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writes:I met this guy Jacob at church and weve been hanging out alot, and i kinda started liking him in the beginning and thought he did too..time went by we started getting to know each other more and more and i felt he really liked me so i kind of told him that i am not sure how he felt about mne but i only want to be friends right now, and am not ready for a relationship. he said thats cool, and he said im really awesome and he isnt really looking for anything serious right now either. so we were both cool with that and were still hanging out but still felt like we liked each other, he told me i was really cool and unique and different than other girls and he said theres something about me that he really likes but he just doesnt know what it is yet. so i was like okay thats nuce :] i basucally felt that he liked me more then i liked him, so kinda was like "pushing him back." which is my fault but yah now this is the problem. you know that saying "YOU DONT KNOW HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT SOMEONE UNTIL YOU LOOSE THEM?" well thats exactly what happened with Jacob :'( We were hanging out one night with two of my friends Debra and Kyle when jacob met my friend debra that night they started talking and looked like really enjoying each others company..i got jealous and started hanging out with Kyle and they all know that Kyle likes me too. but i dont think i ever showed kyle or gave him the impression i liked him that way. hopefully not) because i dont. anyways the next day and then for 3 more days Jacob hasnt talked or texted me at all. and he usually talks to me alot. and always texts me. i got so upset, i cried for 3 days couldnt eat normally or sleep. i cried ALOT. and just didnt know what to do. today i finally told him how i felt and that im jealous of Debra. he just said i thought u didnt want a relationship? and i said i dont know if ido or not all i know is when you stopped talking to me i started hurting. and he started brining up Kyle and saying well what about kyle? i said why would u even bring him up right now? he said cuz i know he likes you, i basically told him that hes an amazing guy but i dont have those kind of feelings for him then Jacob just kinda stopped talking to me he just im going for a jog..: ( so my question is was this my fault??? for maybe pushing him away?? what do u guys think?! because now he does know that i like him....what should i do the next time i see hi? should i just not talk to him at all cuz if i see him with Debra ill get sad or should i tell him again in person?!! help me please..
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 Well he doesnt no were he stands with you, i mean you dont even no were he stands with you, after all this happened and you told him how you felt you still said to him you didnt no if you wanted a relationship with him or not, if you dont no by now then he is not going to wait around forever for you, so you need to make up your mind now wether you can see yourself with this guy in a relationship or is it just hurting you because you are jelous of him hanging around with your friend. You need to work this out in your head and if you decide that you do want a relationship with this guy then you need to be honest with him and tell him that, tell him you didnt no wat you wanted but now you do and you dont want to lose him, but if this is the decision you make, just ensure you are doing it for the right reasons and not just because you are jelous.
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