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writes:hello, i'll get straight to the point.There's this girl at my school who is known as the slut of sluts and the b!tch of b!tches. Anyways, in the past she has always treated my friends and i badly.She called me a nerd once, and im not, i do two different sports(rugby and soccer) and i actually have a social life and go to parties and stuff. Her only reason i can think of is that i do well in school and play video games often. Anyways she has been acting strangely nice towards me. She sits behind me in class and has recently been starting conversations with me, like gossip(wich im really not into but just act interested because she'd tear me to pieces wich she can easily do with her loud voice). She wispers it to me, and ive got to admit i find it kind of sexy. And just a few days ago during class she asked if she could draw on my sling(i have a broken collar bone from rugby), i said yes because i thought it would look cool. And when she returned it to me a few minutes later, instead of finding cool drawings, i find in bright colours "i love (her name) and she is amazing" with hearts! It was as if i had written it. I was too embarassed to wear it because people make fun of her by saying that there isn't an std that she doesnt have. So naturally i wouldn't like people to think that i really do like her.Later that night i sent her a message on face book saying "do you know how many people have asked me who jade is?:)", i thought it was a good idea to be friends with her because keep friends close but enemies closer. The conversation we then had was actually quite fun and there was actually a bit of flirting and teasing involved. But towards the end of me teasing her she said"pipe down loser:P(tongue out smiley)" and continued to play along. Now im pretty sure that she really means that i am a loser, but at the same time she is joking around with me. She also said in the beginning of the conversation that i have to keep on wearing the sling because it makes me look unique and because i am now her "b!tch" and that i will be her bitch until i have to take it off. All of this was said with smileys and in a joking manner. My question is, is she lonely because no guy wants to get with her because of the rumors, and now is looking for a guy that doesnt just want to get into her pants? Or should i be careful because she is setting me up for embarrasment? Or does she actually like me? She is really good looking and actually has a nice personality once you get to know her and if you look past her mistakes and b!tchiness.Thank you for reading this and for any answers.
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reader, 1mr conflicted1 +, writes (10 June 2011):
1mr conflicted1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx for all the responses, you all have helped me. I'll just let this flow and see what happens without getting too involved. I really do hope she doesn't turn out to be who every one says she is. Sorry i took so long to give feed back but i was just seeing if anything major came up first.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 op, if you have doubts like this about her then take a step back, dating it not a good idea, see how she performs as a friend first. i have found in my life that first impressions are the true one. i have given people the benefit of the doubt though but in the end they almost all turn out to be the baddies that i had thought they were. BUT be careful that you are not letting your friends influence you too much. helpful advice is worth listening to, small minded gossip isn't
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reader, act-casual  +, writes (5 June 2011):
Sounds like this girl gets a helluva lot of insults being thrown her way. Even if she looks to be strong, she might be really hurt inside.
I'd say, be a good friend to her and then see how it goes from there (:
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reader, 1mr conflicted1 +, writes (5 June 2011):
1mr conflicted1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all the advice, all of you seem to be pointing me in the same direction, to get to know more, be friends with her, maybe even close friends, but i shouldn't try and date her? Before she started speaking to me, i would never have thought that i'd even say one thing to her on facebook, and i think i might even have feelings for her now, well not might, i do, i actually can't wait to see her again on monday and talk to her(i'm actually overwelmed with curiosity and infatuation). She's got such a hot voice and cute laugh, and im addicted to it, i never would have thought that i would go from the kindest, down to earth girl in my school(the girl that i actually have major feelings for), to having feelings for a girl that has been nothing but mean to me(up until recently). Well after all curiosity did kill the cat. Thank you again for all your advice, and any other advice will be welcomed, but i'm pretty sure of what i must do. Shes a sweet poison i think and it probably wont end well if i had to try and date her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): The best thing you can do for this girl is be herenuine friend nothing more, then she can learn and grow from you. If it develops into something more one day farther (like when school ends) into the future so be it. but anything else to heavy is getting you both into trouble. If she should ever ask if you like her you can say of course and leave it at that but not get into anything.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (4 June 2011):
maybe she has a tough exterior but is softer on the inside, or maybe she is what everyone thinks and says she is - a bitch.
get to know her as a friend, but 'forewarned is fore armed', keep your wits about you but ultimately, decide for yourself what sort of person she really is. how does she treat her girlfriends? maybe she just is not nice to the boys who spread nasty rumours about her
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): okay, so this girl has a reputation. Maybe she likes sex. Maybe it's all rumours. But you shouldn't judge her just on others opinions.
None of us can tell you if she's being genuine or not. Only she knows that. Maybe she is just poking fun? Maybe she just needs a friend who won't automatically look down on her?
Get to know her a bit more, but keep your guard up. She might just turn out to be someone other than what everone says she is..
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