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writes:So I met a guy in a club last week, we really hit it off. He lost his phone while we were out, and so lost his friends and couldn't find them. I let him come back to my flat as I felt he was stranded (something I have never done before), we ended up having amazing sex until 7am. The next day we spent the whole day together, he asked me what was i doing for the weekend, I told him I would be working so he asked me did I want to go on a date during the week. I said yes, naturally, and so he said he would add me on facebook because of he lost his phone and we would sort out the details. He then walked me to the bus stop and waited with me. When I got home to my parents house he had already added me as a friend. I presumed he was keen and so I sent him a message the next day. This was last thursday and I have since heard NOTHING. I am just so confused, if he was just looking for a one-night stand (which i was fully expecting before) why did he ask me out?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Maybe he asked you on a date because it seemed a good idea at the time ,in the afterglow of amazing sex, with all that nice endorphines still buzzing through his brain.
After a few hours, he may have "sobered up " or just put the idea on the back burner.
Then again, no need to panic yet. He sounded keen, yes, but keen does not mean desperate to see you again; and maybe he thought that the very casual setting of your first get together allow for a certain laxity in dating etiquette- in other words, he'll call you when he'll call you. It's only up to you to decide if you are interested in this type of interaction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): no, i wasn't looking for anything more than a one-night stand really, its just more frustrating that i put myself out there and he hasn't bothered to reply! the message i sent was short just asked him what his plans were for the weekend and did he get home ok? yes, i think he has been online, feels a bit dramatic to delete him as a friend?
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reader, foolishsage  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 I'd love to contribute my input, but honestly Cerberus has it exactly right in my opinion.
Too many variables, too many possibilities & you can only control what you can control - and that's you and how you react to the situations life hands you. If he doesn't respond, then he'll be the only one ever that knows the answer to your question, but all you can do is shrug it off, roll your eyes at it and move forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Sorry to say this,but he may have been lying by saying he would take you on a date.some men do that,especially when they only want sex.they say things they dont mean.or he may have just been busy. could i ask if you know if he has been on facebook since you sent the message ? Have you seen any status updates,comments he posted etc since then ?.and do you mind me asking what you said in your message ? It might help for me to give you more advice.could i also ask if you only wanted a one night stand with him or do you want more ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Only he can tell you that I'm afraid. There's no use in speculating but it doesn't look good. Try contacting him again and see what he says.
You just don't know what has happened in his life since then, so don't automatically assume the worst. Just give it another try and see if he responds. If not delete him off facebook and see if that gets a reaction. If not then chalk it down as a one night stand and an asshole who led you on afterwards.
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reader, ilikequestions  +, writes (19 January 2011):
That is a pretty specfic event and I can understand your confusion. I say, let it go for now. Don't fret too much. If he realy likes/d you there will be future contact and explenations. In the meantime, chalk up the life experience and enjoy the good memories. If you realy have to figure it out, think of the logic. What are the reasons someone would not contact you again. A)he used you
b)he died c)he wasn't who he said he was and you should take the time to post on his wall that he is a user. (no don't do that) good luck though
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