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writes:i am a young black woman living/studying in germany. german men show me a lot of attention and i like it. a friend of mine (german girl) who works at a place called the sexy inn (a brothel)says i would make a lot of money working as an escort. i have had men offer me lots of money and i have been tempted, but money is not a real problem for me....my family has money. they are in corporate law in new york city. i really am turned on by the thought of men wanting to pay money for access to my body. i would like to be wild, promiscuous for a change. i visited the sexy inn and it is very nice and dignified in a very german way. the owner says i can go to work any time i want. i am qualified to get a work permit for this. i have already checked with the polizei and they say everything is in order. gieta, my friend, says that it is hard thing to quit because the money is so easy. she escorts because she is married and needs the money. i feel that this won't be a significant problem for me. i don't have any morale qualms about this, i have always been open minded and don't believe in some omnipotent outraged god's retribution for sinning. i do believe in evil, not in sin and the most evil minded people i know all go to church. hey, all the terrorists are fervent believers in religion. but i digress. i don't do drugs and i do do rock and roll (go tina, pointer sisters, screw rap). i am an art student and model and just wanna have some fun. what's the harm. (disease-but germany has monthly testing and condoms are required by law here for sex workers) germany has a very low aids rate and the sex workers infection rate is below the average for the whole county. any tips from working girls, especially in europe ? i would never do this in the states, americans are way too hung up on sex and bibles...we are really crazy people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): i am the one that put this question here. i could not get over the temptation to see what it would be like to have men pay me for sex. i understand why everyone is against it..being that they are from sex suppressed countries like the U.S. and England. the Continent is so much more open sexually. I went to work and it IS fun. it is exciting when a man wants to pay me 500 euros for sex. out of the 500 euros, i get 350, the rest goes to the house. i get a little better split because i am black and big draw. i see about two to four men each day i work and i have the right to reject any one i don't care for. we have a nice meet and greet area where the gentlemen can get a drink and see which girls they like. it gives the girls a chance to check out the men and if we don't like what we see, we just go to the back where we won't be bothered. i have my own room and no other girls uses it. we decide out own schedules. most of the girls here are married and have to work around family responsibilities. CONDOMS are required. It is NOT optional. there are girls who like kinky sex and do unusual things and others, like me, who prefer normal sex. if a guy wants me to pee on him or beat him with a strap, i refer him to one of the kinky girls. we have this huge Dane for a bouncer and the customers see him first so they behave with no problems. if we get one that wants to act a fool in the room, we press the hot button and Mikkel will be there in a hot minute. on my days off, i go to school, paint, go to the nude beach at Kuhsee (cow lake), go shopping and sight seeing. i am doing quite well and i enjoy sex more than ever.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Oh, one more thing...
at the following link is an interview I did with a woman that is part of a group the fights for the rights of sex workers.
http://www.franktalks.com/?content=pastshow_sexworkerrights
It will give you great information whether or not you go into this industry.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (21 December 2007):
Hi There,
I have some experience with working girls and the sex industry. I will not tell you not to do it, but this is what concerns me for you:
"i am an art student and model and just wanna have some fun. what's the harm?"
You fail to realize that you are not in control of the consequences of your actions. You can not predict or control them. The fact that you see no harm means you are not yet informed enough to make this decision.
HEre are some tips...
This is not a job. This is a lifestyle, and one where you will have a hard time giving up.
Unlike a forgotten job on a resume that people will not ask about, working in the sex trade carries with it a stigma that will forever be a constant in your life. I write books on seduction and my sexual experiences. Even I experience this predjudice as my own inlaws have abandoned my wife for being with me (they did not come to the wedding, nor did they come to support her when I had a mild heart attack). That is a consequence. Becuase of the stigma, you may never be able to have a normal life if you return to the states again. This is assuming you get out at all.
If and when you do get out, and try to get a non-sex industry job, you will have nothing to put on a resume for employers to ask you about. THIS is a primary reason working girls never leave the life.
You are a party girl...are you good with saving your money? Seriously, no dishonesty here. Can you handle your money? Can you trust yourself NOT to spend money with this lifestyle? The sex industry offers no pensions, no unemployment....etc...you make a lot, but that is all you make. Your financies are up to you. THis is why many women that make a long living in the industry will end up on the streets when they are older. There is no security.
Marriage...it will be much harder for you to find a long term partner. You will have no problem finding sex...but not one man that I have consulted through my work in the past 10 years would ever consent to marry a woman that worked in the sex trade if they knew about it. Again, that is a consequence that you will have to deal with. However, there are some men that will accept you no matter what, but they will not necessarily be the men you want, just the men that you would settle for. Ask any working girl about the difficulties of finding a serious relationship.
If you keep it secret, you will always have this haunting you. This could be used to blackmail you depending on who finds out.
Lastly, in the world of new technologies, nothing stays too secret for long. Surely there will be survailance cameras and such, and photos and the like. For all you know you are being recruited by this other woman as a means for her to barter her own freedom with her pimp/owner.
The other real danger is that you are an immigrant there, and all they have to do is hold on to your passport to hold you hostage. It is easier than you think. You will not get the same protection under their laws as an immigrant.
Whatever you do, be informed and be careful. Once you cross the line, it will forever follow you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): hi, i am the original poster. birdy and irish made me think about what i said and i thought about how it would hurt mom if she found out i was working in a place like the sexy inn. i thought about how i would be upset if i had a daughter tell me she was going into the sex industry. i would be so worried that she would get hurt. i felt how cruel i would be to my family to do what i planned. what i forgot was that i am not alone in this world and everyone i know would not be accepting of my dumb whims. so, i won't follow through with it. i knew there would be at least one bible banger with a mean comment.....i hope his dick rots off from what he will catch from his wife that the preacher will give her. i don't think sex is evil, sinful, bad like all you churchers. i don't look down on women who choose a different sexual life than what is allowed by society. maybe i am driven to want to act out by all the judgmental assholes who keep telling me how their imaginary god is going to punish me with everlasting fire for being different, but he really does love me. i would not put my worst enemy in an everlasting fire, but god, who loves me so much, will because i feel like using my pussy differently than what he dictates. unlike the churchers, i am not a slave. i don't need the approval of god to feel self worth. in a book i once read, the hero says that a good whore does a man far more good than a preacher. he also said that any place that has more churches than bars and whorehouses is not a fit place to live. i once lived in the bible belt of america...thats why i live in europe now. i can go topless or completely nude at my local beach with out the cops showing up to put me in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): don't work there!
hello, you are applying to be a whore.
it will hang on you forever, you do not want a past like that.
if you get a bf in the future, he will find out and probably hate you for it. you will regret it.
it isn't worth it!
don't do it!
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (20 December 2007):
Irish said it all. So all I'll say in Passing is this. You seem to have everything in life but Common-Sense,and without that I do hope that you don't get AID'S. Have a nice Christmas.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 any tips from working girls, especially in europe ?
SHE DOES NOT ASK ADVISE FROM US!!!
Good bye, you know it all---
May God forgive you!!!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (20 December 2007):
 I am so glad Irish answered your question! She gives the best advice!
Just came across a quote that you should consider:
"Artists make lousy slaves" -Hellpope Huey
You may go into this thinking that you own it, but it will wind up owning you.
If you have a mother or sister that you are close to, please call them before you make any decisions and consider everything that Irish said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Error..please note:
"but all that does "us" get you off the hook from making and expediting brave life decisons and behaviors.
change to
"but all that does "is" get you off the hook from making and expediting brave life decisons and behaviors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Birdy gives you excellent advice about the far reaching psychological ill affects of what this will do to your future and I agree with her. Hun, no one can really advise you stop or go ahead. But I strongly believe that life is about making good, healthy, respectful choices, and valuing ourselves.. There a whole lot of young, wonderful, lovely women in this world that are working hard to educate themselves, settling into good careers, getting married and experiencing loving and caring relationships with good, decent quality men, all without selling themselves in the sex trade. You have a prime opportunity here, to create a dignified, decent life 'history' for yourself. I can tell you one thing, any good, decent man in your future will likely, really appreciate the fact that you didn't sell your body for sex. This may become your 'dirty little secret' in the years ahead and why do that to yourself when you don't have to. You don't want to hear about morality but having a good, strong moral compass tells us what is good and bad for us...it's like a map and it makes the good choices all so much more clear cut. Right now, the morality inside your way of thinking isn't kicking in because you were either never taught them or you simply don't care, and that is what is so sad. Don't devalue your life and future all because you want to 'have fun and you like men desiring your body'--that's simply your ego talking. And a confident, self-assured, highly intelligent woman doesn't need men to boink her daily to make her feel good about herself, does she? So if you have morals...use them...more than ever right now. Morals is how we value ourselves and that is what others take note of about us. Someday, you will understand, when you are older, wiser and more mature and you are teaching your own children those same values. So don't knock morality, hun...it's what we all need when it comes to making important life decisions.
So I have to ask. Why don't you just work hard in a job where you don't have sell sex to a bunch of horny old/young married/unmarried men that just want to use you like a piece of meat. That doesn't do much for a girl's ego, after awhile. In fact, it takes you down. Sad that money is big drawing card here but what an incredible price you'll pay, emotionally. That is my concern. I think you may be NOT thinking, about the negative backlash, many women suffer, in the sex trade. Please don't forget about the fact that you are intelligent, articulate, creative and energetic. What you need is to have the spiritual hopes, goals and realistic dreams where you work hard for what you want. And just to add, wouldn't it be nicer to be desired by a male who truely loves, adores and respects you? If you want to, today can be the day that you can start doing something about this-you just have to make a life decision here. Saying no to the brothel work, will mean you may have to do with less financially, but really, living your life outside of the sex trade will truly give you more...sooo much more. Living this way, empowers your emotional future, and keeps you safe and healthy---this really sounds like a good place to start. It's going to take strength and courage but I honestly believe you can do it. If you read this and you feel it's not what you wanted to hear...then disregard what I'm saying but, I've told you what I think and it comes from my heart. I hate to see young, beautiful, intelligent women ..lay waste to their lives by doing this. And you can come back at us old Aunts here, with a ton of hollow protestations, hun...but all that does us get you off the hook from making and expediting brave life decisons and behaviors. Just the way I see it. Good luck, dear and please take care of yourself. And please, hold yourself up to a higher standard. You are so worth it.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (20 December 2007):
I am am also an artist who has lived in the Netherlands, London, Chicago and Toronto, and have travelled the world for most of my life.This question reminds me of that stupid old joke:Would you sleep with me for a million dollars?-Sure!Great! Here's ten dollars!-What kind of girl do you think I am?We've already established that, Now we're just haggling over the price!You are opening a door here that you can never completely close, it will have far reaching effects on your life and future, and there may be consequences that you will never be able to undo. It's not about sin. What does not matter to you now may give you massive regrets in the future. Finally one last thought:Most women eventually want to have children. We all grew up playing with dolls. When you pictured having a family, you probably pictured yourself having a daughter. Would you want this life for your daughter?
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