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writes:I am fourteen years old and last year I had this "thing" with this guy. He has had a girlfriend for the past six months but now he wants to have sex with me. I really do want to have sex with him and have him be my first but I don't know because he has a girlfriend and I don't want to be played. please help me I don't have much time because us having sex (if it happens) will happen soon and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): don't do it because it is dangerous if he already have a girlfriend and you too young to do that.i am boy and i am 14, i usually have this desire but i never ask my girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): DON'T DO IT! I am in the same situation but i was stupid enough to sleep with the guy. I thought that after that he will dump her and come to me...but that didn't happen. The guy is still with his gf and he still wants to continue sleeping with me. It is not worth it...he is using you especially since it is your first time. If yhe really cared about you...he would make sure it is a safe environment for you to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): He only wants you for sex cos his girlfriend isn't giving it up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): ima guy and my brother is like this. he plays women and feels good about it. just wait on the right guy
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reader, Stranger. +, writes (29 November 2009):
 what in the world is wrong with you?im not trying to offened you or anything but.he has a girlfriend.if he wanted to be with you he would have broken it off.no girl your gunna regret it if u have sex with him.he prolly only wants that from you.dont put ur heart in the middle of the street to get shattered.
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reader, mr motivator  +, writes (28 November 2009):
Not only are you being played but your too young
what is it with this generation, they get to 10-11 and think they can be the next world leader with all the knowledge they have
dont make a mistake your going to regret for the rest of your life..
your virginity is something you only get once, think about where you spend it
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reader, Accountable +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Well, it would probably hurt quite a lot on the night, and he doesnt sound like the kind of guy who'd be bothered about trying to make it easier for you. Then it'd hurt a whole lot more the next day, when he didn't want anything to do with you and just went back to his girlfriend. It'll hurt later on, when his girlfriend finds out and brands you as a bitch who breaks up relationships. It'll hurt more when people at school find out, guys think you're easy so will all try and have a go with you, and girls think you're a slut.
I know this is something you think you want, but take a step back and just consider your situation. You have the chance to do something really character-building; saying no, and respecting yourself, his girlfriend, and your morals. Don't let him confuse you with his "charm" into taking your virginity - if he's the kind of guy who'll cheat on his girlfriend, he is not the good guy you think he is. Don't let yourself be played.
Good luck xx
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reader, bethaneymae +, writes (28 November 2009):
personally i dont think you should, youve got plenty of time to have sex, your only 14 so you should wait. Plus he's in a relationship, how would you feel if you was the girl. Wait until you find a nice boy who could be your boyfriend and do things properly, then you ont feel used.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Bad idea. Don't do it.
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reader, trave61 +, writes (28 November 2009):
He is playing you! RUN if he truely feels your worth it he will break up with his girlfriend and go out with you and anyway OMG your 14! Let me guess he is older? Probably!, boys date younger girls many times because they are imature and feel that they can minipulate a younger girl.
You should find someone special for your first. Which you want to pursue having sex with. When the moment comes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): YES
Don't do it!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Hi. Yes you are being played sweetheart. This boy has a girlfriend and only wants to have sex with you for fun not because he wants to be with you. Losing your virginity should be special and romantic, once its lost its gone forever and trust me, one day you will have a young daughter ask you how you lost yours and you wont want to tell her you lost it at 14 to someone elses boyfriend. You sound quite a responsible young lady by coming here to ask for advice. Stay responsible and a young lady... by saying no to him. Hes only asking because he doesnt care about cheating on his girlfriend and he knows youre keen. He doesnt sound nice, so dont give your virginity to him, hes really not worth it, wait until youre a little older and have met someone who wants to be with you and things will be very special and a lot nicer. All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): You are being played. Really. He's only looking for sex from you, so ditch this looser fast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Your being played.. he'll have sex with you, then go back to his girlfriend. He'll spread rumours about you and tell guys that your easy, cheap and sex mad. He has no respect for you at all.
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reader, mtv.1985  +, writes (28 November 2009):
definitely trying to use you. if he wants you for real, he will break up with that girl. insist on it. if he does not, he is clearly playing you.
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Do not have sex with him!
sounds like this guy is only after one thing from you, he is already in a relationship whatever 'thing' you have with him needs to be ended and u shud move on!
its for ur own good otherwise he'l only hurt u hun
:) D.Gx
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reader, fishdish +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Agreed: you're being played. he doesn't care about you, he just wants more ass,wherever and however much he can get..don't give in to his nasty wishes..it would be a horrible first time, being thrown to the curb the next day.
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reader, morenadoce +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Payback is a bitch, thass all i gotta saay.
im 15, and i could NEVER imaginee doing that to another girl..you need to find your morals.
and whats the point of losing your virginity to a guy, whos not 100 % into you ?
hes just gonna use you,and leave you.
or use you , stay wid you then try another girl like hes doin too his girl right now.
its not worth it..
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reader, bubblegirl1818 +, writes (28 November 2009):
 you shouldnt do it cuz you want it to be with some one that loves you and if hes with some one else he dosnt love you he just wants sex trust me. and bad things could happen would you want him to be the father of your baby? and think about his poor girlfriend if you were dateing some guy you wouldnt want a girl to agree to do it with him would you? cuz i would want that girl to say no to him so you should be that girl and say no. and have respect for your self and let him know that he cant just get sex from you with out any kind of comitment. hope every thing works out.
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