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writes:Really..to get up to speed..I graduated this past May..but At the beginning of the year, everything was normal between me and one of my teachers, but as the year went on, I realized that he started doing strange things, like telling other kids(as a joke), that they should not talk to me, even make eye contact with me..or one time he said in class one day, that he loved me and that I will always have a special place in his heart. He would make these little remarks like, once I saw him in the hallway and it was crowded and he came out of one of the classes and told these kids, hey you guys need get to class and clear the hallways, because there is a beautiful girl in the hallway. He saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that. Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real?I am gonna be 19 and he is gonna be 25. I have talked to some friends and some family.. and most just tell me I just took what he said wrong, and I should forget it..but everytime I get convinced, yeah..it probobly didn't mean anything..or he didnt mean what he said like that, something else happens..and it makes me think otherwise. As for me, in all honesty, I do like him, as we did spend a lot of time together last year, but I just can imagine what other people would say. I mean, he told me at the end of the year, that he did like me, and hoped that any guy that dates me, realizes how lucky he really is. I really don't know if these feelings are 'real' or if my mind is just playing tricks on me. (all of this was said in my last post)The New News is...I caught up with my teacher recently.. and it was at school and when he saw me, he told me, 'hey..before you leave, you have to check out my office..you haven't been up there yet.' So, He went to class and I went up to see what he was talking about, and he had this little sign thing ( that I started as a joke with a couple of other teachers as well), Its all out of fun...but he had the sign that I had for his class last year framed, and then he had this pic. of us that I gave him at the end of the year, framed too. Like I said, the sign..I could see framed..cause most of the other teachers who I have done this with..framed their's too...haha..but the picture kinda shocked me...I was like...huh? .I was like..wow..really was not expecting that. Its like the only two things he has up too..like he doesn't have any other things up in his office yet. Part of me says, wow, thats nice of him, and then the other part is like...a little strange??? I just didn't see him as that "personal" of a person, I guess. I just dont know what to think...and I know it seems obvious that he has some sort of feelings for me, but I just dont know what I should do next??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell...as for the "I love you", the first time he said it, it was in class and we were all just hanging out, like we weren't doing any work at the time and I was just sitting there talking to some friends and all of a sudden, he was like..." you know what, I love you...You will always have a special place in my heart"...and I was like..what?? And he didnt say anything. And then the second time, he saw me after school and I was getting into my car and he stopped and we were just talking about random stuff, and he was like..."I love you, I just want you to know that." It was very random...both times, in all honesty.
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 my tweacher said that too but as a joke, i persume :(
i said to him infront of my mate, ahh i love him!
and he said aww i love you too!
was it that way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeyy....I was just wondering what you guys thought about this...I headed out to the first home game for my High School....And like everyone from the school went to the game..it was a huge game because we were playing a school we have not played in years...so everyone was there..and I saw him at a Football Game this past week and He told me, he (w/out the use of my real name to his students), he used my whole."Struggling at the start of the year.changed my attitude.ended up passing his class with an 'A'.or the as we call it.The " miracle story ".He was like."I used that in my First day of school speech that I gave all my classes." "I told them, no one can tell me they can't pass my class.because I know a girl out there that is living proof that it is possible." "so I just thought you should know, I was talking about you to all my classes the first day of school." and then he was messing with our cell phones.trying to take pictures of me and trying to figure out how to save pics. of himself on mine, etc.
But the strange thing is, that earlier this week..we saw eachother...because my cousin is a junior in the school that I graduated from, so I had to go in and pick her up...and she was getting help from a teacher so I was in the front office waiting and..he came in the front doors from the parking lot and was like..Ohh Hi...what are you doing here and I told him I was picking up my cousin and he was like ohh..and then he walked into the office and when he came out, he was like " oh Nicki...I have to stay away from you..." or something like that..I couldn't really make out what he said..but I was like..hmmm...thats wierd. Its like...he throws so many mixed signals....I just dont ever know if Iam reading him right.
People say, its just like...maybe he is just getting tierd of me not being receptive to his advances..there like...he has done lots of things to show you he cares and you have not done anything in return really. There like..maybe you two should just sit down and talk. But I dont want to do anything that is going to have me loose him as a friend. =/
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I am just gonna take it day by day, and cross those bigger bridges when they come. As of right now, I have no real reason not to give everything a chance, so..I guess we'll have to wait and see...=)
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (6 September 2008):
living with what ifs SUCKS....going with it is way better, be gutsy!!! Yea, some ppl are dishonest and wrong, theres always good trustworthy ppl, and bad liars but how will u know whos who without ever giving people a chance? It seems to me like you already know you wanna go for it, I say don't let these thoughts bother u because the mind is a very complex thing, it makes up false info for u to ponder, its best to ignore it and see whats happening in REALITY rather than the illusions the mind plays. You shouldnt hate this because ur being cautious about the trust thing, I think its good to always be cautious but to also use womans intuition, feel a person out, talk to him, find out what hes about, then u'll eventually see if u can invite him....im gonna say this for the last time GO FOR IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, Iam not gonna lie...I do have trust issues. And Its really not that bad, but I am the most outgoing person, like I talk to everyone...I love to meet new people, and all that good stuff...but talking to you and trusting you are two diffrent things. It does take me a long time to trust "Anyone". And I know that about myself. Sometimes its something that I hate, cause I wish I trusted people more often. I guess in this situation..its like... part of me really wants to give it a chance..and I guess I am scared, on the other hand...No one has ever really had this effect on me before. Its like, do I chance it with him, or just live forver with the "What Ifs"....=/ And I just think, that would really sux....
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (6 September 2008):
It seems to me like you have trust issues, not just with him, but I think u'd over complicate the whole trust thing with just about any guy (teacher or not) You sound kinda like me, over complicating things that are really quite simple, yes because its usually all in the head. Something that I've been learning..and trying to follow myself, is to seriously go with the flow...that saying i think comes from 'zen' a buddhist following of thinking of a river with water flowing, the ripples just keep on going, the water sees a rock (a problem) but the water does not get stuck, it goes around the rock and continue going. This analogy i think can work for just about any scenario. This means, you shouldnt let this get to you, you shouldnt let "trust" bother u, just let it flow, take the risk...its as if ur so worried (trust me ur SO ME) about what "might happen" ur not letting urself take risks, ur looking at all the negatives, when there might be something amazing awaiting u..or maybe not, but u gotta find out rite? I say follow the heart, talk to him, figure him out, take the chance!!!! I think over analyzing and using ur head too much isnt too good (unless ur writing a thesis paper lol) Good Luck! let me know how things go, message me if u would like:-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSomething that really bothers me sometimes...is that...I dont know if I am convinced that these feelings I have are even "real". I see what people are saying, about all of this happening with other students... and thats exactly where I am feeling confused, because part of me really, really does like him, but I dont know if its the "like" that everyone thinks it is.
I dont know if I can, trust him..just yet... I mean we did spend a lot of time together the past year..I would always go to his help sessions before and after school, and that was just becasue I really needed the help to get through the class, but I mean of course..you end up straying on to diffrent topics eventually...so we got to know eachother over time...and I really dont see him as a bad person, but at the same time, part of me always wonders, " did he say and do all of this stuff, just because I was around all the time or did he mean any of it?
ts like...Iam a torn between thinking..he is a good person, and friend..with thinking he is got alternative motives for everything and the whole year was just a joke. There are some times, I think....maybe I have just been a women, played the fool. Its all in my head...but on the flip side..there's always a small part of me, that thinks...maybe..just maybe...everything happened for a reason...and then I am left with...follow my head, or my "heart"...
...hmmm..thats tough isnt it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou know, the only strange thing, and I guess this is what kind of makes me have alittle bit of doubt..or what really makes me feel confused..I dont know if I am convinced that these feelings I have are even "real". I see what your saying, about all of this happening with other students... and thats exactly where I am feeling confused, because part of me really was does like him, but
I dont know if its the "like" that everyone thinks it is. I dont know if I can, trust him..just yet... I mean we did spend a lot of time together the past year..I would always go to his help sessions before and after school, and that was just becasue I really needed the help to get through the class, but I mean of course..you end up straying on to diffrent topics eventually...so we got to know eachother over time...and I really dont see him as a bad person, but at the same time, part of me always wonders, " did he say and do all of this stuff, just because I was around all the time or did he mean any of it?
Its like...Iam a torn between thinking..he is a good person, and friend..with thinking he is got alternative motives for everything and the whole year was just a joke. There are some times, I think....maybe I have just been a women, played the fool. Its all in my head...but on the flip side..there's always a small part of me, that thinks...maybe..just maybe...everything happened for a reason...and then I am left with...follow my head, or my "heart"...
...hmmm..thats tough isnt it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I am no longer his student. I dont know, I guess were just gonna have to see how things work out. The thing that gets me everytime I think about it, is that at the start of the year, we didnt really get along, I mean I had a hard time at the start of the year and we bumped heads about everything! So everyone always was hearing me complain about his class... But then as the year went on, I guess you can say I grew up alittle..I mean, i was always a mature person but..I started to change the way I was approaching his class when I was having a hard time, and he made lots of changes too..and it was like we both kind of grew on eachother. We sort of made each other change, and lucky for both of us, they were mostly changes for the better..and I like to think we are better people because of some of the stuff that we went through. I dont know if any of that makes sense..
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (5 September 2008):
Just ask him, and go on a date. Get to know eachother in a romantic atmosphere..and ur not his student anymore correct? then just go for it!!! And let me know what happens next, this is so interesting haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Yeah, he definitely likes you. Why else would he be so flirtatious with you and favor your attention? If you'd be interested in dating him, let him know, before the opportunity passes!
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Don't get involved when he's your teacher/ you're not legal
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell...He isnt married and My family doesnt really know to much about all of this. Really just my close friends know about some of the stuff that happened during the year. And they pick on me already and there isnt even anything going on. And as for the "I love you", the first time he said it, it was in class and we were all just hanging out, like we weren't doing any work at the time and I was just sitting there talking to some friends and all of a sudden, he was like..." you know what, I love you...You will always have a special place in my heart"...and I was like..what?? And he didnt say anything. And then the second time, he saw me after school and I was getting into my car and he stopped and we were just talking about random stuff, and he was like..."I love you, I just want you to know that." It was very random...both times, in all honesty. And, to make matters more confusing..I even had some other Faculty members that would tell me, " oh, well...lucky for you, he likes you, cause he does he likes you', or ' ohh you know he loves you', stuff like that. It was kind of like...everyone saw "something", except for me.
And what kind of gets me, is that the start of the year, we didnt really get along, I mean I had a hard time at the start of the year and we bumped heads about everything! So everyone always was hearing me complain about his class! But then as the year went on, I guess you can say I grew up alittle..I mean, i was always a mature person..but I started to change the way I was looking at his class, and he made lots of changes too..and it was like we both kind of grew on eachother. We sort of made each other change, and lucky for both of us, they were mostly changes for the better..and I like to think we are better people because of some of the stuff that we went through. I dont know if any of that makes sense.
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (5 September 2008):
I don't know if you told your family differently than the way you told us, but I think it's sort of obvious he likes you, too. Either that, or he's EXTREMELY nice. If he's married, then don't do anything, but if you're legal, and not his student anymore, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go for it. (:
~Emma
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (5 September 2008):
did he say he loved u in class as a joke or in private? cuz thats a huge sign, plus the fact that he already told u he liked you. I guess now that you've graduated its ok, i don't know about anything legal, but it seems to be fine. I am a young teacher myself, and its hard to resist looking at the young cute high school boys, I'm not going to lie, and I know they look back, because I look their age (I'm 22) So ur teacher was 24 huh? well, my classmates (now teachers) r young guys and its not a shocking thing you know, it happens. Age is just a number, I mean i like men who are much older than me. I say go for it, ask him, find out whats going on, and maybe go out on a date:)
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