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writes:what do i do?!?Ive just started dating a guy in college with me and hes the first real boyfriend Ive had to be honest.anyway he asked me to go out on a date with him on sunday but im worried i wont know how to act or what to say.im becoming a nervous wreck over it and even considering canceling our date for fear ill screw it up if i goplease help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, karen1989 +, writes (17 July 2010):
 This is going to sound so commercial but just be yourself! and if he doesnt like you, then its his loss. You should never try and change yourself for any guy.
Good luck :).
Karen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): My ex has been my best friend for the past 5 years. We dated about a year ago for a month or so. In this time, he cancelled every single date but one, for one stupid reason or another - all lies, of course. Turns out even though we already knew everything about each other and had been friends for years, he was just too worried about screwing up to go on a date with me. Notice how I said 'ex'. He lost me because of this, and I've since moved on and found a new lovely man, and he has always regretted it. Just go for it, girl. Nothing is worse than a wasted opportunity. If you cancel, you'll always regret it and you'll never know what might have been.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 I'm going to take another tack at this.
I'm assuming that you are between 13 and 15. You did say college so if you are over 17 disregard everything after this.
You are quite young and if you don't feel ready to date there is no reason you have to. Many people don't start dating until they are 18 or older. When you do go on your first date go on a double or group date. Having more people there takes the pressure off you. When you have dated for a while you will feel more confident.
Maybe talk to him about how you feel It will be hard for him to come up with a double on short notice. Keeping him informed is the best way to keep him from losing interest. Being so nervous that you throw up on him is also a good way to lose him.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (10 February 2010):
 it won't be as bad as you think :)I have some tips for you, to help with the nerves:- Try not to over think your date. Over thinking what you think will happen on your date will just lead you to become more nervous- Go for a jog beforehand. If you do this it will take away all that excess energy you have coursing its way around your body and release it in a more productive way, leaving you calm and relaxed to go on your date. Alternatively, listen to some soothing music or take a warm bath which will relax your muscles. - Be prepared. Here is a link on preparation for dates, which may be useful http://ezinearticles.com/?Prepare-for-a-Date:-10-Good-Tips-for-Youid=428170Also, get a perspective; HE asked YOU out, which means he wants to be with you. Keep that in mind!Just be yourself and enjoy each others company! Best of luck, hope it all goes well xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): Its gonna be ok! talk to him and if you really like him, then remember that and not anything else. Also, if he likes you back like he says he does, then he wont mind if you a little clumsy or whatever. Dont worry about not being able to talk properly, because when the tension breaks, you will get right back into the habit of talking with him and it should come naturally to you! (:
Good luck honey!
Have fun and you wont screw anything up, the only way you can screw it up, is if you dont go! I bet he would rather see you as a nervous wreck rather than not see you at all! x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 February 2010):
Dont' cancel, or you'll lose him and regret it. Just relax. Remember, he asked you out, so he likes you. All you need to do is turn up and just talk to him. That's it. :). So good luck.
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