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writes:Hey everyone...I have a big problem. Im truly in love with my teacher. I know, I know, you are all going to say "no no, its a crush" but its so much more than that...trust me. I fell head over heels over him when we first started talking. I can tell him anything, he knows everything about me. But the problem is...he is married with kids. And I know, it would be wrong to do anything with him, but I want him so badly. I guess I should realize that what is meant to be will be, but I dont want to wait anymore. He is older than me, alot older, but I dont even care. I dont really need "help" I just want to know if anyone else is in this position, and I want to know if anyone has ever gotten their teacher that they fell in love with.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): What a good article, anon female below me. I hope it is well read by young teen females everywhere, who are experiencing this. Thanks you for posting that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): As the wife of a young, good looking male teacher who is new to the profession, I am absolutely appalled at the number of young girls who suggest breaking up a happy marriage because of an unrequited crush. My husband has noted how incredibly awkward it is for him when young children (that is what you are) flirt with him, and I came across this post/blog in my search on google. I'd like to direct you to this article http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=512703&in_page_id=1879
It should shed some light on your own situation and remind you that there is nothing more important than just being young, you will never get that back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): really funny we all have the same "problem".I love my teacher since 2 years now..and i really mean love. He knows me better then anyone else i think..He kinda lets me know how much he likes me almost everyday. And he shows that infront of other students too. Since these 2 years there was not a single day on school he didnt talk to me. We kinda need to talk, its like an obsession. When i was in big trouble i could always come to him and he helped me to find a way out of my problems. He hugged me when i cried infront of him..and we write mails almost everyday..he also considers me as a friend yet, i hope we will get closer one day
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): i feel the same way about at teacher too, and thought i was the only one. I guess it's true that some girls will fall for certain guys in her life, and this guy just happens 2 b alot older. Too be honest i do find older guys more attractive and its got to know there more experienced. Prehaps this is why you've fallen for him, because he know how to treat you right. Well that might be true, but it also couldn't be, but if he's married or seeing someone why risk them losing their whole lives - the person they truely love. Do you really want to be the reason he looses his kids, his JOB. You need to realise this, and although its okay to be friends, dont get too close. Soon you'll realise nothing can happen, if you tried something he could lose his job. He maybe very special to you but he doesn't want you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I am in love with a teacher of mine. I am 17, he is 37, married with two kids. Although our relationship is not sexual in any way, we are best friends. I have known him for 5 years, although he taught me for the first time last year. He was the teacher in charge of a sporting activity I take part in. This is enough for me...although I always want more, I know it will never happen, and if it did it would be devistating for a lot of peoples lives. e.g his kids. We hang out outside of school, I even went to a concert with him. We talk for hours about everything, but a hug is the closest contact i get. However our mental relationship is more than I could ever have hoped for. Chances are you will never get with your teacher, but a friendship is definately possible. Keep dreaming, and never give up. Just be careful what you say and do, especially when in public. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Well, it isn't a surprise to me that so many people have found themselves in the same situation as I. It feels good, and, having read a lot of these responses I know that I really shouldn't tell him or anything. I don't think that I am in love, however it's a stronger feeling than a crush. In gym, this particular teacher is best friends with the gym teacher...he'll come in because he has no classes when I have gym. I can't focus when I know that his eyes are on me, and I end up sucking at whatever sport we play. Generally, I'm pretty good at that kind of crap. He has a wife and a nine month old daughter...thirty-two years old or something. I'm pretty young myself, and I agree that this emotion is probably due to the fact that boys my own age don't seem all that reliable. I know quite a few who'll just go up, ask you to be his girlfriend, then not talk to you for three weeks until someone breaks the ice. Whether it be by breaking up or suggesting to get "serious"...however there was never a step before "serious". I mean, mature men are awesome. Immature, overly self-confident boys with squeaky voices aren't attractive at all. This particular teacher that I take a liking too is generally buff. He plays every year in the student/faculty basketball game, and makes these sick slam dunks that only the gym teacher can match. Football coach, and just generally hilarious. However, he's pretty reserved, obviously because he knows so many minors are attracted to him and doesn't want to risk loosing his job or family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): I used to think i was in love with my teacher for about 2 years, but i know you dont think it's a crush neither did i. I just kept thinking i love him and people kept saying dont say you love him u jus fancy. Later on i realised they were right and i knew that i didnt love him. He was happily married and i knew tht i would feel awful with myself if i ever broke that up
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): I am so glad to know I'm not alone. I can not stop thinking about the teacher that I love. He is 15 years older. A complete genius too. But I can't imagine myself with anyone but him. What do I do? I feel as though it is consuming my life. But I can't just stop loving him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I too am in love with my teacher, and realised about a year or so back after he had taught me - it was only when this other teacher got ill so he had to take his classes instead of ours that i truely realised how much i was in love with him. I guess my situation isn't as bad as some people's: the age gap is about 15 years, and hes not married, and he is still my teacher (i got him back in september - thank god, i would have shrivelled up and died if i haden't!). i find him wonderful in everyway, i just love everything about him and he is so handsome too, and kind and light-hearted. there are times when i think he might feel something for me: one time i was in a crowd, and turned around and he was there and our eyes just locked, and hes always nice with me, but hes never done anything flirty or anything like some of you guys say your teachers do, and we're not like good mates who can talk to each other about everything. i have dreams about him; one time, we were talking and for some reason becasue it felt right, i just reached out and took his hand in mine. we were just sat there smiling at each other comfortably, until he suddenly said "we can't", all regretfully, like he wanted it. once, i kissed him in a dream, but it was me who pulled away becuse it was all bristly, but in reality, i doubt anything could stop me. i will tell him though, when the time is right. i think that if your teacher loves you, and you love him, for gods sake, GO FOR IT, becasue i would give anything for him to feel something back. if hes married with kids then its not really such a good idea; i guess im just lucky that my guys not. the way i see it, you can't choose who you fall in love with, so one way or another, i'd let him know how you feel. You might just find what you've always been looking for.
Sorry this is so long - i always write too much!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Oh my gosh! I thought I was the ONLY one. I'm so in love with my teacher too! It seems like the same exact thing, everyone thinks its a crush or a phase but its not! The only thing is my teacher has never been married and has no kids...but we know everything about eachother. I don't know how long ago you posted that, but if it was recent we should talk more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): xD, I have this die-hard obsession with my teacher. He's drop dead SEXY! He recently dyed his hair that platinum color, but it brings out the tone of his skin better, I think. He's a runner, and he's really thin and muscled.
Anyways, it's tough when you love a teacher. He/she is probably years older than you are, and most likely has no interest in you, even though he/she is all you think about. My advice is to hang out with a lot of people. Meet some guy friends. Maybe you wont swing over to them right away, but for the time being, they can take your mind off the whole teacher issue. Go to the movies with them. Go out to dinner. But don't spend the whole time pining over your teacher.
Remember, even if this could be the truest, true-blue love you have ever experienced, being on personal terms with your teacher could get him fired and you expelled. If you really loved him, you would try to get over him. I know what you're thinking, screw this, right? Well, I know it sucks, but that's just the way it is. You'll find someone someday who's a lot easier to catch. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): I am a victim of foolhardy love. *Sigh... man, today, i just cannot believe what i had done... it's almost Valentines Day, and I had this great idea to buy my teacher a petite pastry. I never had thought I would have the guts to give him the pastry...oh by the way, it's a heart shaped..yeaa. I was going to just secretly leave it on his desk, but i didn't have the chance. So I went during passing period, and went into his classroom. No other students were in sight, he was the only one there. So i sheepishly approach him with the pastry and said,"Someone gave this to you...*giggle giggle". Darn it! I didn't mean to giggle, it came out involuntarily....argghhhh!!! then he said,"Wait who? ;)" by then I totally power-walked outta that class... yea. lol crushes seriously..sometimes impair a person's decisions.
I am totally not expecting anything from this...just a "random act of kindness" i guess?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): I'm about 20 yrs old now, and I've been in love with my teacher from highschool... since probably about 4 years ago. She's about 15 years older. Yes, She. A woman just like me. We keep in touch though. I was definitely too depressed to talk to her when I graduated (I had to move the following day). I think I was the only one who definitely appreciated her. Most of the younger highschool kids, and some who were my age hated her because she was extremely tough. But seriously, I was the only one, at least in my class, who challenged her authority yet I respected her greatly. I was the only one who was ever comfortable around her, and she knew it. I talked to her the way I talked to my friends. That definitely didn't influence her to give me bonus marks in class, and I'm glad. In highschool, we took turns in buying each other coffee... I never let her give me a ride home though... my friends would think it's weird that I'm friends with the toughest teacher ever. I went to visit last year, and all the other teachers kept saying " ***** would be really really happy to see you " and I do mean ALL the teachers I talked to. And it was nice to see her. I missed her. I just had a dream about her today and well, I wish I didn't. Midterms are this week and I can't focus :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): I've had the very same problem.
I'll be 18 in just 2 months, just so you get a sense of my age.
Last year, I had the most wonderful Spanish teacher I have ever had. He was adorable, wonderful, and sort of mysterious. I loved talking to him because he knew so many amazing things and had the greatest stories because he'd traveled all over the world and gone to college in other countries. He was just so awesome, and close to my age as he was only 24. I loved him. I mean, at the time I wasn't IN LOVE with him, but I did love him in some sense, mostly just the close friend kind of way, I suppose. I loved his class, it was amazing, and I guess I was one of his favorite students. He always seemed to pay alot of attention to me and call me in to talk to him during lunch alone and that sort of thing. We had great conversations and a lot of fun. The funny thing was, though, that I never really thought a whole lot of it. I mean, I didn't really think of him like that. I never really thought that I loved him, and I certainly never really thought he loved me. I just loved seeing him. Then, in my second semester of his class my life got all out of order and I had alot of problems in my life, so I ended up missing his class alot. I was hardly ever there for a most of that semester, and we I was there, he'd call me in to talk to him by myself and he'd ask where I'd been and would seem really upset about it. Still, I thought nothing of it, only that he was worried about me and being friendly like always.
However, at the very end of the year he told me that he was moving and was going to have to transfer to another school...across the country, and that the next couple of days would be his last. I found myself very upset about this. I didn't really know why, but i just didn't want him to go. He took out a yearbook and told me he wanted me to sign it for him so he could remember me, and I did. Then he asked if he could sign mine. I gave it to him and he signed it, but I didn't read what he wrote, oddly enough, because I hadve this tradition of not reading anything anyone writes in my yearbeak until the last day of school, so I didn't.
Then on finals day, his class ended and I was the last one to leave. Just as I was going out the door he caught me by the arm and asked if we could talk. He locked the door and told me to sit down, and he sat next to me. Then he told me that because of all the stuff that had been going on and because I'd missed so much class, that I was failing. This didn't come as a shock to me. But then he asked me if I'd like him to change my grades so that I could pass, because it wasn't my fault and I really deserved it. It would be his gift to me. This surprised me, but then I realized that he could get away with this because this was his last day. They couldn't fire him. So i said yes. He did change them, and I did pass. Then he gave me a hug and told me that he had free time alone the next day, and would I come in and talk to him again? I said yes, and I came. He was so happy when he saw me, and he hugged me and talked to me and asked me to give him my address so that he could write to me after he left. I did, and he hugged me again, for a long time and told me he'd write soon. Then we said goodbye.
When I got home that day, I read what he wrote in my yearbook(he took up an entire page!). Now I know he loved me. And I realize that I love him too. I miss him terribly and it's been many many months and he still has not written. My heart aches over it. I wonder if I'll ever hear from him again. I hope things work out.
Good luck to you all and I hope things work out well for you guys too, because you are most definitely not alone in your struggles and heartache.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): hi everyone! I am 18 years old and I am so in love with my teacher who is 57 years old and has a girlfriend. I know we can't be together even if he would have no girlfriend...it hurts... I feel stupid because he is "old" but he is so gorgeous... so funny, kind, caring, handsome, sexy... I love him... I am so happy only when I see him walking by... it really hurts... we have so much in common...Thank you so much that you wrote so much about your situations... it feels good to know I am not alone...do you think he can tell by the look in my eyes that im in love with him???????????????best wishes to everyone...!!! please dont give up... I know it hurts so bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): I've had feelings for one of my teachers ever since last year. It sounds so stupid, but I'd always feel so elated when he left positive comments on my tests when he handed them back. I moved away for six months after that, but now I'm back, and I feel the same way about him I've always felt. Trouble is, though, I found out from one of my friends that while I was gone, he proposed to his girlfriend, so I guess he's technically married now. Of course, when they told me, I just waved it off, but it felt like I'd been hit in the stomach with something particularly heavy and solid. Don't think you're alone in this. I'm sure there are thousands more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): I am 17 turning 18 soon and I have feelings for one of my teachers too. I dont have her anymore though. It is weird i didnt feel the way i do now when i had her. She tutored me over the summer and thats when it really started to sink in. When i had her sure, i thought she was good looking and stuff, but now i dont know what im feeling about her. Do i love her i dont know, i can never stop thinking about her. We have similar interests and stuff like that. Although my feelings are strong i know its more of a fantasy i guess i have about her. She has a boy friend(her age) haha i just wish i was about 8 years older thats all. my feelings for her are to strong to want to do anything with her, because i wouldnt want her to be fired or anything like that, nor do i even know how she really feels about me. I know she likes me as a student and i can tell her anything but she has become a friend and nothing more. she will never be anything more than a friend. Thats what you have to tell yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): It’s ironic because we all have this very similar problem and I can only wish that one reply amongst all of these had an emphatic answer. I can only wish…
I’m seventeen years old and in my senior year of high school, and I’ve been painfully in love with my French teacher— who, incidentally, is 22 years my senior— ever since the beginning of the year. It’s not a crush. It’s not a school girl fixation. I genuinely have feelings for him, and they have only intensified due to the inordinate number of things we have in common. We watch the same foreign films, we listen to the same obscure 80’s bands, and we both share the same bizarre ideologies… like opinions on things I thought I was the only one to have considered. Sometimes when I talk to him, all I can think about is that Police song where the girl has something for her teacher, and he kinda has something for her back. I think he might have something for me (according to my friends, it’s intense!), but he’s married and has two daughters he loves very much.
I know my feelings for him will never be requited, but the best advice I can offer you is to seek comfort in everybody else here’s very similar circumstances. Because you’re not alone. Backing off is the wisest decision, as I’ve learned, but it sure as hell isn’t the easiest. At least it saves us from any epic consequences, like nasty rumors or expulsion. As far as your dreams are concerned, don’t edit a thing. The future has a tendency to refer to these fantasies for ideas.
I’m just hoping life’s got some sort of compensation or ironic surprise in store for us guys who will never know what it would have been like. I’m just hoping for that full circle thing...
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reader, ?luvs_it?  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 I am in the same situation as you. When I left the question on my page i thought he liked me but now its clear to me. I think I like him back.He's in his forties.My advice is dont let the secret spill to your parents and most important dont let it effect your grades. Enjoy his classes and be nice back to him but not flirty. Best of Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Oh... I can say that I had pretty much the exact same problem about two years ago. He had feelings for me too. We met one night in the school library... nothing happened, but the school found out... and his wife. I stood up for him, defended him, and what did he do? He pinned the blame on me. He turned his back on me and he hasn't spoken to him since. That's a major blow if you're in love with the guy. Anyway, I have steered clear of that situation until now. Unfortunately, I think I'm falling for another one of my teachers, except this time I'm in college. It's so hard to tell what's going through his mind. What's worse is that he's even older than the last guy was and he's married too. This is a really sucky situation. Who cares if it's wrong? No matter how many times you hear that or how many times you tell yourself that... it doesn't matter. You'll still love him. I don't know what to tell you... I'm in the same boat myself and I still haven't found a way out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): My TA was absolutely amazing last semester. We're only about three years apart in age and he's so awesome. I thought I'd get over my crush during the break between semesters, but I still care for him. I want to tell him, but I'm sort of scared. Is it better to find out (potentially) that he doesn't like me or to never know?
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reader, Lady Aunt  +, writes (27 January 2008):
Yes My mum knew some one who ended up leaving school and marrying her teacher. They even dated when she was going to school. I am in the same position also.But I'm probobably younger and my teacher is probably older.Don't worry about it and if something does happen the wait will be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): hello.
the truth is... the same thing heppened to me...and i don't know what to do.i understand how you feel.he is 25 years older than me and he is also married but i don't care.
i just want to say to you that if you really love him...if you really care about him...you will let him continue his life and you will not say a word.
that's what i have to do.because i respect him.
thank you for sharing this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Someone posted a reply asking "How come all you young girls are falling inlove with your teachers?"
It's because teenage boys SUCK and the quality of men is falling.
I'm inlove with a teacher too but I won't bore you with all my details.
These teachers, being teachers, are caring and nice and can have great conversations, they are polite and trustworthy and honest. Who wouldn't be attracted to that?. I think women care less about looks than men do and that is why they are falling in love with teachers that are older than them.
I think loving a teacher shows that you have good values and you know what a real man is like.
So weather or not you end up with your teacher is beside the point. When you go out and find another man to be with you'll probably end up happier.
Anyway, my point is that teachers are well rounded people and when combined with the fact that you have something in common or a special bond or they are attractive, I'm not surprised at all that more and more young girls are falling in love with them.
And when you compare them with the teenage boys that they 'should' be dating, they look like kinghts in shining armour. Teenage boys are immaure and inexperienced. They think they know what a girl wants, but they don't. Lots of them have massive egos.
Another thing with the older man/teacher situation is that they are stable with a job.
I love my teacher and he is married with kids. I love him and always will, but I'll never be with him. So my advice is to focus on the positives, like you get to see him every day and talk to him and all the good things. And keep your fantasies to yourself, in your head (because you can have more fun with them then).
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): I dont really think ur in love with him... its more like you know an obsession which will eventually fade away... it's not love for sure, maybe u admire him so much that it makes u think u luv him, but seriously u don't... My advice is to admire him from afar... nothing could possibly happen.. I mean, there's no point in risking his job and ruining both lives... + if u'll keep waiting till u reach the legal age in ur country he will most probably be already married... gd luck n take care :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Hi, I just wanted to say that you definitely are not alone, as you could probably notice with all of us replying to your message. :) I too love my teacher. The first time I saw him, there was nothing there, but he really is such a cool person. He treats his class like we were his friends, and most of my classmates love him as well... I'm just not sure if they love him as much as I do. I wouldn't know if I was IN LOVE with him or if this is just a crush, but whenever I see him, my heart beats faster than it's supposed to, and everyday in school, I wish I could bump into him and talk to him for a while. Even just a HI from him would make my day! It was also a good thing that the subject he taught was my interest, so I managed to do very well in his class. Because of that, he would always talk to me after class, and we eventually became friends. I'm not his student anymore, but we still talk a lot. I even got to hang out with him in his office because I had to get a recommendation letter from him that I needed for one of my extracurricular activities. We have the same interests, so we're very good friends. He even told me so. And I think I'm his favorite student because one time, he had one of his students with him, and when he saw me, he called me over and proudly told his student that I was the best student in my class when he was still teaching me, and even told him my grade for that class. He called me a "bright student" even though I admittedly don't do THAT well in the other subjects. OHHHH everytime he praises me I get so happy! I LOVE HIM TO BITS! And I've told him he was my favorite and for our final project, I wrote him a note at the bottom, saying thanks for being the greatest teacher and I even told him I loved him. Sigh.
I'm in college... so I don't think it's illegal or anything to be with my former teacher. We are 8 years apart, but I could never imagine being with him in that way. It would be way too embarassing, and I think I could only like him in a crush kind of way forever... haha. But I'm happy enough that he considers me as one of his good friends rather than just his student! lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): haha this is so crazy how so many other people have the same feelings. I guess it's not uncommon anymore... I thought I was crazy. My teacher is 34 and I am 15, and I really like him... A LOT. I don't really know what to say about this, but I've liked him for almost a year now. But here's the problem... he is engaged.
Honestly I think we see each other more as "friends" more than student to teacher. The class that I am in is more like a club I suppose, and everyone in this "club" also really like him, as a person. And one girl I know of also used to like him, until she found out he was engaged. I guess I'm going to just have to get over it, but man its hard. He's cute, funny, and has a fabulous personality. I feel as if I can just be around him and be myself. I don't have to do anything out of the ordinary to try to "impress" him at all... It's weird.
It's like he's a friend to me. We even talk about things friends would talk about. His former students still love to visit him, and I've actually gotten to know several of his former students really well because they visit all of the time. I've been in his car, and he's even given me rides home. One of his former students told me that when he first got the job, his former student who was in college, (he was 25 or so), had an intimate relationship with him, and as far as I heard, they were even engaged.
He jokes around with me, and laughs with me. He just seems ageless to me. But I really know I shouldn't get involved with him because I am putting the rest of his and my life at stake, and not to mention his love with his fiancee. I really shouldn't get involved with it, but I still can't help but to fantasize about things we could do together. Running away together... I just need to put myself into realization! It's so hard though... so hard...
I don't know about you guys, but I've been looking over the internet for help with his and I found this, is that what you guys did? I guess I'm definitely not alone here.
And for all of you guys who have actually gotten involved with you teacher, I really wish I could do the same... But then again when I think about it... I think that I would dislike him some because he broke his own Code of Ethics as a teacher to do something with a student... and it'd make me think... am I really the only one? I don't know, I still can't get over this infatuation. I suppose it's not love. Just infatuation...
But man, I'm so glad I'm not the only one here. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): Hey u all.He is 36 and i'm 16.Otherwords 20 years difference.He is my math teacher and i want him so bad.The point is that he isflirting me in a way that's only between us.He stares at me,he asks other teachers bout me and talks to me all the time.It'sobvious that he likes me too and that i understand by his look,,,it's like we say with our eyes everything we can't say a loud,,,i know he just thinks i'm attractive or so but in a way he shows more than that...i hope i could talk to one of u everyday and tell u all the news...good luck girls
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Hey, I just wanted to let you know that you are most definitely not alone. I have seriously fallen in love with my Chemistry teacher. I started having feelings for him from the first day, and that was more than a year ago. Since that time, my feelings have only deepened, and now that I'm a senior in high school, I am beginning to think of what it's going to be like when I no longer see him in college.
Now, I am 17, and the person whom I speak of is probably around 55. I know this sounds wierd, perhaps gross, to some people, but it is his persona that I have fallen in love with (this, in my opinion, is more important than appearance and such, although he isn't bad looking even at his age). He is simply an all-around wonderful person with many interests and talents, a tremendous sense of humor, a gentle disposition, and a kind heart. This man represents the type of person that I have been dreaming about since I was a little girl, fantasing about my 'prince.' I have told my friends and family that he is my barometer for when I am older and am searching for a husband. I only hope I find a younger carbon-copy of him!
Fortunately this year I have no class during the same time that he does not teach one. Every day I go to talk to him, just him and I, and it is one of the most relaxful experiences in the world. I look forward to speaking with him every day and my heart always skips a beat or two each time I walk towards his classroom.
I think that one of the true signs of being in love and not just having a crush, is the fact that you are comfortable with the person. If you just have a crush on someone, you always feel anxious around them and feel as if you need to be better than you are in order to impress them. If you are able to feel at ease and just be yourself with someone, have them do the same, and have a wonderful time in the midst of it all, that is a true sign of love, because the basic foundation of it is a comfortable friendship. Also I feel that my liking for him cannot simply be a crush becuase of his stage in life, the fact that he's about 55, married, with two children, one of whom is already married, and the fact that there is no conceivable way that I will ever be able to 'be with him.' I repeat, it is his character that I am in love with.
I am glad that I have found this website because it is comforting to know that others share my feelings. I hope this discussion has helped give you some perspective on your own situation. Our tasks now are to resolve the conflict of this situation within ourselves and to hope that we each find another who fits our 'ideal.' Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Well, I'm sort of in the same position. I fell head over heals for my female teacher a few years ago. She's 15 years older than me, and it's way more than a crush. But you just have to accept the fact that it may just be an infatuation, and try and find someone else.
I know it hurts, believe me I try and find any way possible to be with her. But now I have a wonderful girlfriend who is my age and who loves me back. I still love my teacher, but I love my girlfriend too. Sometimes you just have to chose who is going to be better for you in the long run, and who you can actually be with, and try and forget the other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): What is happening in our world that all you teenage girls are falling in love with your male teachers? How could you possibly be in love with a man who is in his 40s or 50s? I do not understand this at all!!! I even posted this question and the moderators wouldn't post it because the said the topic was inappropriate for publication. But here are all you girls saying you are in love with your male teachers, and your messages are all over the place. What is up with that???????To all you women who have posted replies here about how you are in love or were in love with your male teachers, could you really see yourself in a relationship and having sex with such a man? What could you possibly find sexually attractive about a man who is old enough to be your father, or even your grandfather?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I'm also in the same boat... but my problem is that there is about a 30yr age gap. I know I can't do anything, so I'm writing a fictional story about a student-teacher love that does work... maybe he'll see it someday. Anyway, good luck and be careful! ^.^ best regards!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): i can totally relate to you. im an ex student and i love my english teacher from high school. ive graduated for a year now, and i miss him terribly. i know nothing is ever going to happen between us, but feelings cant be helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): Yeah, I'm in the exact same position.
My science and social studies teacher is like, the love of my life.
My locker is only a few feet away from his classroom and he always comes out to talk to me, but never any other students.
I always get butterflies in my stomach when he talks to me.
I have his classes twice every second day and their my favorite classes.
I think he might have a feeling that I like him though, because everytime I glance over at him he smiles and he makes sure everyday that he makes a conversation with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Hey, I have the same feeling about my teacher. He is also way older than me, although he's not married or anything. My advice is to drop it. There's no point in risking your education or ruining his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): i love my teacher, i love her SO much its like someone else i read, i get jelouse of tha other students. i want to be thefavorite student. i am a girl and i am not a lesbian. i love her stll thought. and i always wish that she was my mum. she always cheers me up and it may just sound like the normal thing but it is not because i live in care and when my social worker gets involved then things become hard and i hate it. so i can not really do much.
everyday i always find a reason to see her
i always write her name (her nickname i gave her) all over my book
i always tell her everything
i always respect her like she was my mum.
she is always the first to know about anything and everything. even if this something happened at the start of the summer holidays.
she is there for me when even but the thing that hurts so much is that i cant tell her
im scarde of what will happen.
i think she know a little of how i feel about her but not everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): i know what you mean. hes 15 years older but it doesnt seem to bother him. its not a phase. he treats me differently in just the way he looks at me. he helps me through everything. when he walks into a room it makes me feel better. i know he likes me too. he jokes around a lot saying things to me but i actually think he means it. i do love him. i think i always will. its too special to be just nothing
and he knows it. but if i we wait , you never know what will happen between us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): I've had the hots for my teacher since last year, when I had his class. I'm seventeen and he's in his early forties.
Crazy, eh?
When I am thirty he'd be closing in on sixty...Erg. But he is gorgeous.
A: His ass looks amazing in everything he wears.
B: He has the most gorgeous smile and laugh.
C: He's actually smart. I get so tired of boys my age, and their nonsense.
D: He's got a very sarcastic and witty sense of humor, which I find very attractive in a man.
E: He's always there for me. Always there to hold me if I just need to cry. Literally. The simple fact that he cares about my emotions is very attractive.
A few days ago, after school, I went to see him. I'm not in his class any longer, but almost every day I go to see him for a chat.
WELL. I was sitting next to him at his desk, drawing, because he's a really good artist, and he was helping me figure out my proportions...
I had been drawing for around ten minutes, the both of us in silence...when I turned to look at him to ask him a question.
He was about....four inches from my face...staring at my lips.
My heart skipped a beat. I froze, my lips parted, tongue tied to the question I had planned on asking.
I managed out his name, in a husky whisper.
His eyes ran across my mouth as I said it.
"Mmmm?" He questioned, not really paying attention to my words.
"...is...there something interesting on my mouth...?"
I was smirking, knowing he was eyeing me in a most unprofessional way.
"No...." He was still staring at me.
"Is there something /wrong/ with my mouth?" I whispered, moving closer to him an inch. Wrong move.
His eyes flickered up to mine, and he froze, like a deer caught in the headlights.
The headlights of a train.
His words stuck in his mouth.
I moved another inch closer. So close. I could almost taste the peppermint he had been sucking on moments before.
"You...have....a very lovely mouth. There's nothing at all the matter with it...very....pretty."
He swallowed, his voice rasping in a husky tone. He moved back a few inched, before leaning in a moment.
The moment of decision.
He scooted his chair back, and leaned back, away from me.
"...sooooo. How're you doing in literature this year?"
He changed the subject. Damnit. Foiled.
Maybe by the time I graduate I'll have him.
Haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): I'm in love with one of my teacher too (because she is honestly perfect)... only a lot lot more awkward than your situation. It really hurts, and I get dead jealous over some other students at times. Mine is 99.9% impossible, and being just "her pet" is enough for me. What I'm trying to do now is just looking at her and letting time pass by and try to find a more suitable partner. Your situation seems a lot more solid than mine... If I were you, I would wait and see if I can forget him, because love doesn't really "last", and if I can't, I'd tell him the feelings I have for him. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Hey! I fell in love with my Technology teacher when he first taught me. He was so witty and sarcastic, looked amazing in a suit, was really hot, and really funny, he always made the class laugh. I was always asking him for help so he would lean over me...sad i know. He's married with kids too it sucks....he left my school though, and i really only get to see him randomly. I miss him loads!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): ive been in love with a teacher in my school for 3 years, its hard to explain really, the first time i saw him i had something for him straight away, it wasnt until i started to speak to him and learned more about him that i knew i had feelings for him. we had soo much in common, we just seemed to connect. there was a point when i could tell him anything. half way through the year i think he realised this aswell as he would start finding excuses up to talk to me, hate it when i was upset and look at me in a way he doesn't look at no one else. now its been 3 years and he doesnt teach me no more but we still talk and there is something there, he hates it when i ignore him and when i talk to him he always sees really happy, and he always seems to look out for me around school, all seems good doesnt it? well heres the bummer, hes got a girlfriend who he has been with for years, but the weird thing is he doesnt look at every girl the way he does me, im the only one and when he recenly found out i liked him he didnt stop looking at me the way he does, infact he does it even more, he even talks to me the same. he gets really jealous when i'm with another lad and he talks to other women teachers and pupils to try and make me jealous it doent work though cos i always catch him looking at me every few seconds to see if im looking! hes only 25 and i am 16, i really love him and i know he likes me too, but what is ment to be will happen x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): I'm 19 and my TA is 23. I think I fell for him on the first day of class. He is so smart and he gives the best explanations. He has helped me with everything; he's answered every question either after class or during office hours. I can't get him out of my mind. I don't know of any girlfriends he may have and it drives me crazy. Logically I know there should be nothing between us ever, but my heart isn't so sure...
I'm sort of dreading the end of the semester because I won't have a reason to see him any more (and he's graduating in the spring).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): It's amazing how many people don't give you the chance to say you love them. I have other teacher's who I've told my feelings for this teacher to, and they say 'you'll grow out of it.' The only thing is I know I won't.
I started High School this year, and it's all girls. I didn't care that there were no boys, but I didn't think that I'd fall in love with my teacher.
He took us for a few classes in replacement of my teacher, but at the time I only thought he was good looking. Now, I am in love with him.
Sometimes I think he's looking at me, but I guess it's just my mind playing up on me. Because he's loyal to his wife and kids, one of the many reasons I love him so much.
I know I'll never have him, but I guess I am actually happy. Happy that he has somebody to love him, happy that he loves somebody. His wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i have a simailar problem. i think im in love with my teacher as well however he is not married and isnt older then 27. i really like him and an chance i get i find reasons to go to his room and talk to him. but i feel like tis looked down upon in soceity and that its really bad for me to like him. i havent told anyone b/c i think its so wrong. but i really think i might love him and i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Yes...I'm in that exact same posision! I'm in love with him! I truely am. I'ts so hard to go to school everyday and know that I'm prob never going to be with him. Because the age difference is SOOOOO much! He has kids older than me.
It sucks :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): OMG, I have the same excact problem word for word, only i don't want him thats the only difference. It's not wrong that u want him though becouse at first i wanted my teacher but then I just forced myself to not want him since he has family and he's loyal (witch is one of the reason's i love him) but i could never have a chance. I don't know what to do but i have a question is right that i hang out with him alot? :P
Thanks for the question im glad im not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): I've got the same problem- he taught me history last year and the year before- I LOVE him soo sooo much, even though he's married with kids.
When I found out he isn't going to be teaching me this year OR next year I cried so, sooo, soooo much. I feel so depressed just thinking about how it's all so impossible.
Sometimes to cheer myself up I try to tell myself it's just a crush, it'll go, but I know really that it won't, I find myself soaking up any piece of information I can about him and his life...
The only thing I can say is that if I truely love him, and I do, soo much, I should leave him be, with his devoted wife and children, even though I know NOW that it's one of the hardest things I'll EVER have to face.
Good Luck, I'm so glad someone else has the same problem.
"Problem" seems a bit understated, really.
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Tis a shame all of us similar people don't always get what we want but, you know in the end we all find our true love...;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Hi there! I know exactly what you are going through here. I am going through the same experience. I had a crush on a teacher ever since I saw him. Well, maybe it wasn't a crush at first. I just knew that he was good looking. But after a while it became a crush. And then, imagine how happy I was when I got him as MY teacher! After a while, we became good friends. We have so many similarities and we love a lot of the same things, and I always have fun in his class. And after about a year, (maybe less), I realized that I was falling for him. At first I didn't want to admit it to my self, but I knew it was true. Up to this point, I have known him for about three years, and I still love him. I remember last year, my day depended on him. If I saw him that day and we smiled or said hi to each other, then I could barely keep the smile off my face. He just always makes me so happy! And he always makes me feel special, especially if I invite him to one of my games, and he comes!
I just want you to know, that you are not alone. Many people share the same feelings you have for their teachers, and it hurts them so badly to know that nothing can ever become of them. My teacher is married too, and you know what? I'm happy for him! At first, I did feel jelous and sad, but it took me a while to accept the fact that he's taken. And after some more time, I just didn't care! I was happy that he was happy, and I just had to accept the fact that nothing more than friendship can come between us. And since your teacher is married and has kids, you should learn to accept it, too. I know it's hard, but trust me, it'll be worth it! Okay, imagine if something DID come between you guys. It might be absolutely wonderful at first, but what then? He's your teacher!! He might lose his job and be sent to prison! You can't let that happen! And his family would be torn apart! It will just ruin his entire life!
Please don't hope for anything to happen. Just be happy that you guys are good friends. I'm very happy that you have someone so special to share your feelings with. And, I don't know about you, but I'm dreading my senior year! It will be so sad, especially since it will be the last year I might have him as my teacher. But then something else came to my mind. After I graduate, I could still keep in touch with him! And you can do the same! And like you said, if it was meant to be, it will be. You and your teacher could end up being friends for life! But please don't hope for anything more! And, trust me, I know it's hard, but try! If you really love him, and I'm sure you do, you should care about his happiness too. I'm sure he's happy to have you as a friend, but I don't think he would want to do anything that might cause him to lose his job or break his family apart. I'm sorry if I'm being repetetive here, but it's just something you have to understand. It will take time, I know. Just know that you are not alone. Be happy with what you have; a special friendship.
God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Oh, I know that situation so well.I fell in love with my former Latin teacher (53 then) when I was 15. But that did not happen immediately, it took almost half a year to fall in love with him. And in these six months I got the impression he was looking at me all the time, especially at body parts a teacher should not actually look at. Maybe it happened because he always let show I was his favourite pupil. But however, it was great, really wonderful to be in love. And then I found out he was married. From that point nothing was how it was supposed to be, everything was turned upside down and I was just desperate.This was when I told him that I was in love with him. He did not actually show a reaction, it was as if he had realized I had feelings for him already. Maybe that's even what he wanted to happen. After I had told him, comments started like "I don't have any feelings for you, and if, we would have to wait until you've finished school, but I want to stay in touch with you when you go to university". I tried to let him go so many times, yet it always seemed as if he was somehow hindering me from forgetting him. He always said he was not in love with me, but still he would not leave me alone, although he could have imagnined this would have been more help. Lately I have been talking to him too often, as it seems, and what I tried to say seems to be a subject he does not want to discuss, and that's whether he likes me or not, thinks I am intelligent or stupid, nice or annoying. He just would not give an answer, and now he says I should stop takling to him in that subject. He does not want me to know, he does not even want me to lose my feelings. This is how it could happen to you if you are not careful. Don't give that person too much of your heart, he will just hurt you. As a teacher he should know what's up with you and try to help instead of getting you into that even deeper. I had hopes and hopes all over, and before it gets worse you should try to let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Look, i don't know how it really happened or what has gone on before but what you just wrote sounds like he's a right perv looking up a young girls dress. I know you're gonna say i have never been in that situation and i'm just a stiff ( one of the things your teacher might get over you the way he's been acting ) but i'm in that situation right now.
i'm 15 and i really really fancy my teacher but he dont perv over me like yours does. it might just be that he dont like me in that way but it also means that he respects... your worth more than a teacher looking up your dress, you could report him...even if he does like you he could do it in a more subtler way... in the end you'll do what's right
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (26 October 2007):
honkifuluvnicole is verified as being by the original poster of the question So its me again. This was my original question, but here's the thing. I began to fall slowly out of love with him. As the year progrossed and the summer and everything, i wasnt seeing him all the time and i guess i just wasnt crazy about him anymore.
But lately we have been talking, I go into his office and we have a really good time.
BUT SOMETHING AMAZING HAPPENED TODAY!
I went into his office, and i was wearing a dress and heels and we was like "wow, you are beautiful. i love tall girls in heels" with his sexy smile. he told me to sit down, do i did. then we was like "wanna play a game?" and i said yes. he threw me a mint and he got one for himself. he said "you throw your mint into my mouth, and i;ll throw mine into yours" and we did it. it was sexy.
then we kept flirting and he was staring down at my legs and well, up my dress alittle.
Then we were leaving, and he was like, "im going to stand here and just watch you walk away" and he watched me and was like "wow, very....elegant"
IM IN LOVE WITH HIM AGAIN!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): im 20 yrs old grl and my mam is 29 yrs i love my mam very much.i love her a lot than her husband and hr kid. she is also very affectionate to me. but she is not making any call to my mobile. if i cal cal hr she speaks. she said tat im her most favourable student and where ever she see me she smiles at me. but i want to get more closer to her than now.i like to hav her always with me.i like to put my hands on her shoulder ,walk with her,talk with her, kiss her(forehead,head,cheeks nothing more,everyday at nite i use to put my hands on my pillow( thinking tat it is my mam) kiss it and sleep. watz tis? is it wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): i feel i'm not alone anymore theres loads of people fancy's there teacher. well i'm also here so sai i do too but its really different!!!. its not jus one i love 1, i love 2!! soo anoyin but my first one was my form tutor! (charlie his name was) on my first day of year 7 (when i was 11 yers old) i had him for form then he was always outside the gym on duty n i always meet him there always sai hi to him!! n he always sai hi bak to me wit a cute smile! :).
Gradually i like him alot we were getting closer! until i realise i was inlove. He made me a totally diffenrent person. He made me hard working everythin i always do i sai i do it for him!. aww i was soooo happy i always ave him on form n smiles at him when he takes off his glasses MAN it makes me tingles da problem is our age differnces! i'm only 12 n hes like 54. but i dont really care my history teacher sed tht fallin inlove in natural even wit ur teacher trust me....
One tym. it was our last da in skool at term 3. it was goin to christmas we had a little party in our form room.
we played music nall cool things . the bst thing was he dance!! lol :D it was soo cool that i started to dance too lol"!!! :D.
I really missed him in chirstmas! then i was sooo excited that it was goin to be the first day of da term but it was really bad charlie was grumpy n totally ignored me the whole form tym n started to talk to paige insted . i wasnt jealous i was never jealous. i was only jealous bcoz he ignored me! :'( i was really sad then i check if he was the outsied da gym but he wasnt:'( i was getttin more sadder evry min.
then tomrow i hope i was goin to ave a better day than yesterdai! but it was worse!! very worse he shouted at me!! :@(i totally didnt talk to him for a while bcoz....
SOMEthin kept botherin me it was another teacher kept lookin at me!! n smilin aww. it was very weird when i was in da stairs goin to da big playground i saw him n caught my attention that by the tym he saw me he cam closer then at the bottom of the stairs there i saw him starin at me! aww that i actaully secretly fallen inlove wit him!!
his name was mr jordan! he was also old (sorry i think i'm a person whos attracted to old geezers!! lol:D but it doesnt really matter) he was a gentleman, i love his voice when he speaks! it makes me daydream about him i want him sooo badly! but i couldnt hes already married n da fact is his son is my science teacher!! lol!!:D hes not old tho i think hes only in his 45's i think??? evrydai i kept wishin that too know him alot!! but tym went on he didnt really ttalk to me he wasnt the sme as charlie n i dont really know him i dont ave him for scicnce oh well i think he doesnt like me... aymore i dunno y??
oh wel... lyf goes on i still ave a little feelings for da both of them!! now i'm in yer 8 i wish i could turn bak tym.....
just follow ur heart but not that far if he gets u pregnantu will be in prison n also him n i t will ruin ur lyf!! besides i also need help xxxx wish u gdluk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I've fallen in love with my teacher too. He is amazingly handsome and smart. He is also funny and I think he feels something for me. He always stares at me during the class period and most of the time, he is smilling. He also salutes me every time we meet during the day. I like him a lot but I think that nothing will happen between us cuz he is 30 and i'm 16. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): omg I love my teachy too!!!! now I don't feel like a prick =D I'm 16 he's 27 and totally amazing!!! but he's the same age as my oldest bro...yuck lol he's still awesome! he makes my whole life better. maybe one day we'll be together but if he moves on and finds someone else whom he is happy with then I will let him go and live our lives no matter how hard it will be. It could very well break my heart but whatever I have to do to let him have happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): yep , me to. My teacher .. its like when he walks into the room .. everything just seems better. Im happier around him , I miss him even before he leaves , I can tell him anything. I dont know what to do .. I know nothinng could ever happen between us but I cant seeem to get over him. I truly do love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Hey,
Yeah I think I'm in the same boat here. My hockey coach really gives me that feeling, its like my heart jumps every time I see him. He's about 10 years older than I am, but up until about, yesterday...I really thought he felt something towards me. He kept giving me looks even when he's not training my team, at lunch, in the halls and at study. He was talking to this other teacher today and it really hurt. He was laughing and smiling like he does when we talk. it just felt too much for something that i didn't think was serious. Bt i dont think he'd choose me over everyone else he knows. He coaches at uni level and also the Seniors...I can only hope and dream!
Good luck to y'all though
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): He was only 8 years older when I realized how I felt. So I stayed well away from him to keep him and I both safe. A few years after graduation we ran into each other, started dating, developed a mature loving relationship. We've now been together 7 years and now engaged to be married. I love him, but I'm glad I was mature enough to stay away from him in school. The consequences and humiliation is not worth it.
Love is patient and love is kind. Don't ruin each other's lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Just try to think what wuld happen if you did do something with him and you got pregnant. then he would go to jail for rape and that family's life would be over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): Well, I sort of have the same problem as you guys. Only I'm a bit older than a lot of you, I'm 21 AND(!) stydying to be a teacher myself! :-S
When I've finished my education I'll be 24 and therefore one of the "young teachers". As some of the people in here have written, it IS a problem if you teacher think of you in a sexual or romantic way BECAUSE THAY ARE YOUR TEACHER! It doesn't matter whether or not you actually are taking a class with this praticular teacher, the mere fact that he/she works at the same school that you go to makes it totally unacceptable for the teacher to do "something". Of course you might have some chemestry with your teacher (after all, we are humans as well and ;)) but as a teacher you MUST NEVER act on a potential desire for a student. It's simply wrong! Of course I don't know you OR your teacher but I could never see myself being with a pupil! I might like you as a human being but that is all. It's a bit difficult to explain to someone that hasn't tried to be in a teachers position, but no matter HOW cute, nice or attractive the pupil might me you (being the teacher) just don't see the person as anything but a student! If you do, you're really just a pedophile as well as breaking the law! It's really harsh when you feel attracted to your teacher, but you have to understand that even though it's perfectly normal and quite human to fall in love with a teacher (most people have tried it) nothing is going to happen!! Because if somehing DID happen, your teacher would be, well, unprofessional! And shouldn't be a teacher!
Saying all this I hope you know that I understand where you're all coming from. I've been a teenager too AND I must admit that I have a slight crush on MY English teacher right now. He is about 30 yrs older than me, which makes him something like 50, and he is a very attractive man. Sure I sometime fantasise about him and me as a couple, but I assure you, IF he were to make a move on me right now (He's not married but I don't know if he's in a relationship) it would actually cool down my feelings for him - because I wouldn't respect him anymore! Right now he's my teacher and I am a student in his class. These are our jobs. BUT I won't deny that I would like him to make a move on me when he's not my teacher anymore. Mind you, he IS insanely cute and we're both adults!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I love my teacher too, he's smart (obviously) sexy and has
a really great sense of humor, he's married with kids and
is 39, i'm only 15...so quite a big age gap. We do seem to
flirt with eachother though, we've hugged and held hands
aswell, as much as i'd like to get over him i just can't,
i know people who have never been in this position think
it's just a phase, and it can't be love. but when your
feelings are this strong... well it aint fake i can tell ya
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): i'm in the same position.
i love my teacher and he's 15 years older
and has a wife who is pregnant!
i miss him and can't stop thinking abouth him.
i'm suprised about my feelings abouth him because
i never thaught i would be falling for him.
but he's sweet, hot, nice and funny!
my advice: as hard as its gonna be try too
think of his bad sides and think abouth other stuff.
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (23 September 2007):
 I know how you feel... Im in love with my not so attractive 50-something year old teacher- and it hurts like hell!
He is head of the music department, infact he is the only music teacher there lol
I love his sense of humour, his personality, the fact he is such a gentleman and that he seems caring and plus... i think he is cute =]
I have really got to snap out of it lol i mean could i make it any more obvious to this dude about how i really feel?
I asked him to try on my glasses (which i hate and never wear lol) and when he did he looked even more hotter and i jsut stood there starrin at him for 3 seconds then i realised that i was dreamin and then i was like yeah u suit tht and then my face went red and i left, arghhhh i wntd the floor to eat me up then lol :P
Im startin to hate this crush that i have for him coz it really does kill me =[
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): Hey, You're not on your own here, i too am head over heels in love with my teacher, i can't stand it when people say it's just a crush, you're too young to know what love is. I am 15 years old and my teacher is 39, married with kids, he's not even really that good-looking, well i think he is but it's mainly his personality and his sense of humor that i like. Teachers can make it very hard, they seem to know how to make students fall for them, good luck with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): you're not alone at all.I'm a completely straight person and married now but when i was younger i completely thought i was bi because i felt like i was in love with one of my female teachers. i remember going into her classroom when we had study and talking to her about my boyfriend and how he wanted this and that and she would relate it ot herself and i was like omg. As you grow up though youre just gonna be like wow where was my head but just let it pass and let your emotion ride it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): I know what you're going through....we're both in the same position. I'm also inlove with a teacher who is 35 and I'm only 12..... I als o want him so badly but I just can't have him because he's married. I want to let go of him but every time he looks at me it's like he loves me too. I don't know what to do...I need advice..hope someone can give me a good advice.I really love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): i no gow u feel, i fancie a teacher at my school, he dosnt no i exist though. U all talk about these amazing relationships but wen we went on a week retreat he stared at me in the airport, and i just cant stop thinking about him, i dont love him but he talks to everybody but me and it just drives me insane. he dosnt no, but i get the feeling he really dislikes me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): i know how you feel, i love my maths teacher,, i wish i knew the answer to your question but i dont all i can say is if you ever get the chance go for it,, i wish i had now he's left and this feeling i have inside rips me apart every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): It is not love and it is not a crush. It is called LUST, I know.
I am kinda in the same boat. Except the table is turned. I am an assistant coach in my mid to late 30's. I an in love (lust after) a girl at the school I coach at. I know it is wrong and havnt do anything with her, but yes the thought is there. Dont do anything it wil ruin his life and you will be labeled as not such a nice girl in school.
I wish you luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): hi..
I am in this position atm. Its my music teacher, HOT! I haven't got him but I really want to and he's not married.
You're not alone. Plenty of people have crushes on teachers. You're not strange for liking someone alot older than you, no matter if people say its weird.. its not. We love who we love and we can't change and usually we don't want to..
B
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): hi i am in the nearly the same position she is 24 and i am 14 so its only 10 years difference and i cant stop thinking about her i think in the future something could happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): i am in d same situation i am in luv with my sport teacher,he is 57 and i am only 14,i had asked him to help me out with my first crush ,my first crush left the school,but by the time i forgot him i was in love with my teacher,it has been one year now and we two are very good freinds i have kissed him on his birthday .his oldest daughter is double my age,and i dont know what to do,i think he too likes me,but we cant help it,icant stay away from him for even a second ,plez help out
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): I am 27 and once had a crush (which feels like love, but when you grow up you realise the difference between the both)With a teacher. I got over it with time.I look back now and cringe when I think of it. You all will too. Spend alot of time with other people, boys of your own age. Thats what I did and I eventually fell for one of them. I have had many crushes since and been in love a couple of times. I have had my heart broken and am still looking for Mr right.But thats part of growing up and i know it will happen one day. But least I havent caused someone to lose there job and maybe even go to prison. The student that is 14 and says her teacher givers her looks, well I hope you are wrong because that would make him a pervert. Please be careful everyone and see it for what it is, something to make your school day a bit more interesting and something to look back on and cringe about or laugh about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Hi,
I'm in the same situation, sort of. I... well, I don't know if I actually love him, but I have feelings for my teacher who's quite a few years older than me. I don't think it's just a school thing though, because he isn't a schoolteacher. I know a lot of people like teachers because they're attractive, smart and nice, and they think they're perfect... it's kind of different for me, though. Yes I think he's attractive, not necessarily on the eyes though, I'm talking more about sense of humour, abilities etc, smart and nice, but I also trust him more than anyone else in the world, including my parents. I've told him things I've never told anyone else. And also, I can see his faults, and they annoy the hell out of me, but it doesn't make me like him any less. I've known him for about 4 years now. I had a crush on him a few years back, and yes I know it was a crush because I just thought he was hot. Then I got over it and started liking someone else. The thing is, I started talking to him loads and trusting him quite a while before I liked him, now that is. About a year back, one of my friends was really cut up about splitting up with her boyfriend, and was considering inflicting self-harm. My other friend and I didn't know what to do, or who to tell, and the first person I thought of was him. I can't even think of a rational reason for trusting him, it's just... like that. Of course, I have a physical attraction to him as well, but I know it's not just lust, because I trust him too. I get butterflies whenever I'm near him, and I have this huge goofy smile on my face whenever I talk to him on msn (yes, he has msn). It's more like a friendship than a teacher-student relationship, has been for quite some time. Most of my friends think it's either amusing or I'll get over it. I'm not so sure of anything though. He knows about it, thanks to me being rather dumb about the whole thing... I know he doesn't think much of it though, which is ok with me. Of course, I know nothing could ever happen or anything... I mean, we share the same interests and everything, but by the time I'm old enough, he'd probably already be married. I'd never dream of doing anything before then... ok, that's not exactly true, I'd never actually do anything, and I know he wouldn't either, he's just not that sort of person. Besides, I'm not attractive or anything, so... yeah. I've liked him, I mean actually liked him, for a little over a year now, but for a while I was pushing it away, telling myself that I couldn't like him.
Anyway, nice to see so many other people are like me. Don't worry, it's not easy to get over this kind of thing, so just try to wait it out, and hopefully it'll go away, or somehow it'll turn out ok in the end. Also, don't risk the friendship for an illegal relationship, because you're endangering the teacher by doing that, and if you really love them, you wouldn't do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): Im going through the same thing sister. I was in love w/ my History teacher. I still kinda am tho. Anyway. im 16 and he is 25. I loved to be around him. i loved talking to him. I told my friends. they were alright w/ it but just told me it was a crush. i didnt want to hear it. i knew i loved him. No one understood. I then hit the breaking point. Im the kinda person that if i like someone, i have to tell them. My emotions were overpowering me. So i told him how i felt. All i can say to you is, goodluck. i understand how u feel and i hope it works out for u. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Hey, after reading what you wrote it brought up some extreme emotions in me. I fell for my teacher 3 years ago - now i year 10, he is my head of year. The thing is he's also a good friend of mine. I talked to him about my feelings at the begining of this year and i'm 'over him' accoriding to all my friends. But i still feel butterflies when i'm with him and when i'm alone with him i just want to kiss him. i have so many dreams about us having sex but i know that if this were to happen i would feel horrible, as would he. you'll have to accept that your teacher is married and therefore wouldn't let anything happen between you guys especially if he has kids and especially if he values his job. it's hard and it will take all the strength you have but i believe that getting over your teacher will help you immensly. i'm still trying to - after talking to him 5 months ago and i still feel like i may be in love with him but you have to be strong and try talking to people help too. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I am 31, and I have been in love with my teacher (who is 27 years older than me) since I was 17. I wrote him a note when I was a senior (and in his class). At the time, he told me that he couldn't return any of my feelings, but he said I could stop by to visit him at his apartment (he was single). From time to time I did, and when I graduated and moved away to college, I would still stop to visit him when I was in town. When I was 19, we kissed and I wanted to go further, but he wouldn't. I think I was 21 or 22 before we slept together. I still see him when I'm in town, and we still have a sexual relationship. But I live far away, and he will never leave out town, and will never get married. He is somewhat reclusive and hasn't dated anyone else. When I am in town, he takes me out to dinner, and we spend time at his house. I will always love him, but in some ways, I think this relationship is holding me back from finding something more, in my own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): In response to "I've fallin in love with my teacher...and it's not just a crush!", I was in my sophmore year of high school, almost a year ago and I instantly connected with my English teacher; unfortunately, he wasn't doing his job, of just turning the other cheek or simply put, ignoring it. And if this teacher you "love" were to do something in responce to this love, it would mean something might not be quite right with him. Its fine to have fantasies or whatever, but you shouldn't act on anything or it will lead to major problems in both his and your own life. Well good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Yep, im in exactly the same situation. And i know its not a crush either. I feel like we connect. Its the same with you. The teacher i like also has kids, but i dont think hes actually married. I cant tell anybody about it, so it feels like im about to burst and explode. Ive kept it to myself for over a month. And me being me, thats hard. I dont know what to do either. But im not giving up, you cant just give up your feelings with the click of a finger. If its meant to be it will happen. Lets hope it does. :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): hiya x
dont worry about it i went though the same thing and its hard but just always remeber the phrase "look dont touch," it really helps
my best advice is to do some writng or paitning ...or somthing you really like doing ..with u and them. then destroy it ! before any one can see it . then shrug and eat some choclate !
hope it works outs for you
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reader, free2rhyme18 +, writes (24 June 2007):
Hey! I know how you feel! I have been in love with a teacher for 4 years! When I met him I was very shy, but he showed me a relationship that was full of passion and intrigue! He opened my heart to life, and the art of loving someone so much that you would give the world just to be with them. Although we have never had sex, we still share a very special relationship. He is WAY older than I am, but somehow, I think that makes the whole thing even better. We talk endlessly, but I am paranoid that he will find a new student to share this special relationship because I have left high school and am now in college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Hey!
your definately NOT the only one in this position.
im like in LOVE with my teacher too!
well he's not exactly my teacher anymore because my class in fabrication is done.
anyways its ok because im only 14 and he's like in his 40's or something
but i dont care im like in LOVE with him
everytime im around him he looks at me and stuff so i get a feeling that he likes me but im not sure
i dont really know much about him
i just know his name
i dont know if he's married or not but i hope he isnt!
all my friends say that its sick and im screwed up for liking him but i seriously dont see how they could not like him!
anyways they said that he looks like the kinda guy who's single and wouldnt mind getting with a student so thats good!
I just hope their right!
i mean it seems like he likes me but im not sure exactly so yeah if someone could email me and help me?
my email is pidlitok @ hotmail.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): It feels really good to know that I'm in the same situation as a lot of people. I'm reading all of these posts and finding so many similarities. I'm in love with my math teacher...she's 20 years older than me, almost to the day, which is not the real obstacle, as I am mature for my age. The real problem is that she is happily married with two children, and although we are very close, she has never showed ANY romantic feelings whatsoever. Nothing will ever happen between us romantically but being with her makes me so happy. Everyone who is in love with a teacher who flirts back is so very lucky .
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): WOW! Its great to read all these and know im not alone, but i have one minor hitch -- i love my femal teacher. I love her so much i cant get her out of my mind! I dream about her nearly every night and, hell, i walk down the corrido anytime just to see her! I spent 6 hours EXTRA on my last english essay, which as original writing and had to be less that 4 pages and everyone else spent about 2 hours in our lessons.
I know i can never have her, but a girl can wish :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): Well, it's nice to know others are in the same position as me. I've know this teacher for 6 years now. At first it was just a stupid little giddy girls crush but then he left for a year and came back and now it's so different. All my friends joke that we'll get married etc. etc. But I try to put it out of my mind.
I have just left school, going on to University in September (fingers crossed!) and at our Leavers' Ball my head of year had ad quite a lot to drink. I'm fairly close to her and this teacher. She said that I had to come back and visit them and that if I didn't meet someone at uni she was going to set me up with this teacher. She said he's going to miss me so much and that he needs someone like me and I need someone like him. She said she's been thinking about it a lot. She also said that he knows how I feel about him. I can't talk to my friends about this. It's hard.
I thought she was just saying this because she was drunk but I text her the next morning and she said that she meant every word.
He told me to keep in touch and that we'd go out for a drink and things when I'm back in town.
Just as confused as all you others out there I think!
But as they say....nothing ventured, nothing gained....
After all, I am now 18 and have left school so technically there would be nothing wrong. There are only 13 years between us too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): I... Am in the exact same position. EXACT. I'm in love, not a crush, as people try to convince me, but in love with my math teacher, who also happens to be married with kids. After this year, I leave this school, and may never see him again, and given that it's near the end of may, I cry a lot knowing I may never see him again... I associate everything with him, songs on the radio, numbers (ex. the period I have him, his lunch period, the periods he teaches... etc)... He stares at me... and sometimes I think he feels the same way, but knows he can't...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): I... Am in the exact same position. EXACT. I'm in love, not a crush, as people try to convince me, but in love with my math teacher, who also happens to be married with kids. After this year, I leave this school, and may never see him again, and given that it's near the end of may, I cry a lot knowing I may never see him again... I associate everything with him, songs on the radio, numbers (ex. the period I have him, his lunch period, the periods he teaches... etc)... I don't know if there is any way to talk to you... or if you care... but If you do want to talk, my screenname for AIM is K82mey... and E-mail is [email address blocked]... So yeah. I wish you luck, you're not alone, and it's not a crush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): Hey my name is Autumn, I love my teacher too, at first i just had the hotts for him, but now it is not even that any more.When i am with him i feel so safe and i want him to hold me for ever in his arms. He just started working here when our art teacher transfered to the other school and the first time i even layed eyes on him it was so obvious...So you are not the only one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): I'd say that, indeed, many of these are crushes, but sometimes it's hard to know.
I am eighteen years old, and I have fallen in love with my teacher who is thirty-one years older than me.
I first realized that I might like him about a year ago. I was just thinking about him, and it came to me- I had a crush. Over time, that crush has grown. We both confide in each other, and we know each other inside-out.
One of the courses that I took this year, due to its interesting nature, has several of the students (and this teacher) meeting outside of school- we've gone to dinner, had a tea party, gone bowling, and many other things. We all have talked about many things, including our personal lives- there is no way my current relationship with this teacher is simply a student/teacher relationship.
It is getting toward the end of the school year, my AP tests have all been completed, and I'm not required (by the teachers) to go to class anymore. I've been spending almost every day with him, just sitting in the back of his classes and organizing his papers, or, when he has a free period, talking about everyone and everything.
I ditched my date at Senior Ball to talk with him for almost a half hour. (He was the monitor for the dance.)
We text each other on a regular basis.
Almost two years ago he had an affair with an ex-student (she had graduated about a year before they did anything) which caused him to get a divorce. He is currently dating (just dating- nothing else) another ex-student who is twenty years old, and is having an amazing time.
I've talked to him briefly about our [interpersonal] relationship, and it's quite obvious to me that he feels the same way. Neither of us have ever outright said that we have deep feelings for one another, but we have hinted at it, and we both tell each other "I love you" (in a friendly manner) all of the time.
Honestly, I don't know what I'd do without him, but that harsh reality comes knocking quite a bit-- I am too young at this point (he refuses to date anyone who is not yet twenty). I am willing to wait two years, but I'm afraid that he'll have found someone else by then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): Hi there,
I just want to let you know that you're obviously not the only one going through this. I have a "major crush" on my teacher too.. Honestly, I keep telling myself that it's "just a crush" because I know for sure that nothing can happen between us..
My teacher is 28 years older than me and he's married with no kids. In the 7th and 10th grade he was my History teacher, but at the time I found him incredibly boring and I used to basically just fall asleep during his classes.. (which I truly regret now that I'm in love with him)
I'm now in 11th grade and he teaches me German, I see him 4 days a week.
At the beginning of the school year I wasn't really into him, but by the end of the first semester I started noticing things about him that I had never realized before. Like how sweet, funny, intelligent, caring, thoughtful, considerate, generous, gentle and just perfect he is.. He's basically a "Renaissance Man"..
Most of my friends know that I have a "crush" on him and the make fun about the whole thing.. I'm too shy to tell him anything..
I did give him a note in which I expressed my gratitude to him as a teacher but he never really responded to that.. He just says "Thank-you" in the sweetest way ever and kinda takes the whole thing as just a compliment..
It's so hard sometimes that all I can think about is him, when I know for fact that I can never have him, and that he's already married and loves his wife (who's sooo lucky!!)..
Just hang in there and wish for the best.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): i know exactly how you feel. i think i am in love with my teacher too. but he's not married. since your teacher IS married, girl, you're gonna have to get over it. and unless he flirts with you or makes a move, you just gotta let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): Hiya
Im going through the exact same thing as you.
I love my teacher,
Everyone says its a crush but it isnt its MUCH more than that.
I think about him all the time and I know it cant go anywhere but I really wish it could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): hey everyone. im in the same situation..only mines worse. my teacher (german) is 30 years older than me...45 and i know everything about him...ive hugged him and he used to email me saying how he loved to be with me and hug me and tell me i was pretty etc. and the police found out and now hes been suspended. i feel heartbroken. i am totally lost now. hes married and all and she is soooo lucky. lol.
i dont want you lot to go through the same pain...be thankful you can see your teacher every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): OMG.. i can't believe how many of you actually fall for teachers.. well not saying anything bad here, because i'm 17 years old and i've got the same problem, don't like to call it problem though. lol. there is this something about teachers that make your heart beat faster, makes your palms sweaty and your knees a bit weak. for me it's always been an issue, it was in high school and i've still got it in college. lol. Right now i've got loving boyfriend but all i can really think about is my teacher- his cute smile, his funny jokes, the look of his eyes, every move every word he says.. strange but he just seems to be simply the best.
i've always thought that you can't choose who you fall for and if you fall for someone it's just the way it should be and i know that only the one who takes the risk will win, but when it comes to making it all clear to the teacher who is completely perfect in my eyes, i just can't do it.
The worst thing of all is the law about student- teacher relationships.. it completely sucks! ask any student and the answer will be that they don't see the point for it.
:(
so yeah i just wanted to say that having a crush on teacher is totally cool thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): Hello all you teens who have mad crushes on your teachers,
One word describes all this: Infatuation or a 'crush'. Learn the difference between infatuation and love. Google that. Here is a good thread from back in October 2005. Bev Connolley gives an excellent bit of advice on this subject. Read it,my dears. She has some interesting things to say.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-in-love-with-my-teacher-or.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): OMG.....I am dealing with the same thing. I'm 18 and my teacher is in his 50's....lol. But, he looks like he is yoounger. He is so cute, sweet to me, we pick on each other all teh time, and when he smiles, I want to melt inside. When he needs help, he always has me there. I want to tell him, but I'm afraid he might act weird around me. He is married with 3 kids and one is my age. But, I know the feeling. It's not a crush, it's real love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): I know what both of you are going through.I love my spanish/french teacher.She is pretty and nice and like really skinny.She lives like 10 minutes away from the family farm, and I always hope she will just show up there one day.But then when I think about it, I wouldnt want to like marry her or anything. So I dont know if it is love, not literal, or what. Do I admire her? I dont know~? Help me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): Hi, I know exactly what you are going through. I am in love with my maths teacher, she is 21 years older than me but i don't care! she is beautiful, smart (obviously!), funny, genuine, kind and just. . . perfect! I can't stop thinking about her and I want her so badly. I mean I want to be with her; I want to see her everyday forever and I want her to love me, even if she just loves me as a friend. she has a boyfriend and she lives with him but I don't care! we talk all the time and she is the most comfortable person to talk to. a guy who was my friend "accidently" told her and when she found out (I was there at the time) all she did was say I'm flattered and give me a hug! I didn't want to let go!!
I hope you feel better knowing that other people have been through the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): I read what you think of your teacher, except I am a guy... and I pretty much have the same problem. I just have 38 days until the last day of school and I am in love with my teacher. But at my school we have "teams" for each grade to make less students for each class. The teacher I am in love with is on the "white team" and I am on the "red team". though I'm not sure exactly what she thinks of me. When ever she would walk into the class I'm in, she'd walk in and stop for a few seconds and look at me. We would look into each others eyes until one of us looked away. And I'm not just a student who thinks "Wow that teacher is hot! I sure just want to bang that chick!". I actually want an actual relationship. And the chances of that are slim. Having a relationship with a teacher where I live is rare. in the last 10-20 years one student got with a teacher. In Kansas you will hear of student-teacher relationships a lot. In england you will also hear of a lot.
Out of all the student-teacher relations that I've heard, every single one had someone going to jail with a $10,000 fine to pay. In the end some people actually stayed with each other. But they didn't get married, and broke up after a year or so. After that I know of I think two couples that pulled through and got married and stayed married.
And I have a friend who exaggerates a lot. He knows about how I think of my teacher, and other people think I am a stalker. (I do have many characteristics of one....). But my friend said I want to rape my teacher. I do not want to rape anyone in my life! and he said that during lunch and other people heard, which will start a rumor about me for a while. Still I don't know what I should do. With about 40 days left I think she knows, and I know she had a boyfriend who she broke up with about a month or two ago. I am just someone who is deeply in love and doesn't know how to handle things... The next time I would be able to see her would be in a while when and if I found out anything about her by calling her or something. But I don't just want to call her someday and say "you were my friends teacher and I'm in love with you". I'd love to do just about anything with her...Like you, what should I do?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 April 2007):
 that's crush, eating and typing....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 April 2007):
It's just a cruah, and most people go throught it...I mean for crying out loud just look at the responses you've gotten...lots and lots of teacher crushes
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I know how you feel, i really really like my English teacher. She is female like me but i think she's so pretty. I'm not sexually atrracted but i look up to her as a role model of what i would like to become. She is really friendly, not like any other of my teachers, and is so chatty. She is always bouncing around the class smiling, but i can tell when she is sad. She is so kind and absolutely stunning with the perfect figure, she is like a best friend to me, eventhough we only see each other two or three times a week. She recently told me that i was her favourite pupil! I was so happy and i felt really privaledged that a lovely person like her would think that i was the best in the class!
It really helps to be in love, have a 'crush' or really like a teacher because it means that your grades will go rocketing because all you want to do is please them. I have been doing so well because i just dont want to let her down or her to think badly of me, she means too much. I care for her so much, i would get so miserable if she were to be hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Hi,
I'm exactly in the same position as you. You may find it surprising but I'm 12 years old and the teacher I've fallen in love with is my Environmental Studies teacher back at Malta. She's 24 years old so I don't think I will have a future with her exactly. Anyway after a 5 months of school I noticed this thing. I noticed that somewhere deep down there was something missing. And when you feel that sort of thing in your heart that's missing it makes you sick. I'm planning to tell her how I feel in the end of the scholastic year. (She's single) Mabye you should do the same.
Regards
Julian
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): i know exaclty how you are feeling.
i LOVE my teacher, he is lovely & is 9 years older than me.
he is funny, kind & has a great sense of humour.
i have told all of my friends & they tell him i love him as i dont have the guts to!
my friends have told his form class & i find myself walking past his room every registration just so i can see him.
he knows how i feel, which is annoying because i cant hide it.
i will be leaving school in a matter of a few months, with i cant bear the thought of!
i am now a member of his class, & he teaches me every thursday. i try hard in his class & because of this i am getting good results!
i am planning on telling my teacher how i feel before i leave school, but am getting extremly nervous about this!
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reader, Mystic Moo +, writes (14 April 2007):
 No, no, it's just a crush!Only joking. I hate it too. I fell in love with my teacher last year and I lost my appetite and sleep over him for a few days. He is engaged and has a daughter my age but I don't even care that he is 21 years older than me. I made the big mistake of telling him (well, I got so worried that I wrote it rather than said it) and he said it was bad that I lost my appetite if after half term I still wasn't eating he'd have to tell someone else. It was nice to know that he cared but the next day he told my form tutor and she gave me a lecture, saying, "If you ever want to talk to me about it, you know where I am. It's just a crush. I had a crush on my maths teacher as well."Yuck, like I needed to know that! Anyway I was really upset that he told her and tried to hate him and get over him but I found that I couldn't stop thinking about him and realised I was still in love with him. Just thought I'd let you know that I'm in a similair situation as you.And I'm not going to give up on him. One day he'll see sense (hopefully).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): i am only a junior in high school and my teacher is in her thirties. she is real sweet to me and we talk after class everyday. i cant stop thinking about her, shes always on my mind. i tell her everything that goes on in my life and she listens intently. i really want her to know how i feel but i am to afraid of how she'll think of me after i tell her. she brightens my day by just smiling at me but i am to nervous to tell her. its not sexual at all but its a major crush. i'll prolly tell her wen i graduate
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): I'm 16 and my teacher is 24 years older than me. He's a lovely guy, very nice, helpful, respectful, and not to mention he's gorgeous looking and has a gorgeous English Accent!
I joke around by saying I love him to my friends and that but I recently realized, I don't. I consider him my friend and I think he considers me the same.
Guys, my main piece of advice here is don't let your feelings take over. Don't let anything happen otherwise it'll jeopardize your relationship now with him and you could both get into alot of trouble.
Be greatful for the friendship you share and leave it as that.
I know it's very hard, but you will thank yourself later in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): i am going through the exact same thing. he is 24 years older than me, i know his birthday, his familiys names, where he's from, if he drinks, how old his kids are. i know pretty much everything about him. He smiles at me and stops to tlk to me at least 2ce a week and he isnt my teacher this year. when my new maths teacher was telling me off he startyed saying "but shes a very intellegent girl!" and he always stares at me. and i love it. i want it to be more, sometimes i have wierd thoughts and i really want to tell him how i feel, i love him. i am so worried that he might leave our school soon and ill never see him again. my diary is basically about him and things he sed to me that day. its very depressing and i cant be happy for too long because of it. i really dont know wat to do but i definately know that u are not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): There was a teacher in my High School that was 30 and FIT!! He wasn't married and had no kids. I fancied him loads and from the age of 15 to about 17 I would just fantasise about what I would like us to do.
He used to drink in our local pub on a Friday after school. Instead of going down every week and making it obvious I'd go 1 or 2 Fridays out of the month.
About 6 weeks after I had left school for good I went in just to see if he still went there. He did and he asked me over for a drink and was asking what I had been upto since leaving. We ended up having a real laugh and he asked me what I had planned for the rest of the night. I told him that I wasn't doing anything and he asked me if I wanted to go for a drink round town with him later.
He went home, got changed, I did the same and we met up. I told my mum that I was out with my girl mate tho. Lol. We stayed out till about 2-3am and I stayed at his. We had sex that night and after years of waiting it was amazing.
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reader, blue opium +, writes (9 December 2006):
Hi,
Im fallin love with my teacher too. I can't help myself but thinking of him all the time, it's torturing me. I'm affraid to show my feelings to him. He is so nice and smart, great character and physicaly, his my type. I feel like, he is the person I've been looking for all this time. I'm sure I will be a better person if Im with him. But, he's so mysterious, he doesn't ask me if I have boyfriend or something and I also affraid to ask him if he's married or not. he's still young, 7 years older than me. I want to express my feelings to him this christmas, but I still dont have the courage to do it, also I dont know if its appropriate or not. I'm completely blind now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): hiya,
I'm in love with my teacher too! i'm definate that it's not a crush. I Love Him! he's so sweet and funny! and just being with him makes me happy! we both talk to eachother really well and i trust him! unfortunatley he is married with kids but i'm sure he's flirting with me! as he always looks at me and smiles and then when i look up he looks away! It's not a crush and i don't know what to do.....Pleaes give me some advice peoples!!!!!!
Thanks
xXxXxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): I completely understand your situation. I myself am infatuated with my teacher, who is 28 years old. I am 17 and a junior in high school. I realize that we cannot be together and that saying anything would be highly inappropriate and critisized. I suggest that you take into consideration the fact that he's married. My teacher is not and so I cannot relate to you there, but I have been involved with a married man before and it is not fun! Lives can be ruined that way, innocent ones like children. Let's say this man gets divorced by the time you've graduated, them I say go for it. What can it hurt? Have a little fun and see if it's love or lust, and then take it from there. You'd be a step mother, wife, adult, and caretaker in an instant, just keep that in mind. I'm not trying to get you to change your mind or stop loving him, only to wait patiently and go for it when the time is right. I know how hard it is to be in your situation. Seeing someone everyday who is kind, smart, good looking, and older is hard on any girl. And to whoever said that "it's his job to be nice", that's not true at all. I believe that this man is genuine in his attitude towards you. I'm sure he's considerate and listens well. Keep talking to him. Let him get to know you, and vice versa.Same as You
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): Hey there,I'm in the same position as you. It's almost been two years since I've fallen for my music teacher, and I am still in love with him. It's not even funny how much I miss and think about him whenever he's not around - it hurts. I know he's married with four kids, which is why I haven't really thought about having a future with him, yet that hasn't stopped me from loving him.I have a problem now though. Just a few days ago, my friend and I bought a box of chocolates [and made a card to go with it] for the teacher so to cheer him up from his extreme stress lately. He jokingly mentioned to my friend [in reply to an apology e-mail that she wrote] to bring him chocolates and all shall be forgiven...and she decided to take him seriously.Now here's the thing: I [on behalf of both my friend and myself] gave him the gift in the most romantic atmosphere I could have hoped for - in one of the school's gardens, and under soft falling rain. The problem was, he did take the gift politely with a smile, but also, being the extremely shy and modest guy he is, said that he is going to bring the chocolates to share with the senior orchestra members as a treat [he's the Head of Music and the orchestra conductor], as he was obviously just kidding my friend in his e-mail response. I e-mailed him afterwards, telling him to keep the chocolates, but he remained stubborn, saying he needs to 'share the fat around' [yes, he's a really humourous guy].The main point? I think he's more or less scared of me now. But then again, it's only an assumption, but I've been pretty upset whilst pondering over this for the past few days.So now I've started writing a letter for him, telling of my feelings. I'm not intending to give it any time soon, as I still have one more year at school after this year, so I might give the letter to him when I graduate, yet I've already started on it because I don't know what kind of things would happen between now and my graduation to change my mind about telling him so much later.Well, I've typed up quite a long account. So yeah - you're not alone. =)Best of luck.- hopeless_xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): I am 17 years old and in exactly the same position as you are. I love my teacher at school too. It is ok to love your teacher, but you have got to be prepared to face the fact that he might not love you in the same way as you love him. If this is the case it will be hard to come to terms with, but he will be thinking about his career and if he was to have a relationship with you while he was still teaching he would lose his job, and i know that i dont want that for my teacher as he loves teaching and i would hate to think that i was the one that stopped that for him. When you fall in love with a teacher at school you have to approach it in a grown up manner, love is a very strong emotion and when you see that person every day i know how it feels the feling grows stronger. But just remember if you were to try anything on with this teacher you may lose him as a friend, an he may not want anything to do with you anymore. So please just think would you rather just stay friends with this teacher or would you rather push it and run the risk of him losing his job and you losing him out of your life forever. I know whihc one i picked and me and my teacher still have good chats and a good laugh now he knows that i love him and he is ok with it, so i just left it as that and i think that you should do the same.
Best of luck, take care xxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 November 2006):
Boy oh boy you need to talk to "blondeladie" she post this same thing over and over. Find her in the Forbidden Love section...you two can fantasize till your heart's content.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): You are one of a good many who feel this way. My advice is for you to get over this as quickly as you can. It's a fantasy world (part of the school experience), and the sooner you get past it, the sooner you become an adult.
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reader, thenabear +, writes (14 November 2006):
 The odds of getting what you want are probably zero. Your wanting someone to justify how you feel. You don,t need that your already sure of how you feel. He is kind to you and listens to you probably because thats his job. I can,t tell you what to do . Or what not to do. I can only tell you that in time these feeling's will pass. I know ..I,m not just giving you random advice. I fell for a man once that I had no chance with because I was a teenager and him an adult. At the time I felt there was no way I would ever stop loving him. I didnt want to either, and nothing anyone said would ever change my mind. You may feel free to feel any way you want right now. I only ask that if you start feeling anything that in a logicall state of mind you would call unhealthy. Like an urge to harm yourself or an urge to cause a scene that may embarrass you beyond repair. That you stop yourself and seek a freind or strength from another source so you do not scar yourself later on in life. You are not alone so many before you have been in your situation. Everyone at one time loves someone who will never love them back. Its part of growing up and learning to cope with pain. I just hope you learn now how to cope with loss in a healthy manner and don,t end up seeing a shrink later or having relationship issues as you get older..Good luck hunny and be strong .
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reader, Juls +, writes (14 November 2006):
I understand, I've been there, and yes, I got over it, mainly by reminding myself that if he really was the perfect guy for me, then he wouldn't be married to someone else.
You can do it!
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reader, queen +, writes (14 November 2006):
its a coincidence i once was inlove with my teacher i got him ,i mean he was my lover for three yrs and i pretty much enjoy it but he was never married though , it all depend if it is lust or true love. if u think its true love ,what can one say hmm!just follow ur hart and mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): its a coincidence i once was inlove with my teacher i got him ,i mean he was my lover for three yrs and i pretty much enjoy it but he was never married though , it all depend if it is lust or true love. if u think its true love ,what can one say hmm!just follow ur hart and mind
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