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writes:hey there, i have what some mite say an unusual question. i have been married for two years and although my wife and i have a great sexual relationship i have never been able to make here cum by just having sex. it always takes a little "rubbing". is this normal? am i not long enough to hit her "g" spot. is there some special position we should try? im open for suggestions. Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Not all women orgasm during penetrative, coital sex. In other words screwing.
Try experimenting in other forms and varieties. There's more than one way to have sex you know. Penetration should be the last item on the menu, unless she needs it for a warm-up, in which case it might have to be the first item on the menu.
Take your time too. You know building up to the moment means a lot of physical intimacy that doesn't involve actual intercourse. Foreplay's just a small part of it. Try being physically close, hanging together a bit more. Touching each other sensually, maybe massages.
Relax before you start out, take a bath or shower together, or get in a hot tub together and just enjoy each other's company.
Being intimate is more than just doing it. Its a lot more.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (10 October 2009):
 I will also add that even if many women cannot orgasm reliably to penetration alone, I think that most women CAN LEARN how to do it. It's a matter of taking her time to learn her body. Men always ask the size question in regards to women's orgasms because the spotlight is always placed on the man to "perform" in bed stereotypically, so men end up thinking that they actually have a lot of control or responsibility in the woman's ability to orgasm. Oh, if you guys only knew how little it actually is in your hands. I think that if men would get it through their heads that the woman's orgasm is very much out of their hands, and very much in the woman's hands, this world would be a much better place. Relinquish the idea of keeping the control and responsibility of your woman's orgasm. You don't have it. SHE has it. A man's penis is designed by nature to cum everytime he has sex because that is the only way seed can be spread, so to speak. A woman is not built like that, for a woman a variety of factors have to click into place for her penetration-alone orgasm to arrive. For a man the orgasm is simple and to the point. You get aroused, you get hard, you have sex, you come, end of story. For a woman... so different. One day it might take less than ten minutes, the next day it might never arrive, the day after it could come easily again... no rhyme or reason, could be mood, could be hormones, who knows? I don't try to understand it anymore, I just know that that's what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): if you are at least 2 in. long, you are long enough. A womans g spot is appox 1.5 in inside her vagina.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 October 2009):
Relx, you're normal. Most women don't climax through sex and need a lot of foreplay. Just spend time getting to know her body and what she likes. What works for her is the most important thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Seriously it's how you use it that counts not size - although your wife could try the G-Shot (it's an injection which enlarges the G-Spot). Good luck with whatever you decide :)
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