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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Does anyone regret leaving there marriage for a person they had an affair with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): If it weren't for my strict upbringing and children, I'm the type that would've had an affair by now. Because as the last poster said, when you're living and not being true to yourself, then you'll learn life lessons the hard way. Sad, but true. Sorry I didn't really answer your question, but I can tell you in my family, my sis-in-law had an affair with 2 married men. The 1st came to his senses and went back to his wife and 4 children. The 2nd, he didn't leave his wife for her, but his wife found out and divorced him. Even so, their affair fizzled out...my guess is it was about the excitement, and there's was no real love. I also ask myself, 'how can an 'affair' relationship truly last when it is based on deceit?'
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): I just read a great book called "Broken Open"
One chapter is about her affair, how it was necessary to make her the person she needed to be. She had the affair for about a year, and then finally the good feelings started to fade with the new guy and she realized that both her marriage, and her affair were now over. She had two teenagers. Turst me she went through alot of personal hell, basically likening it to dying.
But the interesting point was, she said the affair was necessary for her personal growth as a human. She was lying to herself and her family in her marriage, and the affair made her become re-born into the living population once again.
Great memoir/self-help book for those going through deep life trials ssuch as loss, heartbreak, death of family or kids, anything really.
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