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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I love him deeply. The problem is that I do way too much for him and he knows that well and thanks me a lot for that and swears that I'm the most important thing in his life. Unfortunately, lately it seems like he no longer cares that much and that I'm the one who chases him around. I tried talking to him but he promises to care more and never does and blames me for not understanding his work circumstances. I need help! Lost
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reader, sunnydays +, writes (22 July 2005):
Hey. I know this question is old but I would love to know if you followed the advice and if so, did it work. I'm asking because I am in the same situation. I do alot for my man and he knows it too and does thank me but he is now working a lot of hours and isn't giving me the attention and I am chasing him too. He says he will make more of an effort but doesn't. He always says that I need to be more considerate about the amount of hours he is working.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2005): Maybe at this point in time, he no longer sees you as a priority because he has you already. Maybe he's at a critical point in time where work/money means alot more. Sometimes you will have to give him a break so he can focus on things and maybe the break will have him realize how much he really needs/misses you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2005): Im in exactly the same situation, I do too much for my boyfriend too and hes very thankful but less affectionate than he used to be. Im going to take the advice people have been giving you and back off a bit, I hope you find a solution.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (27 June 2005):
Based on what you are saying, I think that your being readily accessable has him taking advantage of the situation.....A life of your own would come in handy here...If his behavior continues, consider someone who has more to offer YOU.
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reader, Cambelina  +, writes (27 June 2005):
Dear Lost,all I can really say to this question is that you are way to good to be chasing around someone who doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him. You deserve to be valued in a relationship, and not just a way of passing the time. I personally think you should consider a trial separation or some time apart to make this guy recognise what he's missing and what life would be like without you in it. It will give you the opportunity to reconnect with yourself and you can learn to love yourself once again. Good luck! x
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