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writes: There is this guy whom I would like to be with but he has a live-in girlfreind. He says he is done with her and wants her out. Do you see us being together or should I just give up on him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): I have the same problem and I am so worried about the future. He is solving his problem now and still keep emailing me, but I don't contact him unless he solves his problem.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (1 January 2007):
 Hopefully you are more aware of the circumstances. How long have they been together?
If he is done with her because he is bored for example, what makes you think that he will not do it to you?
Saying that, there might be a genuine reason for the breakup and he might really love you.
If their relationship was not working before you came along, then wait for it to end and if you still want to pursue this, take is slow and cautiously. Better not to rush into the unknown, you only know his side of the story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): Hun, why have you chosen to like a man who has a gf already? He is not yours to have. So..no, I don't see you both achieving a successful relationship, until this man has completely gotten out of his current live-in relationship. Right now, he still has a committment...to her. Leave him alone. There is nothing you can do. I know he has told you, he wants her out, but is he making the move to doing something to end this relationship with her? His actions will always tell you the truth..don't always go by what you are told, dear.
I would say that if he really, really wants to be with you, he will do something about his current girl and quickly. Do not make this situation easy for him by waiting around for him to decide. Move on and tell him "Call me when you are single and available" Let him know you will not interfere in another woman's relationship. Be strong and go live your life, without him. If he is unable to fix his life, and will not show you his own strength and integrity to end his current unhappy relationship-then you don't have much of guy here, do you? I think that no matter what he does to get his personal life straightened out, you owe it to yourself to be strong and not wait on a guy who is too weak to end current his relationship before attempting to start another relationship with someone else. Stay out of this and walk away, dear. Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): I don't think it is ever wise to start a relationship with someone who is on his way out of another one, especially a live in arrangement where "he is done with her".....I can most certainly say he is not, he is still living with her, and trust me he will have a lot of baggage....and unless you are hell bent on carrying it around for him, leave him be for a few good months unless you want to be rebound woman and watch him bounce between you, her and a dozen other women that he will be sleeping with to try and get over her.
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 I know this might sound terrible, but I've learned through the course of my life that pushing him away isn't going to solve anything. At least he's not trying to have you both, right? Obviously he really is done with her, and would rather be with you. I say, ride it out a bit and see how it goes...
But! Whatever you do, do NOT push the thought that if he can do it to her he can do it to you out of your mind! Don't be overly paranoid about it, but don't think it's impossible either, ok?
Good Luck!
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