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writes:When do you know he's the right one? Or do you? I guess if you're questioning it, he probably is NOT the one? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 October 2010):
 It's important to doubt something. Otherwise, you buy into it blindly. I think that you've got to ask yourself "is he really the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with?", and spend a lot of time with that question. Listen to your heart. Rather than being with someone because they're The One, it is more like they are The One you have Chosen to be with. There are probably about 25,000 other guys out there who you could find happiness with and commit to for a lifetime.
Question everything. It is the best way to make an informed decision and feel good about the commitment you've made to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): No matter who your with, there will always be times when you ask yourself "is this person the one". Now, if your asking yourself that question because of some particular things, and depending on the seriousness of those things, or if your really just not feeling the relationship, than maybe your right. But evaluate the situation before you make a decision. He/she could be an amazing person.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 October 2010):
 This whole concept of "the one and only person you could ever love" is a little too Disney movie to be reality. You will question if it's totally right regardless of who it is. If you love someone and it feels right, then you've found something special. Just because you question it a little, so long as it's over little things rather than huge differences (i.e. you want kids, he doesn't), doesn't mean it's not a good match. What matters is if you've found someone you can just be with, someone you feel you could spend your life with.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Well for how long have you been together and is it already a long term thing?
Girls tend to do this for some reason.My Ex told in my face that she wanted to meet new people and shes having doubts after 6 years of being together.Then I said ok fine go on and find out and then after not speaking for a while she actually started telling her friends what a huge mistake that was and that it was all in front of her eyes the whole time she just didnt look or pay attention.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (8 October 2010):
Questioning it is not the best way of indicating "the right one". Some people question things to look for excuses to avoid their own insecurities. Any meaningful, long lasting relationship is made strong with hard work, trust, determination and love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): Any one can be "the one", the point of the matter is how you feel for him, do you know if you truely love "the one", can you see yourself with "the one" and staying together? Cerberus_Raphael is right though.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 You will never find just one 'the one', there are 6 billion people on this planet and probably at least a couple of million 'the one's. How do you feel about him? Do you like him enough to stay with him, can you see a future with him? Would you say that you love him? That's all important, how strongly you feel about him.
I hope that helps.
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