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writes:I am sixteen years old and i am going to be having a baby in 8 months. can i still have a good future ahead for me and my baby? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): future is what u make it so mak it good u can allways go 2 college
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 September 2007):
 You decide you're own future. Having a baby just means getting to that future you might have to change the process you were wanting to take. Don't let having a child make you feel as if your disabled and can't do anything. I have a friend who had a baby at 16 as well, she is now 33. She has a Masters Degree, Bachelors Degree, and a Minor. All that being a single parent. It did take her a bit longer, having to adjust her schedule so she wouldn't overwork herself, but she still got there. Focus on the end result. Where do you want to end up? What time frame are looking at wanting to get there? (At your age) What can you do now to begin preparing to get there? What will the requirements be to complete my goal? Then split up what you'll be able to do, over the time you allow your self to do it. Setting goals are very important, because it gives you a road map. There was a study at numerous universities where they asked people who had their plans set for after graduation 5% all ready did. After checking back with them 5 years after graduation, that 5% combined had more income than the 95% combined who didn't have goals.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Your young age is actually good because when you're in your 20's your kid will be a lot easier and you'll still be young enough to be able to do things you need to better your life. I am 26 with a baby and another on the way and I have no life, I have no job, no anything...I depend on my b.f. for everything. But that is b/c I wasn't particually determined to make a good life for myself before I got pregnant. So it's all about you and your determination. You can do anything!
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 You can have a future hunni, it wont be as easy as it would of been without the baby but you still can.
I'm 22 and 7 months pregnant. I was due to be starting university this September. I came out of school at 16 and worked for a few years as I had no clue what I wanted to do. I have just finished 2 years at college (on a course where a lot of the others already had kids) and the day I got my acceptance letter from the uni I wanted to go to I also found out I was pregnant.
I feel at times very left behind/left out even though I am 22. All the mates I made on the course are off to uni and I'm not there having fun with them. It's mainly my hormones talking there I think. I wont be able to do exactly what I wanted- I was going to go to university in London but I can still in a year or whatevers time apply again and go to the uni where I live.
Colleges and unis have great creche facilities now so if you want to further your education then you still can. A lot of courses can be done part time aswell. I've just noticed that you are in America but I'm sure you can still get your education there. You just may have a lot more "work" to do with a baby and homework. If you want it you can do it!
If you want to chat more about anything baby drop me a message :)
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reader, minimouse  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 sweetnes i wish you all the best.dont be worry, your life is gone change .you are young but considere that baby like a gift you will be like friends one the future .my cousine is now 15 years old and her daughter is now 7 month oldand she is write now a perfect litle mother an so serios and so good. i am convincent that you will be a perfect litle mother wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I fell pregnant when was 16 it was the best thing that could happen to me. beofre i because pregnant, i did alot of drugs and self harmed myself alot then once i found out i was prgnant i have touched any drugs or knives again. 2 and a half years later, I'm happy with a boke who loves my son to peices, a house, good income and a brilliant social life. Dont listen to what every one say about how you have ruined your life. NOT true. iF you want this child, have it, and if you want your life aswell have it. Its all in your control. you can do them both, if you really want too. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Yes, it is possible as long as you have got the grades to get a job and family to help you with the baby. Although it is different having a baby at 16 rather at say 30 it doesn't mean that you will have a worse future than someone who doesn't have a baby at your age. It all depends on how you work around the baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Yes it is possible to have a future for the two of you. However it will be very difficult and painful for you. If you believe you can care for a child then before it arrives try to enlist the help of friends and family. Try to get a support structure in place now so you won't have to worry as much latter on. Questions like who will have to take care of the child while you're at school and various other "who" or "what if?" problems will be settled then. Get the father involved as well since children without a dad don't do as well as those with two loving parents. If you can't get any help or you have doubts about whether you can give this child the kind of life it deserves then you should seriously look into adoption. There are many people out there who could provide a loving home but don't have children of their own. Remember not everyone is cut out for parenthood and there is no shame in admitting if that's the case with you. Good luck.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (27 August 2007):
 You have started adulthood rather young but that doesnt mean your life is over. You definately have some trying years ahead of you. Babies are alot of work but when they get past 3 or 4 it starts to get alot easier. My daughter is 10 now and its great. Hopefully you have some family support. Dont think for a second that your life is over. If you take that road its definately not because of becoming a parent. Trust me on that one, Im finishing my college degree right now and raising my daughter on my own.
I certainly hope you take a chance to provide some advice to the girls your age and younger that are considering becoming sexually active. Maybe your experience will help them reconsider the magnitude of theyre decisions. Best of luck and congratulations on becoming a parent. Its the most important and rewarding job you will ever have.
Duce
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reader, ogga +, writes (27 August 2007):
I have a friend whose Older sister had a baby at 15. She went on to pass her Exams when she was 16 and got good results. Then in England we have another set of exams two years later which are very challenging. And she got 3 A's which is amazing especially for somebody in her position; her family are always helping out. So if your family help out a lot then you will be fine. It won't be easy but you can try
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Kind of depends, if you can get help taking care of the baby to finish getting educated and whatnot... definatley.That's pretty much all the advice I have, wasn't much but good luck though.
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