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writes:so ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half last year in march his ex girlfriend that he was with for 3 years called me telling me that in november(a month into us going out) he cheated on me and she didnt know he had a girlfriend. i asked him about this and he said it wasnt true and she was crazy and a bunch of things that made me forgive him. but as i started thinking about it i was going to school from 5 in the morning to 5 at night and it gave him all the time in the world to text her and cheat on me. after i found out about her i was very uneasy about him texting people and i didnt trust him at all, especially since he always had his phone attached to his hip. i checked his phone a couple months later and there were texts from his other ex gf, some were deleted but there were texts from her saying i love you too and shit like that i stormed out of the house but he somehow got me to believe he wasnt saying anything to her. i can never actually catch him in the act because he deletes all his texts. I found a picture of boobs, which i believe is still his ex gf because even though he deletes his text messages when i hit create a message to veiw most recent texts her number is always number one. but of course his phone is broken and he always has an excuse. how do i find out if he really is texting her? how do i deal with someone who is as manipulitive as him and has an answer for everything? please i need help.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 If you suspect your husband is cheating, it is always a good idea to simply ask him, if he says he's not and you still suspect him, this is when you can use these techniques.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2296811_catch-cheating-husband.html
A good way to find out if your husband is having an affair is by checking his cell phone and computer.
When looking at his phone, he shouldn't have anything to hide. If he starts to get mad, this is a big sign.
Look in recent calls history. If all calls have been deleted, that is definitely a red flag.
What it says to you is that "I'm hiding something". You can also do the same with his computer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Follow your heart.. Womens intuition.. TRUST ME.. if you think he is then he is.... AND honestly i would believe his ex.. but thats just me because ive been screwed over so many times to know that if someone takes the time out of their day to tell you your BF cheated then.. i believe it to be true.. AND you dont need that.... BUT follow your heart.. cause either way the last thing you want to do is regret your decision..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): If his list of most recent callers includes hers as number one, then he obvious has no respect for you, and most likely is cheating physically, though for sure he is also cheating emotionally. You already know he's not worth being with, but it sounds like you're having a hard time convincing yourself that it's true. He's not the nice guy with an alibi that you think he is, so dump his ass and maybe one day he'll see what he missed, and might even have the brains to treat you right. I don't want to sound like I'm judging you, but you seem to have the personality to be too nice and give too many chances, when you should really grow some tougher skin and learn to take a stand and look out for yourself, first. Make him know you don't believe him for a second, no matter what excuses and lies he tries to say, and make it clear you're no longer putting up with his shit. If you've already confronted him about it and he's not changed, you have to leave him, even if it's for a little while, just to let him know you're not going to come second to someone else, as his gf, and you're not going to let him lead a double life, ever. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
Let's cut to the chase, as it were. You've previously found texts saying 'I love you too', and you always find that he has texted her because her number is on his phone. He's clearly doing something with her, so just tell him it's over and move on from him.
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