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writes:So the guy i'm seeing has been coming over mine recently, the thing is at the beginning I used to wear a lot of make up thinking i needed it. But now i've noticed I like waking up with only a bit of makeup and feeling more fresh looking, although i'm still wearing makeup (mascara and bit of blusher). I feel better than before when i'd wakeup with my eyeliner and thick coats of mascara and just a lot of caked on makeup. I never think about taking my makeup off before we get into bed.Now when he's over I wear just mascara and blusher and normally I'd feel self conscious being around him with hardly any makeup on, but I feel better and i'm not worrying about falling asleep in my makeup and it being a mess. I also thought sooner or later he's going to have to see me without makeup and if he's not attracted then it's just my looks he was into. But thing is I find he is still really affectionate and if not more now, he even told me he doesn't know why i used to wear so much because girls look better with less. Is this true? I was surprised, i suppose waking up to a girl with a full face on isn't always a nice thing... guys opinions, or is that just him thinking this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (24 January 2013):
Some awesome comments from the guys. I am the same if I'm goint out to a wedding for example, I think it's normal to put on make up just as I as a guy would be clean shaven, showered and cologned with a smart suit. It's good to want to look nice when going out. But day to day especially when I wake up with my gf. I LOVE the natural look. I want to see HER not the fake HER. A lot of guys agree with this which shows it's not guys dictating this crap, it's other women and women's magazines. True makeup the first time does attract guys but once a guy falls in love with her as a person, the make up is meaningless. It's also a confidence thing, if my I wake with to my gf without make up and she's strutting around nude like she doesn't give a s*** that's way more of a turn on than being all dressed up and made up. Just be natural :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (21 January 2013):
I can't really add much to the great advice already given, only that if you're scared of going 'cold turkey' you could try using a tinted moisturizer to even out your skin tone a bit without giving you that makeup look. And after that, when you're comfortable enough, you can leave it all off. Because yes, guys are interested in seeing the real you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): Makeup is like weight, I don't care unless it's drastic but generally yes, the less makeup the better.
I don't understand why women find it so difficult to comprehend that we want to see your face. Your real face and not some powdered, clumps of gunk. If we're with you it's because we find you attractive, not because you're artistic with your makeup or that your cheeks are extra rosy. Newsflash, when we're that close to your face there is no amount of concealer that can hide your blemishes, no amount of blusher that can make your cheeks really rosy all we see is beige powder congealing in the corner of your nose and clumps of mascara on your eye lashes.
My fiancée washes off all her makeup when she gets home and intends on staying in for the night. It's a lot nicer caressing and kissing a face when you're not going to get a chemical after taste or rub off some coloured slime. Plus she finds she's far more open to having her faced stroked and kissed because she's not worried about her make up being smeared.
Most of all though OP, we guys aren't stupid, just as you can see a woman's face under her makeup so can we. A lot of women seem to think we can be fooled into thinking you don't have visible veins on your eyelids or your cheeks are really that colour or your skin really is that naturally orange.
What's funny is that bra that makes your boobs that shape, those spanks you wear, that makeup you think hides your blemishes, heels that make you taller that all comes off when we get intimate or when we see you in the mornings, so either way we're going to see the real you and trust me OP there is nothing worse than a woman who refuses to let you even look at her in the morning before she puts makeup on or hides her body from you.
So again, what's good about hiding your beautiful face under a layer of chemical gunk? That doesn't much appeal to us OP. If we wanted a woman with a painted face we'd just go out and date clowns.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (20 January 2013):
I am turned off by too much makeup; I look at it as a crutch. If you need to layer it on than you're hiding yourself. A little to accentuate your natural beauty, not a ton of it to try and create beauty.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (20 January 2013):
 Generally not true youre rare n he sounds genuine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): no, we dont like girks wearing heavy make up. no matter what you girls think. we just dont like it, the less the better.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 January 2013):
 That depends what kind of makeup and how good at it you are. But in general, less is more. Men in general don't like to see your makeup. The less of it they can see, the better. I.e. if you wear heavy foundation, especially if it's the wrong color with tons of bronzer and blush and eyeliner thicker than your actual eyes, yeah that's pretty unattractive. If you can see it, you're doing it wrong (the exception being eyes, which should still look "natural" but can look a bit more made up).
On the other hand, well done makeup is hard to see, face makeup should be completely invisible, and everything blends seamlessly. To get a "natural" look takes much more effort and time than caking it on though. If I wanted to do a good job with the whole thing (foundation, eyes, blush, etc...) it would take 25-30 minutes. I wouldn't bother with it just to have a friend over to my apartment to hang out. If you can't spend proper time taking it off before sleeping, don't wear it. It will make your skin look awful, and you will need to wear more makeup to cover it, and then that will make your skin look worse, it's a vicious cycle. Even if you have scarring or rosacea, it's better to go bare than cakey (and better for your skin). No makeup badly done makeup. Also Johnson and Johnson baby shampoo is a great eye makeup removed, FYI.
Just trust him on this. Why would he lie about it? What he says I've heard 1,000x from other guys as well. Also if you guys are in a new relationship, I assume that means you spend a lot of time with your faces inches from the other person, and even well done makeup looks a little odd that close up. Just trust him and go with less.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (20 January 2013):
 There are many areas where male and female have little or no understanding of each other's viewpoints, and make-up is one of them.
I have dated women who have worn so much make up that their faces look a little orange, and others who have worn hardly anything except a little lipstick.
Maybe it is a thing of confidence, as with wearing heels to gain height and make legs look longer and slimmer. Make up gives confidence, adds a little facial colour, and is meant to give the wearer a MORE beautiful appearance.
But as you suggest, in the morning, as you turn to face the beautiful woman from last night, reality can hit like a freight train.
Generally, women look much better without make-up, but all the magazines, and commercials have convinced women that they NEED foundation, rouge, lipstick, eyeliner, eyeshadow, powder, and carefully plucked eyebrows as a minimum, in order to look attractive, and more importantly to the editors of Vogue and Cosmopolitan, to get a man.
As a man, I like a woman to be more natural. If our personalities click, and we get along, I dont give two hoots about her make up, or lack of. If she has a good character and sense of humour, dresses nicely and can hold a decent conversation, job done.
Less make up works for me.
As a rule, guys look at a womans face and figure, and decides if, in his mind, she is hot. A woman who hides behind a face full of makeup doesn't fool anybody.
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