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*harmmyKitty
writes:I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, and we're not serious yet, but I think we're headed in that direction. He's really starting to grow on me, and I think he's feeling the same way. But the thing is, he's going to be leaving to go to university in another state in 2 months time.I know that the general opinion on long distance relationships is that they NEVER work out, so I'm starting to wonder if I should just jump ship before I get too close to him, and have it hurt that much more in a couple months.I brought this up to him the other night, and he told me that he didn't think it was that far, but kind of gave me a "we'll cross that bridge when we get to it" attitude. It makes sense, but I'm just so afraid of getting hurt, especially if I end up liking his as much as I think I'm going to.So I'm wondering if anyone has opinions/experiences with long distance relationships (sucessful or not) that might help me decide if it's even worth continuing. Thanks...
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reader, all i need +, writes (5 May 2008):
ooo.. i happen to dissagree. i seem to be a product of long distance relationships. every guy ive ever dated has lived at least an hour away ( a big plus if it doesnt work out) and actually the guy im dating now lives an hour away and the relationship is great!!!!... now with you it is it is different because this guy is moving away, and so soon, but what you really need to ask yourself if all the love would be worth the pain... even if it doesnt work.... who knows maybe this guy is "the one".. you never know.. good luck!!!
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reader, binhquangdao +, writes (5 May 2008):
 my true thoughts on it don't even try, break it off and preserve whatever feelings you have for him and later on in life you guys were meant to be it will come back. Save yourself the heartache and let it go. LD is too hard to maintain especially in today society.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2008):
 Well, long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, both people have to be committed to making them work. It sounds to me like you've got a good start on a nice relationship, but that the timing may be working a bit against you, as he'll be going off to school soon.
I guess it depends on how interested he is in committing to the relationship, but I think it might be difficult to do. He'll be meeting new people, learning more about himself and dealing with all the pressures of university. It might be a bit unfair on him to lay a heavy commitment burden on him right at the moment. I hate it when the timing is bad, but this may be a case of right guy, wrong time... Nothing against him or you, just that you're on two different paths at the moment.
My suggestion is to keep the friendship going, you can keep in touch and see him as often as you can.
My long distance relationship worked, by the way, but we were both older, both working, and both had had previous experience with dating and relationships... So it IS possible!
All the best.
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reader, JesseENG +, writes (5 May 2008):
personally i found that they dont work. it was hard for me to accept it though because i really loved the girl, truely and honestly. She loved me too, but she had a hard time being faithful. I say sometimes they can work out, but it will require a lot of work on both your parts. just my two centsgood luck
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (5 May 2008):
I think they can work but they dont always. It comes down to the individual situation as many different factors play a role in the outcome. For example, exactly how far will you two be apart? How often will you get to see each other? You have to ask yourself what you want from a relationship and your bf has to do the same. Then look at whether or not those needs will be able to be met from a LD relationship.
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