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writes:ok so it goes like this, I have been single and afraid to date anyone for the past 5 months. Till one day sitting on a deli bench I met a guy who totally sweeps me off my feet we are perfect for one another. Then I start doing it, the pushing him away not because for any other reason that I was afraid he would hurt me.So I was making myself busy, not calling him right away after work so we could get together, not showing him I cared for him at all as much as he showed me. So,needles to say he got really mad and will not return any of my phone calls. I called to appologize and tell him I was wrong and I made a mistake cause i was just scared and he doesnt want to hear it right now.What should I do? I really need some advice cause he was a really good man and it was'nt fair how I treated him.How do I repair this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): You probably can't. I was in this guy's shoes really recently and the same thing happened to me. Things were going really well, we both loved each other's company and she said I treated her so much better than he two previous exes (who BOTH cheated on her). Even silly things like the fact that I opened the car door for her to get in - she made such a big deal to her friends and family that I behaved liked that.
Then for some reason she started pushing me away. Said something wasn't quite right. Wanted to still be friends. I said I couldn't do that. Five weeks on she's been bombarding me with texts, says she can't believe she let me go, how stupid she was, she wants to be with me.
I'm afraid I told her politely it wasn't possible. I don't have a reverse gear and I'm not risking that hurt again when I behaved appropriately.
Think you just have to realise you caused this and move on, knowing NEVER to treat a good guy like that again. There are so many players and arseholes in the world, why treat one of us decent guys like that?
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