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writes:it all started when i was like in 2nd grade, i´ve always known am gay. i had a friend,we were best friends, we used to do everything together and i started liking him. But the problem was that there was another boy who was my best friend´s best friend, anyway, after that year they starting ignoring me and that really pissed me off so i did something bad, and the relationship with my friend got bad, but i changed of school and if i saw him twice a year was too much, 4 years passed and now we are studying at the same school again, and unfortunately i like him again, but now we do not talk at all, and i´d really like to have something with him, am not sure if he´s straight but am not sure if he´s gay either because, when we were little he was especial at me and now he hangs out with girls (and most gays hang out with girls) but he does have male friends, he does not have a girlfriend and i dunno if he has ever got one, sometimes when i look at him i think he looks at me too, and i am very very shy to go and say hi to him, i dont like parting, nor dance, i am kinda quiet guy i must be wrong about him but i dunno. help me please!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh hi am sorry the email that you answered didnt appear in my account.
no i really coudnt do it with my own account, besides i would send him a message asking if he is gay or something like that, or start flirting i dunno etc, besides i think he is straight, i think i saw him kiss a girl the other day but it isnt sure cuz i didnt see it well, though they act like a couple, i dunno, i think am might be getting over him.
thanks for asnwering. oh and am writing another post, take a look at it.
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Yes do that, but definitely with your OWN account; in other case your action would be pointless. Don't you think so? Just simply forget that you're shy and nervous for 5sec and talk with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i dunno but what if a make a comment in his hi5? with another account of course, do you guys think it might work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice.
but the truth i dunno if am ever gonna b able to do that sometime, i just think the time will never show up, but maybe if it will, i guess i´ll try.
thank you so much.
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reader, MuffinGirl +, writes (13 October 2008):
You seems to be in situation where there can't be anything possible to do. But that's not true. If you're ready to fight against your shyness, then you can save your problem. You should go and talk with him, in other case it's almost impossible to renow your contacts. I really can't see other solution, sorry. Be strong and confident- you're unique, you deserve to love and be loved.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): your advices are good the thing is that i am very very shy, and we are in a very defferent group of friends. i see him during the week but i´´ve never had the chance to talk to him, besides we both are never alone, am always with my girl friends and he is always with his, and after school he always waits a girl (girl friend), ohh that is the only thing i regret of having changed of shcool, that i lost all the chances of talking to him. and i dont think i ever tell him something. that really sucks!1111
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reader, MuffinGirl +, writes (12 October 2008):
You should try to talk with him and make sure if your feelings are real or you're only infatuated because of your past experiences with him. Maybe he has changed, who knows? Maybe you wouldn't like him so much anymore. Try to figured out that. The second thing is, do you know any clubs, bars, etc. where he's going to? Or do you have any friends in common? If it's easier for you, then make conversations in club or when you're in the same group of people as he is.
Or maybe you just simply ask him if he would like to go for a drink after school. Tell him you were pissed off, because you think he kind of betrayed your friendship. Tell him you want to renow contacts or friendship with him too, because you think he's good person. Don't ask him if he's gay or straight at first, you should figured out by yourself. Just direct your conversation toward girls and relationships (but not at your first meeting) and you'll see.
Of course he looks at you, but that's probably because you used to be friends. That's kind of proof he want your friendship back. Be confident, get your shyness away!
Hope i've helped, good luck.
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