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*ainbowlady
writes:I hope you can help!I woke up the other night to find by boyfriend having sex with me. He said that i had touched him and he thought I wanted sex.I feel used and hurt.Was this rape or am I being stupid? Reply to this Question
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reader, rainbowlady +, writes (9 August 2009):
rainbowlady is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to say thank you to everyone who gave an answer to my problem.
I have talked to my boyfriend and he has agreed to make sure that I am fully awake next time!
He said he was sorry for making me feel bad.
Thanks again
xx
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reader, Knight_in_White_Satin +, writes (9 August 2009):
 simple answer is no, it's not unless he didn't stop once you told him to.
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reader, simply.megan  +, writes (9 August 2009):
You got some of the best answers up there! Talk to him and be open and honest letting him know how you feel... You'll be ok girl, just don't dread over a misunderstanding. And since they said it all already, all I gota say is 'lucky!' Lol :). (lighten up the mood 4 ya )
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reader, busy04 +, writes (9 August 2009):
 It very possible for you have to touched him or brushed against him in your sleep and that is a huge turn on for some men (and women). And he may very have thought that you were hinting to sex, I don't think it's rape, you just really need to talk to your boyfriend let him know how you feel. I'm pretty sure he didn't mean you any harm...talk to him, he'll understand.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Sounds like a misunderstanding to me. I definitely do not think that he raped you, that's a big, nasty word!! But, I don't think you're stupid for feeling skeeved out. Maybe in your sleep you did touch him, and he thought that you were feeling frisky and he wanted to wake you in a special way... if a girl wakes up a guy like that, they go crazy! Or, perhaps he thought you were semi-awake.
Either way, if your relationship is otherwise good and you're already sexually active, I would just tell him that that's not really a turn on for you and that it just creeps you out. I'm sure he'll understand. Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, Felisha Marie +, writes (9 August 2009):
 I dont believe this may be rape, but how close are you to this boyfriend, how long have ya'll been in a relationship. It could have been considered a 'sensual' way to wake you up. Have you taled about this with him really. Exressed your discomfort with this action form him, and told him not to do it again because it made you feel this way? I think talking about it with him and explaining how you feel and hearing his side more would help. But if anything unusual continues it may be wise to leave and save yourself from further actions that may actually turn into rape.
Take care, sending blessings your way.
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