open, not exlcusive. Youre young, wanna keep your options open, and dont feel committment should be big esp if youve been off and on. Logically, it makes sense for you guys to be open imo. Keep her as a friend and know your boundaries tho. Just cause youre in a open relationship doesnt necessarily mean you can get with her intimately. Discuss that with your current girl and establish boundaries. This can be tricky but playing the open relationship card could help weave your way thru into getting to know this other girl. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): I myself am in the same situation and im tempted but i know that the sex could never be as good as it is with my girlfriend,even in past relationships i thought the sex was good but the sex i and my girlfriend have just gets better and better and that truly does satisfy an take away any thoughts of leaving her
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