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writes:Hello I'm 15 Years Old 16 Soon And Am Scared Too Have Sex I Really Like This Boy But We Are Not Goiny Out We Have Done Everything Apart From Sex But I Think He Is Using Me Is There Any Advice You Could Give Me x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): If you think this guy is using you, then forget it! You know your better then that, and no guy should ever use someone, its horrible. I think that you should be in a relationship to have sex, but it all depends on how you feel. Its not about what the guy wants, its about what you want. so just worry about yourself. And theres no need to rush things, your young, just have fun. and be safe =]
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Run away from that person. He is trying to use you to satisfy his sexual urges. You do not want to have sex so have nothing to do with that guy. Do not kiss him. Do not show him any part of your body ever again. Because you have gone this far with him he probably thinks he can score with you and get sex out of you. You are not a game. Your prize belongs to your husband. If he touches you, slap him. If he nags you, report him. Stop any contact with him. You owe him nothing except a kick in the groin if he pressures you more and more about sex.
Any man who wants sex with you MUST go through hell to even enjoy that precious gift with you. You are a jewel and are to be earned. There are sluts out there who will spread from anyone letting all kinds of crap inside them. That isn't you and I applaud you for not wanting to have sex. It isn't worth it unless you are married because then it is fulfilling, it is with someone who loves you and promises not to leave you after the deed is done. So, tell him no (scream it to his face if you have to) and never be in a compromising or intimate situation with him again.
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reader, lovebabe4201 +, writes (8 August 2007):
Well done! You sound very sensible. If you feel too young to have sex, then dont, the time should always be right and i dont want to sound old fashioned but i think you should def be over 16 and in a relationship with some one you can trust. If this boy really likes you, he will wait, if not he is not worth it! xx
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (8 August 2007):
 If you think he is using you than you would be stupid to have sex with him. I think he is using you.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Hi, if you are not ready to have sex then don't, you would only end up regreting it in the end especieally if you feel he is using you and after you had sex with him what if he leaves you? When you have sex, your first time must be with someone special that you really love and you know loves you too. Your first time must be special for both you and your partner. Tell him that you are not ready to have sex and if he leaves then he was not worthy of you because if someone really loves you they would wait as long as you want them to.
Regards
Take care,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, flower girl +, writes (8 August 2007):
 I 100% agree with everything AuntyEm has said to you as always sound advice.
Stay away from him you are worth more than that, you stick to your guns and wait until the time is right for you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, wendy23 +, writes (8 August 2007):
 I am a 23 year old woman and I have great advice for you, when I was 12 I met this great guy, he was all that I was looking for tall dark and handsome you know the whole package well, we dated for 4 years without have sex I mean we would touch and things but I wouldn't sleep with him and he waited, which really schoked me, well on my 16th b-day we finally done it, afterwards he told me that he loved me and that we would always be together, I thought I has found the love of my life, it was like the perfect man, well, 4 months later I found out I was pregent, we used pertection but it didn't work it busted, I was very scared I was only 16 what was I going to do with a baby, so I thouhgt that maybe with him by side we could get through it and it would be eaiser on me knowing the father was there, when I told him he didn't want anything else to do with me or the baby, that was 7 years ago. Please take your time and if he really likes you or loves you or whatever then it will be on your terms not his, no matter what he says or does follow your heart and that little voice that is deep inside of you, it will lead you in the right direction, and if he leaves you just because you want sleep with him then he didn't care for you in the first place, please think about you and your future first I wish I had done that, treat your body as a temple not a sex toy for some guy. Just think long and hard before you make any moves because just like me it could cost you the best years of your life.
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reader, gandalf +, writes (8 August 2007):
I agree with Aunty Em if hr cared about you hed have the patience to wait for you maybe it shows immaturity on his part. I think in these modern times theres too much pressure on having a physical relationship with someone before you actually know them as a person and thats why alot of relationships go pearshaped very quickly.
Save yourself for someone who respects you and deserves to wake up next to you.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Just say no to him, say your not ready and then stay away from him. You shouldn't ever feel pressured into having sex, it leads to all kinds of complications if your not ready for it. Save yourself for when you are older and more mature and happy to give yourself to someone who really cares about you. This is one thing you have control over. Hold out, say no and then go enjoy the rest of your childhood while you still have it. Don't ever let anyone use you, because your way too special for that.If hes a decent boy he will understand.
Hugs
Aunty Em
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reader, 04jrees +, writes (8 August 2007):
 hi chick. i'm 15 too and reading what you've put im just about ready to smack that guys head in. there has been a lot of guys trying to take me fo a ride but i knew that that was all they wanted and said no. I waited and now im in a 15 months long relationship and i am really loved and respected. So i would say stuff that guy, cut off all contact. All he wants is to get wanked once in a while and no one deserves that little respect. get out with a little bit of dignity and don't give your body up to someone of his kind. Thre are proper MEN out there, not just little horney BOYS - i hope you find one of the good guys. i hope this helped. X JJ X ps. if you need any further chats we can talk one to one just send me a message to my acount name.
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reader, myp +, writes (8 August 2007):
 ok first off yall aint even in a relationship and hes already tryin to get the goodies, BAD SIGN!!!!!
second if he really likes you he'll wait if you tell him youre not ready, sleeping with him wont make him like you, this is a hit it and quit it situation, your virginity is something special so make sure you think not twice but like 6 times before you give it up. Plus dont you want to lose your virginity to someone u love?, im jus sayin if u think hes using you then dont play into his hands. If he wont wait until youre ready then u need to kick him to the curb immediately, u deserve better.
-Myesha
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Dont do it! please. I thought you was going to say you were in a relationship and your guy wanted to have sex. I lost my virginity just before i turned 16 but i ended up marrying the guy at 18. If your not even dating the guy, dont do it! Save it for someone you are in a loving relationship with, your virginity is something you cant get back once its gone!
Please, dont let this guy take it, guys love the conquest of taking a girls virginity, and once hes done it, you prob wont hear from him again.
C xxxxxx
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