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writes:Me and the father of my child, separated 18 months ago, but we do get on really well and are good friends. I get on really well with his family to. We are all very amicable towards one another, and there are no hard feelings at all. I was spending some time recently with my daughters dad and his mom and dad with my little girl. Myself, my daughter, and her nan and grandad, were out in the garden. My daughter's nan was putting cushions on one of those swing chairs you have in your garden. My daughter's nan said, "Come and sit on the chair with mommy," to my daughter and I initially thought she was on about me. My daughter's nan then said, "Oops, I mean 'nanny,'" followed by, "I don't know who I am now!"I feel a life bit horrified about this. I'm wondering what made her, call herself mommy, to my daughter or I don't know, if it was done on a subconscious level. Maybe I'm thinking to deep but i did have a'lot of past issues with my daughters nan in my pregnancy. I felt like she wanted to take over. She use to use to say stuff that would drive me crazy with anger. The thing that most got to me was, when she referred to my unborn child as our baby. I took this up with the father of my child and he said she meant it as in the family's baby. It really pissed me off and caused me so much grief along with everything else that was said and I think now that this is why I'm looking into this, because of the trauma I went through in my pregnancy. Maybe somewhere in the back of my mind, it's brought old feelings to the surface. A bit like if someone was bit by a dog, and saw the same breed of dog again, bring feelings up maybe it would have left in an imprint in the mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 I'm not saying there is any reason to be concerned, but when people display abnormal behaviors, there is may or may not be reason to be concerned. What I recommend. Rent, "Hand the Rocks the Cradle" It's a thriller, but the behaviors associated with the nanny are real behaviors. This movie was made to display the extreme of borderline personality disorder. I believe they may be the first that had the guts, and knowledge to do so.
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