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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, and lately I've noticed some changes. I'll shorten this as much as I can.. He's kind of addicted to an online game, and I think that's where all of his problems come from. He gets upset at his family very easily because of his game, and it concerns me. Our relationship is going under as a result of this. He's even gone so far as to tell me I'm "a waste of his gaming time." It hurt, yes, but I still care so much about him and I'm really worried. The game is interfering with his school, I can tell. On top of that, with our relationship kind of dying, I've discovered something that really bothers me... I've developed feelings for his best friend.. And I have a minute thought that he also feels something, though I can't be sure. I have no idea what to do. I've always been the kind of person to follow my heart, but I'm just restrained by the fact that I could ruin a friendship for my selfishness, and that's absolutely not acceptable.I won't go too much into detail, because I know people will get bored reading some huge wall of text, but just know that I do care about my boyfriend, even if the feeling isn't mutual. And although I'd like to get closer to his best friend, as he's been quite comforting and considerate of me, especially when my boyfriend is a little.. less of a boyfriend.. I know I can't.So, what exactly should I do?Should I keep on trying with my boyfriend? Let him go? Keep in mind that even if we break up, we're staying friends; best friends, in fact. We've agreed to that, because we're already so close.And what about his best friend? Ignore him entirely? Would that be rude?
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 You are very young and still have alot of life to live, so a mutal break up is not so bad. So strange though how you both can stay such close friends after a relationship
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reader, Kazzi +, writes (3 October 2010):
Kazzi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for your help.
Unfortunately, we have just recently broken up. But it was mutual, so it's okay. He even said that the 'spark' was completely gone and he basically only loves me like as a family member. It hurts a little, but I guess I don't feel that spark anymore either.
But because the relationship ended so gracefully, we're staying best friends, since we already know each other so well.
Thanks again.
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (3 October 2010):
Often when people pull them self away from others it's usually a place of comfort for them away from their problems, maybe you should be more concerned about his feelings and problems before you think too deeply about yours.
Because it's not you who is the problem, so please think of maybe he is going through trobles. I used to game alot online... and i mean alot I've recorded over 1000 hours in just one game... that's not alot for a hard core gamer and every time i played it was always a moment to get away.
I don't believe that words speak louder than action, especially when you are dealing with young people, so i think you shoudl leave him, give him a wake up call, it sure would change things when you have another boyfriend and the jealously starts to kick in for him.
I don't what-so-ever think you should leave him for his friend! this is a bad move, it will not just be kept between you 3, because when the friendship breaks down and the slinging war starts (who has the girl) you will feel like a someone's property and there sure will be some online post about you being stolen and being someone else girl. Just to get one over the other, there will probably be some sex related post too.
Don't do that, things about you stay online forever....
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (3 October 2010):
Is it Starcraft2 or WoW? Either way, he will be into his games far more than into you. You have to talk to him, face to face when he is not in front the pc and say what's really been bothering you. He'll prolly try to brush it off but tell him that you are serious because the relationship has been stagnant. No one says he can't play video games but he does have other responsibilities in his life. Judge him from his reactions and decide from there if you want to break up with him or not. Don't cheat on him though, no one deserves that.
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