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writes:Just a question, for anyone to answer... on average, how long does it take you to get over somebody whom you've broken up with? Or who you've liked. I'm just asking because I feel as if it takes me so long to get over someone. My relationship with my first boyfriend ended 6 months ago [we were together for 6months] and I've accepted the fact that it's over, I don't want him back or anything, but I haven't moved on yet. So yeah I was just wondering on average how long do you feel it takes for you to get over someone.By the way when I say "you" I mean you personally as an individual, like when you've been in relationships in the past. I'm not asking it in a general way because I know it's like "well how long is a piece of string" lol hope that i'm making sense.:) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your answers. I guess it's "normal" for it to take up to a year or more to get over someone. Hopefully I'll be over my ex fully in a few months, as I guess I do feel more okay as the weeks go by.
Thanks for your perspectives, guys :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Took about a year or two for me. I used to get a feeling in my throat, and my heart did a flip everytime I saw him. Now, If i catch a
glipmse of him nothing too much happens. It helps to have a
New one to get over the old one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): well you should wait some time.. some time it will take longer and some it will not
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): It depends on how much I liked or loved the guy and how it ended. I'm still not quite over my ex of 2 years ago but got over one of my boyfriend the minute it ended.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): People reading this may not like this, but here goes.
For me its been 30yrs (over 25yrs with no contact). I have never really got over her as the relationship was brilliant, but we had to split for "external" reasons.
I have had other relationships since then, but none where the chemisrty was SO strong. We were compatible in every way. Met her again recently and many things about her havent changed (apart from marriage and kids....but she is still the same warm/kind/caring/intelligent person. The love and affection is STILL there :-( on both sides)
Yeah I know I'm sad and need help...but sometimes when you meet the "special one"....ho hum....life goes on even if you cant get her out of yr mind...
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Great question OP!
For me, if I wasn't that into them..a day. Others who cheated or broke my heart a month. My first love it took a year to get over. Just depends, anymore I say 1-3 months any longer then you're still letting him have a hold on you when they've clearly moved on..may need an intervention then.
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reader, confusoholic  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 It depends...when i broke up with my 1st boy friend...whom i loved a lot it took me almost a year!
But with the second one...it took only a month...every one takes time...depending on the intensity of feelings...and how strong you are...give it time :)
all the best
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (12 November 2010):
 You are quite correct in the fact that every person has their own time frame. My 1st serious relationship at 18 after dating a year, it took about a year to get over him completely, but I started dating within a month. My 1st marriage..about 3 years to get over completely. He remarried within 6 weeks because he had gotten another girl pregnant. 2nd marriage--I was married for 16 years years. I never shed a tear when I walked away, my husband was abusive and an alcoholic. I've been in a very complicated 9 year relationship with us technically being broken up the last 18 months, but we still talk on the phone every day and love each other..so..I'm still grieving and I still can cry almost every day. NO CONTACT is definitely the best, and most people seem to move on much quicker if they date others. I don't say its right, but its what alot of people do to move on.
My sister got divorced 10 years ago and STILL hasn't dated again, says she never will. All depends on the person, and the situation, how long the relationship was, ect.
Hope that helps you a little! Probably most people would say 6 months to a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Well me personally, i'm still trying to get over someone but it's only been just over a week with no contact so i'm guessing it's going to take a good few months, maybe more.
I think the best thing to do is try and stay as busy as you can, which i'm told can speed up the process a bit. Good luck.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (12 November 2010):
Unfortunately it's like asking how long is a piece of string?
There are so many factors that could determine how long it takes to get over someone including the type of person you are, they type of person they were, what the relationship was like, the cause of the break-up etc.
Personally, I've been able to handle mine well and move on pretty swiftly, but that's me.
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reader, Thatdude +, writes (12 November 2010):
It could take anywhere from two days to never. Usually, if you really like someone, a couple of months or so. If you're still hooked on somebody, it's pretty normal.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2010):
My personal experience, with no contact, is about 6 months. Those who keep in contact tend to take longer. And also it depends on why everything failed.
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