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writes:There's been something that's been unnerving me for some time. I get told that I'm pretty, and funny, and a catch, yet I still don't get any attention from guys. I'm coming to the conclusion that those might just be pity lines thrown my way.The question I've been asking myself is am I really such a good catch, if no one even tries to talk to me? Now, I understand that I'm still a kid, at 15, and even though I am mature for myself, I'm not cose to knowing much. I know I should be patient, and put on a smile more and the right guy will come along, but with all the nice descriptions, I also get a lot of harsh ones. These come from people who don't really know me, calling me crass and a bitch, But I'm a very open minded person and don't judge too quickly. I do call people out when they're doing something wrong.Maybe I should be the one trying, and making the first move, but even in my own independant way, I'm scared of getting hurt.So, If anyone has any tips, ideas, or personal expiriences about what's going on in this situation, I would love to hear them. Please and thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, NorthByNorthwestt +, writes (19 January 2011):
NorthByNorthwestt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for answering(: It really does help a lot.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 January 2011):
 I think that most guys in high school are easily scared off by confident, more mature women. I am not saying to change this about yourself - no, you should CELEBRATE that about yourself. Exactly like LucyLee says, I think that you will be more and more appreciated as you get older. (Or, should I say, as your peers get older!)
Your confidence, ethics and attitude are very becoming and sexy - I think that guys your age just can't handle it yet. If a lot of people are calling you crass & a bitch, then maybe you can examine if you're being a little too harsh or overbearing, but most likely you are just a strong person and won't just bend to social pressures even if you know something is wrong.
You're right - the right guy WILL come along for you. Trust me, good guys are worth the wait. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, ilikequestions  +, writes (19 January 2011):
At 15 you state how mature you are, but sorry you are not. Maturity comes with age and experience. Be more patient and enjoy being a kid, or you'll miss it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Hi dear, I am turning 21 soon and like you, I feel that I am invisible to guys. I've never even been on a date before and no I am not an ogre lol. Just so you know that you are not the only one who feels like that ;)You are still young, and guys your age are mostly still immature and don't really know what they are looking for in a girl. There's no rush for you to find a boyfriend now, however continue smiling and being kind and friendly and who knows, you may end up making new friends and even catch the eye of a special someone. Meanwhile, concentrate on your studies. Don't worry about it so much! :)
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reader, cutiepiesensei +, writes (19 January 2011):
Sounds just like me in high school. Always called beautiful, but never really getting asked out. Are you sure you aren't getting attention? You might be, it just isn't who you want it to be from. Besides that, I have to give the general answer of it will eventually come. I didn't have my first REAL kiss until I was a senior in high school, and didn't have my first real boyfriend until college. Now i'm still with the guy and love him dearly. I just realized that I'm a picky person. But don't worry. In college, you will definitely find someone. As far as right now goes, just try to dress a bit nicer to draw attention (not like a whore). Maybe go to the MAC counter in the mall and get makeup done and makeup tips that you can do with cheaper products at home. People notice when you take more care of yourself than usual
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