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*ichaelKnight1978
writes:Dear Cupid! I'm really needing some help here?! I met a lady back in February. She's a really, really nice lady. She's older than me. She's 39. I'm 34 in a few days. Anyway, it was one of those 'The minute we laid eyes upon one another we fell for one another'! She's told me she loves me and I've told her the same thing. We've had a couple of disagreements like most couples do but things are usually really, really good between us. Actually I think it's the best anyone has ever made me feel.What I need advice about though is she's said some things to me recently that have got me thinking. I don't mean to be so graphic but when we have been making love recently she has told me things afterwards like that my sperm can live inside her for up to 5 days and how she wants it in her womb. We spent the day out yesterday and we did a bit of shopping. We ended up looking at baby clothes. We made love last night and afterwards she said it felt different. It felt really special! It's always really, really good! I don't feel like we have sex. It always feels like we make love. It got me thinking and I asked her this morning if she was still taking the pill and she said yes, but she added that it was only 99% effective and there's always that 1% chance that she could fall pregnant. We are both in good jobs and stable in life and could provide if a baby was to come along. Which is what my question is? Is she basically hinting to me that she wants a baby or am I over-analysing things? Am I just picking up the wrong signs? In all honesty when she has mentioned these things I've not really commented on them. I appreciate all that comment. I could just be getting it wrong though?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): At 39 I'm sure that having a baby may well be on her mind, should she want one. I doubt if she will want to waste time on someone who doesn't want children, so you need to think about how you see this relationship shaping up. Talk to her. You sound very much in love, so it's time to have that conversation.
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reader, MichaelKnight1978 +, writes (28 October 2012):
MichaelKnight1978 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all that have repsonded. Just to give you a bit more info after some of the things that you have all said. She has mentioned several times about how good a Dad I would be. I forgot all about it. Because I never ever really gave it a thought until now. I've mentioned to her too that I've always wanted to be and would love to be a Dad.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Yes, I'd say she is hinting.
Unless she is a step farther than hinting, and she is preparing an " accidental " pregnancy... that comment about the pill was a bit ambiguous....
I think maybe she was fishing for a reaction from you, - either " oh it would be so awesome if you'd get pregnant or " oh no, that would be a disaster "... something anyway indicating where you stand in this issue.
Why not just telling her, what you feel about becoming a father, and when you think that should happen etc. ? So she would not have to hint and you would not have to guess :).
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2012):
I think she is. Or at least, she wants to see your reaction. You have to remember that she is 39, and her body clock is ticking away very quickly. I'm sure that she has fallen for you, and she is most likely trying to see what your reaction is to this.
I think that you need to have a conversation about where this is going between you. She does seem pretty serious, and a conversation between you two might clear the air so you both know where you stand.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (28 October 2012):
 "I don't mean to be so graphic but when we have been making love recently she has told me things afterwards like that my sperm can live inside her for up to 5 days and how she wants it in her womb."
Well that is something I would never ever say after sex unless I was really dropping a mahusive hint that I wanted to get pregnant.
I agree with Janniepeg. She doesn't know how you would react so she is dropping hints to get a reaction out of you. You should really think about your reply and then maybe have a serious talk about babies! It sounds like she is ready.
You sound like a nice guy, so Good Luck :) :)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 It's very hard to ask one straight up, do you want a baby with me? Since your relationship is still young, you will get hints, and you will drop hints, until you trust each other so well that you can finally have that serious talk. You don't sound like you have children on your own, and it's safe to assume that every woman her age wants a child. She will only want a child if you want one too, so she is waiting for you to show interest in that. If she senses that you won't be excited about babies, then she will keep quiet about it. You can ask her questions like, "Have you ever thought about what it feels like to have a baby/start a family with you?"
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