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writes: Im really worried. I am 15. And all my friends are having sex and bragging about it. I am still a virgin. I really love this girl, so I asked her out. But she said no becuase i was a virgin. She recommended that i go to a prozzie, but i like the idea of my first time beign with someone i'm in love with, and we both fall to sleep together and wake up the next day in each other arms.Is that idea a lie and only happens in movies??And Should i go to the prozzie??
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reader, betty backstabber  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 you know what? i lost my virginity younger than i imagined and to the wrong guy and i'm not a person to have regrets, but that is something that i really wish i'd not have done. As perfect as the night seemed at the time, and we did the whole falling asleep in each others arms thing, he left me soon after and also it got me into a fight etc.... it really wasn't worth it in the end anyway. I found a guy months after that who i really wish i would have waited to lose it with because he was so special to me, and still is as he is still my boyfriend now like four years on.
Theres nothing i can do to change it, but you have that option. You want your first time to be memorable and with someone you care about and vice versa. NOT someone you've payed to have sex with. That is wrong wrong wrong! especially seen as your only 13-15.
Just hang out with your mates, relax and wait til the right girl comes along, because the one you like is bloody awful!
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reader, Paullyyy +, writes (4 August 2008):
you seriously want to take advice from someone, who wont go out with you because your a virgin?? Youve got the right idea!! Your first time will be an experience you can look back on really fondly, as a special moment in your life. If you go to a prostitute you'll always look back with regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Hey,
Thats how it should be! I want to say that you're an awesome guy -- there are sooooo many women, including myself, that wish the men we're dating where this caring about who they sleep with and how they treat them, but they're not. It should be no problem finding a nice girl for you. As for this girl, she sounds aweful, she is not worth your time or anyone's time.
A comment on young girls to make you feel better: At you're age they are pretty immature, superficial and want to feel cool, a lot of times by being very slutty. This girl sounds like it. In a couple of years after she realizes that she's been hooking up with "cool" and experienced guys who dont really care about her, she's going to want the love and intimacy a guy like you will offer her and will start complaining about how all men are pigs and dont care about her. I've seen it happen so many times. So get yourself a nice girl, and a regular and normal girl should not care if you're a virgin or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Movies are quick and they give false times of how much time a couple has been in love.So yes,falling in love that quick only happens in the movies.You should go with what you want,the perfect idea of doing it with someone you love.Let your friends have NO influence on you.That's their
stupid decision and their lives.And as for the prostitute,
if you really like your idea that much,you know what the answer is.Make good decisions.Wish you the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): theres nothing wrong with being a virgin at 15. you were only 14 last year!
a girl who would not want to be with you for those reasons is not worth caring about. she sounds like someone you shouldn't want to impress - and i doubt sleeping with a prostitute will impress her, your friends or anyone else including yourself.
i wouldn't advise a prostitute. it will set you bad standards of what you see and want in women.
most of my friends lost thier virginity about 16-18. it varies from person to person. its no big deal. you cant always have what you want when you want and losing your virginity is one of those things!
dont worry about it. once youve had sex you'll wonder what the big deal was all about.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 As to your idea of how your first time will be, let me tell you that you can make many plans and have many ideas and expectations about it, but you can't really know how it will be. The best idea is not to plan for anything and just let it happen, at the right moment, which is not right now for you.
As to going to a prostitute, I think I can't tell you what to do. It's your life.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Relax there Sir. "Still" a virgin? You're only 15 for goodness sake. You're underage. Your body isn't fully developed for sex yet.
"i like the idea of my first time being with someone i'm in love with, and we both fall to sleep together and wake up the next day in each other arms."
That's the way it should be...and no it's not a lie.
I think you know deep down that you shouldn't go to a prostitute. Diseases, possibility of getting arrested etc...although I think you know all this.
You just have to wait until you do find someone you love, and more importantly, someone who loves you back...and then you can lose your virginity in the way you want it to happen.
Needless to say that the girl who told you to go to a prostitute isn't that special person.
There ain't no rush to lose your virginity.
Relax.
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