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writes:I am a confident girl and I'm having trouble seeing why guys are not attracted to me. They never approach me or bother to look at me twice. However, the guys are not solely to blame. I will admit that I am intimidated by the opposite sex and it's only because I've had not one- but two- terrible experiences that both ended in rejection. It took me a long time to recover and I'm a little apprehensive about just throwing all of the confidence that I worked hard to build up away for some one-sided crush. What do I do?!?
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reader, Sal84  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Work on yourself-Smile more, be natural and most important be yourself.If you had bad experiences in the past think that you paid off the bad karma of your past life:-)Look towards the future and dont be judgemental about anyone and especially about yourself. Look out for a Good Human being rather than just Good looks that way you wont fall flat on you face one again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): just approach the guy, instead of waiting for him. trust me, i am the same as you. i would go out with my friends, wear severe clothing and fold my arms but wonder why they never talked to me! well duh, because i looked unfriendly.
so start with smiling, catch some guy's eye and hold his gaze for a minute then look away. smile at him. order him a drink, or just go over and start a convo.
rejection sucks, and i know it's scary, but if you think that in the scheme of things that's it's not a big deal if you are rejected by a stranger then you'll learn it's not so bad!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 January 2010):
When you see a guy you like, talk to him, really get to know him. This happens to quite a few people, so you need to do a little bit of chasing if you really like a guy. Don't be afraid to talk to him and just really get to know him. You may have to make your way through some more rubbish guys but you'll find a guy who really likes you.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (23 January 2010):
theres nothing wrong with what your doing. At some point a man who thinks you are worth the trouble will come along keep an eye out for him. He'll be average looking kind always nice and wont go away when other men will havelet me know how it goes
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