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writes:Hey , Please help me because I think Im a Lesbain. I like Boys and All but Recently Ive had Feelings for Girls!! Im 13 and had loads of boyfriends but I have feelings for other girls. Please help me because Im flirting with them all the time!!Am I a Lesbian?Is this Normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): This is a tough question to answer, no one really can answer it!
I am 15 and have felt always felt odd kissin guys when I was your age, now I have came out as a lesbain.
My advice to you is not to worry about it, if you are straight
These feeling will soon ago away
If you are Lesbain
You will find out soon enough, as your feeling start to get stronger toward girls.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): it's completely normal.99 out of 100 teenagers (and yes! that includes lads!) have a phase between the ages of 12 and 20 where they feel uncertain of their sex. maybe it's because you feel more comfortable around girls and that's why you do it.just go with the flow as 13 is a bit young to be able to tell whether you are or are not a lesbian. and, honey, if you are, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. x-x-x
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reader, Geminibabe2013  +, writes (26 August 2007):
sometimes it may feel that way but trust me its normal. I myself am 13 and i get the same way. Your body is goin through lots of changes and ur hormones are very messed up. But trust me its completely normal. my sisters went through it and now they are happily married... with guys!Trust me everything is fine. dont worry
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reader, duce00 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Id listen to Reina,
Furthermore, maybe you flirt with girls because its safer. Boys at your age can be a little too hormonal and immature to deal with it. Remember that girls grow and mature more quickly than boys. Its a simple fact. I guess if I was a 13 yr old girl Id be going through the same thing. Over time all your emotions and hormones will settle and you will lose your doubts about your sexual identity. For now try to relax and enjoy your youth.
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reader, kat14 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 yes this is normal i went through the same but when i was a bit older. Me and a good mate of mine even tried going out for a while. But i wasnt comfortable actually going out with her and ended it. I think everyone gets curious. I thought i was bi-sexual but i found out i wasnt. Its just a phase.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I think that everyone goes through a period where they are attracted to the same sex...im going through that right now and im 18 years old!! puberty does crazy things to our minds and all the hormones give us changing emotions! it is absolutely perfectly normal for you to be confused about your feelings but i wouldnt concentrate on labelling yourself as a lesbian or bi-sexual or anything like that!! dont put yourself into a group! just be your individual self! you may find that as you get older your attractions to other females fades away, but even if it doesnt--who cares!! dont be afraid of your feelings--dont be afraid to be yourself!!just concentrate on having fun and being a kid. you have many years to establish your feelings!! dont worry about it! as i said, im going through a bit of confusing surrounding my sexuality at the moment so if you want to chat further then dont hesitate to mail me hun!xxxxx
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Your 13, your still trying to find out who you are, where you fit in, etc, i wouldnt worry about it, just go with what you feel, and where ever you end up you will feel comfortable.
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reader, Reina +, writes (26 August 2007):
Yes it's normal to be attacted to the same sex at a young age. I do not think you are a lesbian, but even if you are bisexual, there's nothing wrong with that. You're at an age where your hormones are really starting to make you become more aware of your sexuality. When I was around your age, I had similar feelings toward females, but as I've aged those feelings simmered away. Try not to openly flirt with girls though, at least not in public because teenagers are cruel and you never really know how another girl may take that.Don't worry though! You'll be fine!
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 You are normal, my daughter came to me at 13 with the same question. You are at an age where you are curious about your body, and you may be expressing that through emotions that you don't fully understand. It's normal to be curious, but it doesn't mean in any way that you are gay. It's not abnormal to flirt. You are acting out in response to your emotions. Has someone been flirting with you? Flirting is an expression of desire to be more intimate. Flirting can become a habit and sometimes sends a stronger message than you intend. I suggest you intentionally try not to flirt, especially if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Don't come to any conclusions yet about your sexual preference, you are young and forming and yes very normal.
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