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writes:dear aunts and uncles, i've been dating this girl for a year now and we get along great, that great that she never picks a fight, she has ever been mad with me about anything, she is over confident about me, she never, ever get jelaous i feel like she is so secure about me that she has me for granted. -she knows i love her and she can have me anytime- and that worries me a lot. a little bit of jealosy is always healthy, is an indicator that she cares and it would make me feel she desires me, you know what i mean? why does she behave like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): "a little bit of jealosy is always healthy"
You need to stop watching romance movies, jealousy is never a good thing OP.
Jealousy is the sign of a bad relationship, of an insecure person and forgive me OP but of an idiot who thinks you have to be jealous to care about someone.
I'm with my fiancée 7 years. She's never shown the slightest hint of jealousy other than things like I had her favourite flavour ice cream earlier and she didn't, or I get to go on a trip London and she can't because she has to work.
When it comes to other women none of them stand a chance, so why would she be jealous? Has she taken me for granted? No, she's taken for granted she's 100% secure in this relationship, how the hell is that bad thing? That's what most people strive for in a relationship and we have that.
You sound very insecure OP, because only an insecure person can equate a poisonous emotion like jealousy to caring.
You worry, you over-analyze meaningless things like this, you're worried that you don't fight.
Op she sounds like the perfect girlfriend, no drama, no jealousy and no fights and you think that's a bad thing?
Holy shit OP, you must be the first guy I've ever heard of that wants the things most guys struggle with in their partners.
You need to ask yourself why you're so hellbent on sabotaging what is a very good thing with this woman.
You're crazy if you think not fighting, not having to walk on eggshells and not having to pander to jealousy is a bad thing. Stop being so paranoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): As long as you trust her to be faithful then you don't need to worry about she is obviously very confident that you love her and if things are going great focus on being happy with her.Hope this helps
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (20 January 2013):
It’s a complement to be taken for granted in a healthy way. She doesn’t get mad with you because you’ve obviously got good communication. She doesn’t get jealous because she trusts you completely. That’s a good thing. Ask anyone dealing with insecurity and jealousy in a partner: it’s not something you’d want.
I wish you all the very best.
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