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writes:This is not really a question about relationships or anything but I am only 13 and I want to travel the world and be on my own but my parents won't even let me walk around by myself! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Read the papers and you will understand why your parents would not want you to walk around by yourself let alone allow you to travel the world.There is too much violence in the outside world. People being mugged, battered, killed , raped and kidnapped and sold into white slavery.It is a dangerous world.You are still too young to understand and take care of your own self. Listen to your parents , study hard and enjoy your youths before you enter the adult world.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 February 2010):
 What should you do? Save up now!! Start saving money for the biggest, baddest, most amazing trip EVER for after you graduate and can go travel the universe. Right now your job is to learn, get good grades, make good friends a toughen up for a lifetime of independence. If you really want to impress your parents (and do a little sumthinsumthin for yourself), sign up for self-defense courses. That way your parents can feel better about you being on your own. If you can hold your own, that will help you be on your own in the future.
I think it's great that you want to explore the world. And eventually, you'll be able to. Your parents are just doing their job and protecting you the best way they can. So secure yourself that dream of travel and start saving and preparing yourself for an awesome adventure when you're old enough to do so... and until then, hold tight. You're young, but you're getting older everyday!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 First you have to put a little bit more of your age, because 13 is just starting to get into the door of puberty. dont hurry sweety you will get there in next 10 years. 2nd you have to prove and show to your parents that you are responsible person that they dont need to worry so much about you. Because if they dont love you they will not care wherever you wanna go. But since they love you so, so much its normal specially the mother to worry about her young lady.Another thing is: i want you to know that every teenage boy or girl but most of the time the girl, when they are starting the puvirty they really really hate their parents specially their mother's, they wanna scape, they want to run away. The feelings of being in the puvirty they always wanna prove to their parents that God knows eveything but they know more better. and in that moment if they cant control this emotion, sometimes 1 step mistake cost their whole life bad faith. Honey dont get me wrong someday you will be a mother too, what your parents is doing to you now, you will do it too to your children. So please, have a little patient, enjoy the this moment of your age.. you are not alone, all of us get through to this teenage time.I wish you a very good day.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 February 2010):
Simply put, you're too young. When you're an adult, and you have the money and a good education, go for it. Have patience.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (26 February 2010):
 Well you are very young so maybe you should listen to them - after all they are looking out for your safety and well-being.
Of course you can travel the world, but that is only something you can do once you are older because you need lots of money, maturity and lots of common sense to be able to look after yourself in a foreign country where you dont know the people or the culture.
For now you should just make your plans for travelling the world - think about where you want to go, research about the countries you want to visit, figure out how much money you are going to need, think about what sort of job you can get when you are old enough to start making some money....planning is actually lots of fun and very exciting because you are organizing your dream trip! When you get to 18 your parents cannot stop you from doing what you want, after all you will be an adult so you can do as you please. But in the mean time show them how mature you are by planning your trip - this will show them that you have thought about every eventuality and are taking responsibility for your own trip.
Parents unfortunately are controlling and some are more strict than others, but at the end of the day they have your best interests at heart and just want you to be happy. You might think you can only be happy when they let you live your life - but it simply is not safe for you to do that aged 13 and you still rely on your parents for a lot of things - so until you can take care of yourself then unfortunately you will just have to put up with them!
I remember when I was your age I used to hate my parents, especially because I thought my mum was trying to control my life and not let me do anything I wanted to do. But now I am 22 I get on with my parents really well, and I can see that all they wanted was to keep me out of harms way and make sure I had a good childhood, rather than a scary one filled with danger and trouble. They were right in the end, and I have turned out pretty good I think!
What you are feeling is normal for a teenager, everyone hates their parents at some point and feels they are restricting them. But they are only doing what is best for you - I promise. So try and understand their point of view - and prove to them that actually you are mature and sensible by not reacting badly when they tell you that you cant do something, and prove to them you are able to see the bigger picture and make plans for your future, rather than acting like a child by getting upset when they tell you that you cant do something.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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