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writes:bit mad here, as Im usually answering the qusestions, btu here goes....Met a guy and we dated for 2 months it was a long distance relaionship, I met him through my friend who was his cousin. Well he started going on about wanted to move down with me, marry me etc, and planning our whole future. I liked him a lot, and would say thats lovely but lets just get to know each other a bit more first. Well a few weekends a go he was due to come and stay the weekend. we texted on the fri night and he said he was coming on the saturaday. Well thats the last I ever heard from him. When I called , texted on the sat asking where he was he just completely ignored me. So I guess he wanted out but for some reason wouldnt tell me. Anyway dusted myself off he so not worth my time or thoughts. And this weekend met a guy a friend of a friend, he sems lovely and Im seeing him again tonight. But Ive realised now how the long distance guy has knocked my confidence, and already Im petrified of liking this new guy, or getting close or allowing him in, as I dont want to be just dropped or hurt again. Any motivational words for me guys ???
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reader, Deema +, writes (21 May 2008):
 Good for you kid. Just have fun. We all get too serious when a man comes along, think it must be for keeps, even see if his surname sounds good with yours after a few dates - men would be scared witless if they knew that one - but its true isn't it? We all just have to learn to go with the flow, have fun, see it for what it is - just a night out with a guy. Not so easy to get hurt then. Lotsaluv xx
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reader, jabey +, writes (21 May 2008):
jabey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you girls, on a up date i did all I| could just to relax and enjoy last night. I| must have done ok as he asked to see me again on thurs. B|ut I will contine to be cautious and not think into the future but as you say take each day as it comes xxxx
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Same here i am not a guy but what you are saying is so familar to so many people. . .
You have been hurt but why should this guy stop you from getting on with your life, the chance is he wont know what he has lost in you!
I would take things slowly to start with to see how you feel and steadily start to build your confidence up again.
This guy isnt worth the trouble.
So Good Luck!
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reader, Deema +, writes (20 May 2008):
Sorry, I'm not a man, but I can see where you're coming from. We are fearful when we've just been hurt. Its self-preservation and its normal and natural, and in lots of ways not such a bad thing. It means we're trying to protect ourselves. BUT not every one is the same and we have to give everyone a fair chance. Just go out for the fun of it. don't see it as the love of your life or the possible future Mr whateveryournameis. Just see it as a date, a night out, a chance to enjoy yourself. Then see where it leads. You don't HAVE to do any more than that. You are in control. Just have fun. Good luck. xx
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