I've tried everything for 2 years and I STILL can't get over my ex!

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

ok, so let me start off by saying what i've already tried. and this isn't to bash anyone's ideas or advice because trust me i really need them. I've tried hanging out with friends, visiting family. i even moved back in with my mother and am going to a college nearby. I've tried erasing everything i had of him, letters, pictures...EVERYTHING. i've tried convincing myself that it was good that the relationship ended and that my heart needs time to heal and in the end i'm at the point where i feel like u say it i've already tried it....i can't get over my ex. it's been 2 years about and i still think about him all the time, i still find myself daydreaming about the life we were planning before everything happened. Anyway no matter what i try or who i'm with i'm always thinking about him (and formally...i was the one that broke off the relationship) anyway after a bit of time, i talked to him again...it started out as a hello and ended with me asking if he missed us. he said yes and that he was a jerk for the way he's been...anyway i asked him after that if he still thought that and if so then did he ever think about trying again and he just never responds, and i feel like i'm deluding myself or something because i still want to be together with him. even with the distance barrier. people keep telling me to get over him there's someone more worthy for me out there. so i'm guessing that i need to get over him, though i still have no idea how. i've done everything people have adviced me to, i've done everything i can think of and i still can't let go of him. he and i are friends on FB recently and as pathetic as it is, i still look on his profile to see if he's found someone else and everytime i see a girl that he's paying just the tiniest bit of attention to i get so jealous (not that i've said anything to him) i've tried going on dates, tried other relationships, but as disfunctional as my ex's and my relationship was, i still unconciously start comparing....for example, my friend let's call him Will...he's extremely sweet, he never just stops talking and avoiding me for long periods of time. we have so much in common and he genuinely cares about me...as far as i can see he has no major bad points like my ex....yet i don't want this amazing guy. i want my ex, even if he kept putting me through hell when we were together. i don't even know what's wrong with me. i told Will that i wasn't ready for a relationship at the moment, but i feel terrible telling him that old cliche line "it's not you it's me"

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