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writes: I am a single mom with two young children. they are ages two and four. I have just recently started dating again. I have only been out a couple of times. However, I seem to be coming on all wrong. The last guy I saw approached me. We had 4 dates, we were emailing alot, and he called me like once a day for about 3 weeks. Then, he said I was beautiful, great personality, and wanted to meet my kids. I was excited, i told him I wanted someone to spend time with. I needed that romance in my life again. The next thing I knew he said I was a jumper, maybe we wanted different things. What am i doing wrong? Where do you meet good guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): I'm really not sure what the word 'jumper' means..but if he felt you weren't the one for him..just accept that and move on. I am not sure what you are doing wrong, but I think you need to slow down a bit and really priorize yourself, your kids and choose carefully. Please take your time choosing the best person for your life and the one that will be involved in the lives of your children. You need to to protect them for two important reasons. Children can get close to Mom's special friend's quickly. Bringing him into their lives could create a sense of deep hurt if he he's just passing through. Another reason, is the risk of people who could harm your children. Please always err on the side of safety and caution. I recommend in the beginning, to keep your dating life separate from your family life until you know someone well enough to feel they would be a good friend and role model to you children. When the time comes to eventually introduce him to the kids--start off slowly with limited activities. Wait until there is a clear commitment from him, to the relationship and potential for something solid and long lasting, before even thinking about deepening his involvement with your children. Always maintain sensible and appropriate boundries. Alway put your kid's and their well being at the top of your list.
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (30 August 2006):
 hi hen you doing nothin wrong good guys are every where doll there is plenty ofthem try gettin a babysitter go out with your friends and have some fun maybe then you will meet someone take care xx
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