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writes:well i'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to have sex his 16 and i kinda want to wait a year or two i love him alot and i dont want him to brake up with me if i tell him no. how do i tell him i want to wait without him braking up with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): any guy who dumps you for not having sex with him is a loser that only wants your body
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I agree, if he leaves you over telling him no, he wasn't worth it to you. Someone who is worth it is someone who wants you for you and will patiently wait for you to be ready. Don't rush in, and don't give in when you're not ready to. Take care.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 October 2010):
 If he is the kind of guy who would break up with you because you don't feel ready for sex, he is not the kind of guy you want to be with. So, get comfortable and just tell him that you're not ready for sex and won't be for awhile. Hopefully, he will give you a big kiss and tell you that you're decision is completely okay with him.
Don't let him pressure or guilt you into sex. You are being a smart, strong girl. You deserve his respect and his love, and hopefully he will show you that by honoring your wishes to wait. Good luck!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Just tell him. If he does leave you over that, what better proof that he does not care enough about you and that he only wants to use you.
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reader, sadandconfused1117 +, writes (15 October 2010):
Listen to me when I tell you this. If this boy breaks up with you you dont need him anyways. Just ask yourself this.Are you ready to be a parent? Are you ready to be up all hours of the night feeding and changing the baby. Are you ready to give up the rest of the best years of your life to become a parent before its time? Are you ready to quit school and spending time with your friends because you decided to have sex with this guy who probably isnt going to be around anyways?Are you ready to work your ass off to support your child just to find out you cant get a good job because you couldnt finish school and college? Are you ready to deal with a baby screaming all hours of the night because it is sick and cant tell you what is wrong? Are you ready to give up your freedom because you cant leave the baby by itself and its pretty selfish to put it off on your parents. Also think of how bad it will hurt your family to think of the fact that you will never reach your lifes full potential due to the fact that you had a child while you are still one yourself. Please dont take that as an insult but you are still very young. I know you are probably planning on using protection but I can tell you from my own experience that both of my children were concieved while my wife were using multiple forms of birth control.Although sex might feel good at the time but is it really worth risking everything for it? I am also sorry to tell you this but if you end up pregnant he will probably be gone quicker than you can blink an eye. No boy at his age wants to be a parent and I promise you this from the bottom of my heart. PLEASE PLEASE think about what I am telling you because I have seen it happen so many times that it is not funny.Tell him that if he cant wait for you he OBVIOUSLY does not love you and doesnt deserve to have you in his life.You asking for advise shows that you are mature and that you are wanting to do the right thing and that would be waiting and not giving in to his hormones. I hope this helps you out and remember this. IF HE CANT WAIT HE DOESNT CARE FOR YOU OR YOUR FUTURE AND YOU DONT NEED HIM IN YOUR LIFE!!!If he understands what you are saying thats great and I wish the best for you but you dont need a boy that only wants you because he thinks he can get in your pants.Good luck sweetheart and I pray that you make the right decision...
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Just tell him you are not ready. I know how afraid you are that perhaps he will leave you but, you have to realize that if he ends this relationship solely on the fact that you are not ready to have sex, he probably is not the right man for you anyway. If he is a good boyfriend who really cares for you, he will respect your decision to wait. Sex affects people mentally and physically, it is not for those who are not ready and you KNOW that you are not ready. Do not let him pressure you into it. Just let him know and see what happens. That is the only way.
I hope that helps.
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