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writes:Hey, there is this girl (22) I (25) date, we have seen each other about 8 times, 6 times one on one - which resembles a date for me. Yesterday I cooked for her. She looked me up on facebook, is active in the communication part, asks me when I want to do that or that date. We are seeing each other for about 1.5 months now.She is very blunt, and sarcastic, says she is not emmotional, not a tom boy (even though she says she is practically a guy - which confuses me) but many guy friends. I dropped every now and then that I see these things as dates. She talks to her girlfriends about me,told me that one of her friends likes me more then her last boyfriend. She mentioned she hasn't had a good selection of boyfriends in the past.However we have never touched, nor hugged, nor hold hands or even kissed. I suppose she must like me or why would she go on dates with me, but she has not shown any clear signals. Only once in a bar I had the feelign she was getting more touchy, leaning over. It has to be said, that half of the time I know her I was sick, and now she was sick...What should I do, we go on a walk tomorrow..? Try to go for the hand, or talk bluntly as one of my female freinds tole me to do. I will go for a hug anyways - I am romantic and affectionate guy and I do not want to mess it up by being to passive. I refused to see her parents on thanksgiving, I told her I made a bad experience once, seeing my dates parents to early. She did not comment.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 November 2009):
Ahhh, that might have been useful to know up front. I have to say that I'm not affectionate with my family but I'm super affectionate with the men I date because they AREN'T family.
The signs to look for to get in that kiss moment:
Give her a compliment, tell her she really is beautiful, and you can't stop thinking about how much you want to put your arms round her.
If she smiles up at you and doesn't move away then put your arms round her. If she changes the subject or anything then you know to back off.
Once you have your arms round her then you can put a hand on her face and look into her eyes. Again, if she backs off then you do too.
If you are good at communicating you could always just tell her that you want to kiss her and see what she says. But it's more romantic to just go for it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, meTo +, writes (30 November 2009):
meTo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYES, I haven't tried it yet. Just because I was confused about the signals. I did not kiss or touch her today, but we talked a lot.
She told me that she doesn't hug her family and is not a touchy person at all. Usually...at least.
Beside that it went well and we have another date on friday. I think I will give her an disclaimer, because after all I am a cuddely guy and I do not want to hurt myself by falling for somebody who would absolutely hate my affection....
but still when is the right moment to kiss somebody who is like that. I can only go by the eyes then..that's hard to be honest, I am not super experienced...
I was very affectionate with the last girl I dated and it was too fast for her, that is the reason why I am going so slow here, not my balls....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): She either doesn't know how to act because of lack of positive upbringing by her father, or you aren't reading her desire for you to get more physical. Get in front of her, offer your hand, and start walking when she takes it. If she doesn't take it, something is a bit odd about her.Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 November 2009):
If it hasn't happened then surely, as the man, it might be because YOU haven't tried it yet??
Try something and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): i m 19 years old and i graduated beauty school with tons of girls and all we would talk about is boys sex excetraand about 60 percent of the girls all agreed NEVER makes the first move cause its the guys job!there supposed to open doors pay for the dates and make the first move alwaysthe top thing girls worry bout when it comes to guys is being thought of as a slut whore excetraits the worst thing everiv nevernot kissed a guy after a week of dating thats proposterousits your fault for not being a man bout it your pussying around like a little b i t c hgrow some balls and kiss her damnitworst comes to worst she backs off and gasps or slaps you then dump the bitch dont waste your time on little girls that are afraid of even a kisstrust me that would not be fun and you know itand best comes to best she kisses you back and says why did you take so longa month is definatly! enoughand i bet she tells you she talks about you to her friends cause she wants you to ask her in detail about what so she can say nice cute things to youbut if she has waited this long try and do the mushy cuddly stuff girls love thattell her shes gorgeous and (say politely)may i kiss you?but good luck with that i hope she puts out.if not step away from the virgin
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