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male
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:I'm a guy, sophomore in high school, and took this girl to the homecoming dance. I asked her the night before just kind of randomly but she agreed to go so we went out to dinner and had fun at the dance. We spent the whole time there together and we held hands a couple times. I texted her afterwards and thanked her for going and she texted back, but then after a few more short texts about random things I tried to start a conversation with her and she never replied. That was 3 days ago.I'm not sure if she likes me? Or if she wants to talk to me? I think she had fun at the dance with me, at least she said she did. And we don't have any classes together so I never see her at school. I don't know if I want to date her, but I do want to get to know her more and spend some more time with her.Any ideas on what I should do?Thanks.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 October 2016):
 Teens here tend to focus on big major events for dates. I was suggesting CHEEP dates. Generally I think movies are a poor option for early dates because you have no talking time. Netflix is a good option because you can pause the show and talk about it.
I understand the problem with substituting hanging out for dating. Hanging out is unplanned. Also at this age I suggest dating in larger groups.
Netflix and pizza alone in a bedroom would be totally inappropriate.
Waiting a week more for her to respond is just a game and a pretty ineffective one. You can have an air of mystery without being cold and distant. She responded well to random spontaneous fun. I'd stick with that angle.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 October 2016):
 I totally agree with Cindy! I don't see what's wrong with FA's advice either! He's just suggesting that you get to know her better in ways which are age appropriate for you.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (28 October 2016):
 Lol ! I feel so dumb. I did not get why Netflix and pizza would be totally inappropriate, but most of all , why WiseOwlE is the one who can explain.
Anyway, FWIW, I think Fatherly Advice just meant, more or less, that if you want to get to know a person you need to see her , and go out with her , and do stuff together... not just text. Texting is just a way to communicate things, not a valid substitution for an IRL, in depth , relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2016): Did Fatherly Advice just suggest Netflix and chill ? Need to get WisEowl to explain why that's entirely NOT appropriate in this case, Try letting it go for another week, no contact, no luck!
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reader, Flabby Thighs  +, writes (27 October 2016):
Just ask her if she wants to hang out. If she makes a crap excuse then she's not interested.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 October 2016):
I know this is going to sound very weird to you. But if you want to get to know her better, go out on dates with her. and not to big school events. Play Frisbee in the park with friends. Share a Pizza and Netflix. Things like that.
Also find out what clubs and hobbies she has. Get involved in things she likes. Invite her to things you like.
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