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writes:i am in a ldr committed relationship since 2 years.last time i met my bf was december 2010.now my bf said that he will meet me on may 2012!!!this is because he has to study hard this year to go to a good college next year.he's taking one year drop.but m going to go to a college this year only.we still love each other and are loyal.but will it be still counted as being in relationship?i mean we wil meet after 1.5 years but will communicate through text and calls(that too little due to his studies).so can it be called a relationship or a break?i am confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok now i dont know how...but he is coming to meet me!!!!!
he is taking a great risk though but he said i can do anything for you!!!
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reader, Lolly86  +, writes (7 June 2011):
That's not a relationship hun, it's a long distance friendship and doesn't come across as a very good one at that.
You say you love this man and I'm sure you feel that you do but how can you truly know someone - and therefore love someone whom the majority of your contact with is through text?
If you trust him great, but be wary. He could tell you anything, say exactly what you want and need to hear and you'd never know otherwise.
He may be loyal and I hope he is but don't be blinded by love and don't allow it to cloud your instincts.
Your situation has whatever label you choose to give it. But in the classical sense of the word, no, it is not a relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 sorry I don't buy that it's a relationship either. I'm LDR and we fight tooth and nail to be together ever second we can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbf and car arent the same thing.well m thankful for ur suggestions.
but for me love is above than lust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Some would consider it a relationship, but I wouldn't. Nor would many others.Here is an analogy I used in another post:If you purcahsed a car you would not be in possession of for 1.5 years, would you promise not to drive anything else in the meantime? No? Well if you wouldn't deprive yourself of a car for 1.5 years, then why would you depirve yourself of a life and the chance to have something special with someone you can be with in person?If you two are meant to be together one day, then time and distance won't matter. It will happen when you're both able. In the meantime, don't be in such a hurry to make a serious investment until you're actually in a relationship.Typing on a keyboard is no subsitute for being with someone in the flesh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe stays 2000 km away.so he said from next year this wont happen.
no he doesnt talk with girls except me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe doesnt have enough money to visit me:(
moreover the distance is large:(
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reader, auntyR +, writes (4 June 2011):
I wouldn't waste your life waiting for him if he can't see you before 2012. I'm in a LDR myself, but we see eachother as often as we can. If he turned round to me and said he couldn't see me untill 2012 i would just admitt to myself that it wasn't a relationship and i could do so much better. Find yourself someone you can see when you want!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): well, it is true,if he is taking a break from college right now, why cant he be out with you while he studies? Tell him and ask him if he is serious with this relationship and if it meant anything, why cant he be out there with you? Is there anyway you could be out there with him? since you guys will hardly be talking either I think you should figure it out if you can handle not seeing him and if you trust him. I am sure there are good colleges out where you are..Meantion this to him. Good luck and be strong.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Doesn't sound like a relationship to me, he'd move mountains to see you if he were in love. Do you really think he's staying away from the opposite sex a year at a time?
Date lots of boys in your own city, jeez.
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